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Why NOT Communicating is Holding You Back

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Why NOT Communicating is Holding You Back

Communication holds the key to solutions to a lot of problems. In hindsight, it seems like such a simple thing to have done, but before and during putting yourself out there, it doesn’t seem that simple. There are many reasons to not want to communicate.

When you think about it, communication is one of the first skills we learn. We have been talking and conveying our thoughts for our whole lives, yet, it becomes harder to effectively communicate as we grow up.

“Communication – the human connection – is the key to personal and career success.”

-Paul J. Meyer

Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said – important things are often lost and actual thoughts forgotten. The fear – of miscommunication, of saying something other than what you want to, of offending someone, of uncountable things – stops people from even trying to put their ideas across. Lack of communication can cause a lot of problems not only in your personal life but your professional life as well.

Why NOT Communicating is Holding You Back

Have you ever wanted to go and tell someone that you really like her/him, but not done so because you were too afraid of rejection and the humiliation afterward? Have you ever wanted to let your parents know that engineering is not what you wanted to do in life, but poetry and writing? Have you ever wished you told your mother how much she meant to you? All of these are common areas of communication gaps in people’s personal lives.

“You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can’t get them across, your ideas won’t get you anywhere.”

-Lee Iacocca

Have you ever wanted to tell your boss or a superior where he/she was going wrong? Have you ever wanted to pitch in a new idea to your teammates but could never gather courage? Have you ever wanted to say ‘no’ to the colleague who keeps on dumping extra work on you, but didn’t to avoid a confrontation? All of these are common struggles in people’s professional lives, where communication is the answer.

Why NOT Communicating is Holding You Back

Sometimes we simply keep quiet to avoid awkward complicated conversations aka confrontations. But silence is regarded as approval and people take it as affirmation if you don’t spell out the negative. You may think staying silent would keep you away from conflicts – many people tend to avoid conflicts and confrontations – but silence is a way of agreeing to the situation even if you disapprove of it otherwise. 

The worst-case scenario, if you say what you want to say, maybe, someone not agreeing with you, but at least you were honest about your opinions and the other person is aware that you have an issue. Often times, we create long term problems by avoiding short term awkwardness. We treat it as flight or fight and often fail to choose fight. It is essential to put ourselves out there if we want to be heard.

“Communicate unto the other person that which you would want him to communicate unto you if your positions were reversed.”

-Aaron Goldman

You can’t always wait for people to read your mind and try to guess your feelings – trust me, no one is a mind reader and in professional space, nobody has the time – you need to speak up. If you don’t gather the courage and confidence to speak, there are high chances of you missing important opportunities and ending up on the wrong path. Many people are stuck in their situation because they can’t gather the courage to speak their minds – it can be a toxic relationship or a toxic job.

Why NOT Communicating is Holding You Back

At the same time, being outspoken doesn’t mean your words need to tear down someone’s heart – be kind with your words. You need to be understanding and empathetic, especially if it is a sensitive topic. Use your words to connect with the person you are talking to. If you are telling someone their mistakes, make sure you also mention their positive traits – this is a great way to say something difficult without both the parties feeling bad about it. 

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.”

-Tony Robbins

As much as clarity and confidence are required when putting across your views, you should also remain calm. Mind you, calm, not quiet. Instead of getting aggressive when someone is yelling at you, you should stay composed and explain yourself calmly – everyone yelling is not going to get anyone anywhere.  There’s real power in being the voice of reason in tough situations.

Sometimes, we feel that we should wait for the right time before we say something to someone – especially in personal life – what we forget is that there is never the right time. This is just us making excuses to get out of a pickle. You never know what happens next – waiting for the right time might make you too late to the party. You never think or know that the last time is the last time. You think there will be more opportunities to convey your message. You think you have forever, but you don’t. 

All of these thoughts are just excuses that we keep giving ourselves because we fear our feelings won’t be accepted properly, we fear rejection. Fear breaks relationships, and wastes opportunities. Substitute that fear with courage. That is how you grow. 

Why NOT Communicating is Holding You Back

Say what you want to say, not what people want to hear. Speak your mind out.  This will help you in the long run, because then you won’t be stuck doing what you don’t want to, and your mind won’t be filled with what-ifs.

While communicating is necessary, communicating correctly is as important. There are many things that we get wrong because of being nervous while speaking. Come back tomorrow to learn about common communication mistakes that we make and why. 

“Precision of communication is important, more important than ever, in our era of hair-trigger balances, when a false or misunderstood word may create as much disaster as a sudden thoughtless act.”

-James Thurber

Mindfulness

Why Do Animals Make Better Friends Than Humans?

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Animals are the pure, raw souls that need little to be genuinely happy. In a world continually chasing after materialistic bliss and happiness, your furry friends find fulfillment in a bit of touch, a bit of affection, and a dollop of kindness. 

There are no layers or hidden agendas, it’s just a beautiful bond of simplicity, or as popularly known as love. Somehow, for this generation, the meaning of the word love has been lost in translation. We are always after something, something better, something newer. 

Our fast-paced approach has derailed basic human emotions and its purity. Friendships for many people is less of a bond, and more of an unsigned “give and take” policy. However, if you look into your dog’s crystal-clear eyes, nothing but love and deep affection reflect back. 

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That’s the beauty of building relations with animals; they want nothing but some warmth and your time. It’s a sense of fulfillment that makes you believe that being you is enough, along with an odd satisfying sense of acceptance when your four-legged buddy comes running up like there is no tomorrow.

Like a true friend, they listen to you and give you comfort in the most unprecedented ways. We may not share the same language, but some words can be understood even when unspoken. 

We all look for hope and belief to be alive. Sometimes, it just needs a kind pair of eyes to stare at you with honest attention, without any judgment, to find that hope. I also believe honesty is a magically powerful language found in abundance in our furry friends.

But this is not only about pets; all animals in this world have something profound to offer. Their sense of affection, love, and gratitude is like a lighthouse in a deep dark sea. 

All around the globe, you can find various instances of animals and their bonds with fellow humans developing in unimaginable ways, simply because of their beautiful, unspoiled souls. They are more precious than us, I think, by being able to portray love in the most natural and pure way. 

If you have found it, always hold on to this feeling, because it is fulfilling and heart-touching to witness true love in their eyes, and eyes are thought to be the window of souls. At the end of the day, we are lucky to share this world with them, because they truly teach us how to be loved in this crazy, big world. 

So try to do your part to save them and provide for them, because your act of kindness can go a long way!

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Mindfulness

The Impact of Deep Melody

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Music is a form of art that has the power to touch your soul. Through this universal language, countless emotions have been depicted over the ages. The human mind grasps music differently under different circumstances. Even the same tune can be interpreted variedly from person to person. 

From Beethoven to Bach, Mozart to Yo Yo Ma, Einaudi to Mischka, the depth of soulful music is beyond the power of perception. The music created by these artists resonates deep within our souls through every note, every beat. 

If you close your eyes and listen to Yo Yo Ma’s rendition of the Prelude, irrespective of your mood, you will get absorbed into a moment of tranquil hard to describe in words. Or take, for example, Einaudi’s composition called “Waterways,” the sense of a pristine aura that lasts long after he finishes the piece, is simply beautiful.

Every note, chord, and tune affects your brain in a way you can’t even imagine. So here, we will try to explore some of the powers of music and the impacts of deep melodies.

Memory 

Since the 20th century numerous studies have been conducted to research the power of music over memory functioning of the human brain. Certain music can take your mind back decades in an instant. 

In a study conducted with dementia patients, it was found that music improves general well being, mood, orientation, and episodic memory recalls. It was shown to have an overall positive effect on life.

Stress Relief

Music can lower the cortisol levels in your body and can alleviate the symptoms of stress. 

According to the American Psychological Society, “In a trial conducted by University of Alberta, with 42 children aged between 3-11, it was found that while getting an IV inserted, patients who listened to relaxing music reported significantly less pain, and some demonstrated significantly less distress, compared with patients who did not listen to music.”

Alleviation of Pain 

Martin Luther King had famously said, “My heart, which is so full to overflowing, has often been solaced and refreshed by music when sick and weary.”

This statement, in fact, is quite true to an extent, as researchers now believe that listening to music triggers the release of opioids in our body. The same chemical comes into action when the body is in pain, acting as a natural antidote.  

Seizures

Christine Charyton, of the Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center, said that “Persons with epilepsy synchronize before a seizure. By listening to music, many patients reported that they felt relaxed.” 

Concluding Words

Music has the power to heal. It reaches the deepest corners of our soul and affects us in unprecedented ways. However, the depth of melody is without any boundaries of prefixed notes and scales. It is an eternal journey of understanding and perception beyond our senses.

“Music… will help dissolve your perplexities and purify your character and sensibilities, and in time of care and sorrow, will keep a fountain of joy alive in you.” ― Dietrich Bonhoeffer

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4 Benefits of Doing Yoga Regularly

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Yoga is an excellent place to start a healthy lifestyle if your life has been quite a bit sedentary for some time. Even with health conditions like arthritis or osteoporosis, you can safely practice Yoga. With multiple types and forms of Yoga to choose from, you have the freedom to practice whatever suits you. Regular Yoga can help you become more robust and flexible by making it easier for you to do other exercises like dancing, walking, or swimming.

Moreover, it is also a great way to stay energetic and flexible. Your general alertness increases, and there is also a profound positive impact on mental health with Yoga. 

With regular practice, you will gradually notice overall well-being and a deep sense of inner peace. Yoga frees you of all the worry, stress, anxiety that bogs you down and lets you proceed towards a more holistic and spiritually fulfilling self-development.

Let’s take a look at four of the obvious benefits that come from practicing Yoga.

Cardiovascular

  • Improves poor blood circulation
  • Reduces high blood pressure
  • Reduces oxidative stress
  • Reduces body-wide inflammation, contributing to healthier hearts

Orthopedic

  • Improves mobility in people with lower back pain
  • Reduces risk for injury
  • Allows better coping with arthritis
  • Can slow down the advent of osteoporosis
  • Improves the condition of people with limited mobility

Stress-Anxiety-Depression

  • Reduces headaches
  • Helps you to have better control over tension or stress
  • Reduces anxiety levels and depression
  • Can help you get better sleep, improves insomnia
  • Relaxes your body
  • Increases overall mental and physical stability

Lung

  • Improves breathing patterns
  • Increases lung capacity
  • Improves lung output and pulse rates
  • Helps people with asthma, to control definitive symptoms

Final Comments

Yoga is an excellent way to heal your body, both physically and mentally. It allows you to have the perfect blend of de-stressing and exercise in a simple yet effective way.

A healthy body makes a healthy mind. Regular Yoga can help you achieve health and fitness. Moreover, daily practice brings in more discipline to your everyday life. Especially during these testing times of the COVID-19 pandemic, when we are all trapped in our homes, a regular fitness regime that is easy to follow is especially necessary.

The best part is that Yoga is trendy, and you can always find guidelines for the correct postures. With many materials and videos available online, you can start your fulfilling Yoga journey any moment you wish. So what’s stopping you today?

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