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7 Tips to Recreate Your Life In 3 Months and Change Your Destiny

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7 Tips to Recreate Your Life In 3 Months and Change Your Destiny

Do you feel disappointed by a lack of achievement in your life? If so, it is time to start looking at your daily habits and choices, and start working on it. Most people are unable to do anything great in life not because they don’t have the talent for it, but because their behavior and mindset tend to pull them back into an average existence. 

Today, we will look at a few tips which can help you overcome these negative tendencies while developing new habits that will recreate your life in as little as three months. 

1. Sleep and Wake Up Early

7 Tips to Recreate Your Life In 3 Months and Change Your Destiny

The first habit you have to cultivate is to sleep and wake up early. Unfortunately, today’s culture is more focused on sleeping late and rising early, which essentially means that you won’t get a good enough sleep that your body demands. A few others sleep and wake up late, which is even worse. In order to be successful, you have to make it a habit to wake up early, preferably around 5:30 AM to 6 AM in the morning. This gives you a head start and you can accomplish a lot by 9am, which is when most people start their day.

Anything later than that is not recommended. You can use the initial hours for exercise, meditation, writing, and planning, that will help you remain active and focused all day long. You will also be in a better mood and will feel less irritated, which will result in better decisions at work or in personal life.

2. Set Goals

7 Tips to Recreate Your Life In 3 Months and Change Your Destiny

Just as driving your car without knowing the right destination only leads to waste of time and fuel, living your life without knowing exactly what you want to achieve will only result in wasting time and energy. Time is precious – you may believe you have enough especially if you’re young; but in fact, you do not. If you want to change your destiny, you must be sure of two things – where you currently are, and where you want to be. 

Knowing your current position in all honesty will help you understand your capabilities, potentials, and limitations. And once you understand them, you can set up specific goals as to the things you wish to achieve. For example, when you analyze yourself, you might realize that you are very good at presenting ideas and concepts. As such, you may come up with an idea of starting a YouTube channel where you can teach viewers about some cool concepts. Writing down your goals gives you the extra motivation to go after them.

3. Schedule Tasks

7 Tips to Recreate Your Life In 3 Months and Change Your Destiny

If you have a habit of taking up a bunch of tasks and finishing them up randomly as you wish, then you should start developing a more systematic approach. Try to schedule your tasks and finish them based on priority. This will not only help save time, but you can also use the extra time for other constructive purposes. 

For example, suppose that you have to finish up a work report by the weekend. But in the meantime, you also want to binge watch your favorite TV show and also visit the nearby trade fair. Now, of all these three activities, finishing the work report is of paramount importance. So, make sure to complete it first. 

Then, you can visit the fair since it might be there only for a few more days. Finally, you can watch the show if you have any time left. Try to develop this habit of categorizing and scheduling tasks, and you will soon see that your personal and professional life becomes much easier.

4. Be in Good Company

7 Tips to Recreate Your Life In 3 Months and Change Your Destiny

Start developing a wide range of friendships which can benefit you mentally and psychologically. The psychological development of a person is not only affected by how they think but also by how the people they associate with think. Someone who is constantly in a group where everyone indulges in partying and spends less time studying is very likely to adopt similar behaviors. 

Likewise, someone whose peers give importance to studying over partying will also see their own drive to study increase. After all, it is normal for people to want to do exactly what their friends do. Even in older ages. And this is why the company you keep is important. Try to spend time with people who are ambitious, driven, and are dreamers who aim to do something productive with their lives. Over time, you will see that your drive to achieve something will also be higher.

5. Acquire Knowledge

7 Tips to Recreate Your Life In 3 Months and Change Your Destiny

One of the cornerstones of success is the acquisition of knowledge. Look at every successful person in the world, and you will see that they have a large knowledge base about many things and a thirst for more. Their knowledge is not just limited to a particular field of expertise, but stretches into other areas as well. 

Acquiring knowledge helps broaden your viewpoint of the world, making you think differently. So, start learning about new things from today onwards. Look at subject matters that are hot today and are expected to trend in the future, and begin learning as much as you can about it.

6. Be More Social

7 Tips to Recreate Your Life In 3 Months and Change Your Destiny

If you are the type of person who feels comfortable being by yourself rather than with others, then you need to work on your social skills. Go out and start interacting with people more. Until you do this, your perception of the world will remain skewed and will remain colored by your prejudices. 

Inevitably, such a person will have a hard time trying to progress in life since people generally tend to associate with those who have a wide social circle than those who keep to themselves. And this will hurt your growth prospects, both at a personal and professional level.

7. Finances

7 Tips to Recreate Your Life In 3 Months and Change Your Destiny

Finally, be sure to manage your finances in a way that you are never in debt. When you get into debt, your entire life will revolve around paying off the debts, which essentially will block you from exploring life fully. So, always create a monthly budget as to how much money you can afford to spend, and make sure you keep your monthly expenses within those limitations. 

And if you do have debt, then create a plan on how to pay it off in full while restraining yourself from taking on any additional debt. When you eventually become debt-free, you will realize that your life changes – you will have the confidence to try out new things.

Final Thoughts

Changing your destiny or the direction that your life is heading is completely in your hands. When you decide to take the wheels of your life, you make changes for a smooth ride, and these changes are what help you recreate your life the way you want it to be.

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Pomodoro Technique for Time Management

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In the 1980s Francesco Cirillo developed the Pomodoro technique to get more studying done while he was in university. He named the method after his timer clock shaped like a tomato (Pomodoro is Italian for tomato). 

This technique caught on quickly and became popular because of how easy it is for anyone to implement and get started. All you need is a simple timer to get started on having undistracted, focused bursts of energy. 

This time management technique combines intense short sessions of focused work with short breaks to avoid getting mentally saturated.

Is Pomodoro for me?

If you’re the kind of person who finds themselves distracted during a workday even though you have the best of intentions to do work, you’re probably going to benefit from Pomodoro. 

You may also be experiencing some of these roadblocks:

  • You have trouble focusing. Even if you sit down at your workstation, fully equipped with everything you need, you end up getting distracted in a few minutes. Next thing you know, one youtube video led to fifty, and it’s been two hours of unproductivity.
  • You feel a lack of motivation to start. You know from past experiences that you end up getting in the flow and actually enjoying yourself every time you do start. However, starting seems to be the most challenging part. You can spend a vast majority of the day just postponing starting your work. 
  • Have trouble being realistic with goals. If you keep taking on endless tasks and spend all your time updating your to-do list and barely completing 10% of this list every day: your problem might be that you take on too much work responsibilities or don’t know how to assign work for the day. 
  • You tend to work too hard, getting enthusiastic about your work and spending hours together until you feel burned out (headache, eyes hurt) and have to take an extended break to recover. Your motivation also tends to run out at this point of burnout, it feels like your brain just doesn’t work anymore!
  • You quickly get emotionally overwhelmed. Do you start your work on a positive note and then glance at the sheer volume of work you’re supposed to do and just crumble? Work is emotionally taxing, and you always feel there’s too much of it. 
  • Have work to do that is a daily process. Whether it’s your day job, learning a new language or a passion project, lots of work needs to be done every day, and just can’t be put off for the last day to ‘cram’. You feel the lack of a daily system that forces you to get a daily input in. 

The Pomodoro technique can help people facing all of these issues because it gives you a reliable system to fall back on when work can feel overwhelming, you have trouble focusing or lack the motivation to get started on your own. 

What is the Pomodoro technique?

When Cirillo, the founder of this technique, struggled with work and assignments, he began to challenge himself to just focus for around ten minutes, and then take a break. He then tweaked the numbers and found the most effective (for him!) to be a 25-minute work session, immediately followed by a 5-minute break. 

All you need to do is to procure a timer. You can also use your inbuilt phone timer, but it’s suggested that you keep your phone switched off or on airplane mode. There are plenty of Pomodoro apps available that will alert you when your work session time is up as long as you enable notifications. I use this nifty website for my Pomodoro work sessions! (In fact, I’m using it right now to write this article!) 

  1. Set the timer for 25 minutes. This is going to be your work session. Once you start working, try your best to stay focused. If for any reason you get distracted, stop the clock and take a five-minute break. After your break, re-start your work session and begin again. 
  1. Make sure you have everything you need. If it’s the right time of day, a cup of coffee or drink to sip on, water, your laptop charger. The aim is to limit the times you have to get up for any reason. 
  1. Keep a blank notepad and pen next to you. You could also open a Note taking app on your phone or computer, but since devices can be distracting, it’s better to opt for the paper and pen.
    Every time you get distracted and break your work session, make a note of what distracted you, whether it was a physical sensation, a social media notification or someone else interrupting your workflow. Noting down the nature of distraction does two things: you acknowledge the distraction, and your brain registers it. You also can reflect later on how to avoid these distractions in the future.

    What often happens when we begin working is random thoughts and things to do come to our head. They can even be essential things, such as realising you didn’t take out the trash today or forgot to brush your teeth. It could be more benign, as you suddenly think about a cool music video you want to watch. Whatever the thought is, write it down on the paper so that you can get to it later. You’ll also experience a sense of relief that you’ve dealt with the thought. 
  1. Take your break! Ensure that you don’t stay at your workplace, try getting up and walking around the house, or getting a stretch done. Don’t make it more difficult for yourself by checking your phone, we all know it’s a trap! We suggest sticking to the Pomodoro clock even if you’re in the flow of working. A five-minute break will rarely ever break your flow, and it will usually refresh you and increase the chances of another uninterrupted 25-minute session. This is your time to refill your water, use the bathroom, or call back a missed call (only to tell them you’re busy!)
  1. If someone calls you during your work session, follow Cirillo’s advice and don’t ignore them. It will only cause more anxiety that you have something to deal with later. Let them know this isn’t a good time, offer to call them later in the day and make a note to call them after you’re done with your sessions!
  1. After you’ve done four Pomodoros, take a much longer break of 15-20 minutes. This will help you feel refreshed and avoid burnout. You can indulge in a light activity this time, maybe eat a snack or step outside for a short walk. You can even reward yourself by listening to your favourite song. Congratulate yourself on completing 100 minutes of focused work!

Tasks and Prioritization

While the Pomodoro technique closely deals with time management, it’s also integral to having proper goal setting and planning involved. If you made an extremely rigorous to-do list for yourself, even ten undisturbed work sessions wouldn’t be enough, and you’d be disheartened. 

Make sure that you prioritize important tasks over the unnecessary ones. An excellent way to do this is to first write down all the important tasks that you want to accomplish in the day, in any order. 

Then close your eyes and envision which one of the tasks is the one that will give you the most anxiety if you don’t complete today. 

Usually, the most important tasks are also the ones that give us the most anxiety. That’s why it’s the easiest to identify them because we’re usually trying to avoid or put off working on them. 

I found myself in an odd unproductive rut recently. Every time I sat down to do an important task, I would complete the other small, unimportant tasks on my to-do list. For example, if I had an important work project, I would put that off and clean my house instead. This way, I could tell myself at the end of the day that at least I did something good and useful instead of watching T.V. 

Don’t let yourself put off the important and uncomfortable tasks with less important and less uncomfortable ones. At the end of the day, if you ignored your work project by cleaning the house or watching T.V, it’s still unproductivity!

Why Pomodoro works

The Pomodoro technique makes it easier for you to just start. Rather than getting overwhelmed with the workload, it helps you motivate yourself by just starting with 25 minutes. If you think your focus is difficult to train, start out work sessions with 15 minutes instead. Either way, the technique is nothing but a template to hack your own time management!

Telling yourself sternly not to get distracted doesn’t always work. You start to do something, and then the distraction pops up. You think it’ll only take a minute, but it usually takes longer than that. Having a designated ‘Distraction Sheet’ where you note them down and a designated five-minute break to complete those desires enables you to continue concentrating. 

Good luck!

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Why Too Many Self Help Books are Bad for You

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Since you’re reading this article on this blog, you probably have a keen interest in self-betterment. You’re the kind of person who has a constant hunger to grow, develop personality and achieve great things. You probably have a full shelf of self-help books at home, and reach for a new one in airport book stores. 

Let’s take a moment to congratulate yourself on this. Not many people, definitely not the vast majority of people are genuinely interested in self-growth. However, like any good thing in life, there is a flip-side to immersing yourself in self-help content. It can severely impact the way you see yourself, and the world around you; sometimes for the worse.

The Heroes

It’s fairly common to read a self-help book and start valorising the writer. The requisite to write a self-help book or a how-to guide is often being successful first so that you then have the ‘right’ to preach to other people. That’s why many “successful people” write memoirs or how-to guides to spill their secrets and let others know how they made it. 

A byproduct of this is the audience begins to automatically consume everything that the writer tells them as the gospel truth. We don’t doubt the credibility of someone who’s made it big. We don’t ask for much scientific backing when these successful persons tell us their life story: one anecdote is enough. 

Of course, in any field of scientific research, a single anecdote is never considered to be scientific evidence alone. This is simply because one person can never be an unbiased narrator of their own experiences. We can’t weigh their words against those of others; verify their methods with a control group. 

This is not to suggest that all writers of self-help books are getting away with lying or false information just because no one’s cross-checking (although that could be the occasional case). 

The few people who are successful in their fields and occupy positions in the public sphere undoubtedly have more experience than you and me. However, even they cannot hundred per cent explain the reasons for their success. It is generally a number of factors that act together, right connections, right timing, right pre-dispositions combined with the person’s efforts that bring them success. 

For example, if a successful entrepreneur writes about how he built his own business empire, he could give you 10 methods, or tips and tricks that he followed to stay motivated and increase his productivity. What he cannot guarantee is that this will work for everyone. He also cannot guarantee that those 10 exact methods are what caused his success.

There are many self-help books that are abundant with real-life examples, scientific studies, and academic research. These are also, coincidentally the type of books where the author relies less on his own experience as the source of his advice. These are not just more useful books to read, they also are much more informative and entertaining than their monologue counterparts. 

Survivorship Bias

One of the other side effects of surrounding yourself with lots of self-help content is that you become prey to the survivorship bias. This means that you continually consume stories and experiences of many people that have succeeded. Once we start following ‘successes’, we begin to see them everywhere. 

Social media has a hand to play in this as well. Popular social media platforms have algorithms that create echo-chambers where you only see the kind of content that you like. So if you’re only reading about positive and uplifting self-betterment content, chances are you never come across stories about failures. 

This can make you feel that there is an enormous amount of people that are succeeding and doing what you want to do. The spotlight is on the 1%, while ignoring the other 99% in the shadow. 

You might wonder why this is a problem. Isn’t focusing on the positive success stories making it more likely that you will also be successful yourself?

Surprisingly, it’s not. It can be the real reason why it’s so hard to succeed, because you can follow all the hacks, tips and tricks, and methods that you read in self-help books and still have unique challenges to overcome. This is because you’re ignoring the data from the vast masses of people that tried the very same methods and failed. 

You must be thinking: well, I should be focusing on failure stories? That’s depressing!

No, you don’t! For one, they are difficult to find. Simply knowing the information about how often someone succeeds to the level that you want to can be your tool. 

For example, if you want to become a best-selling author, you should know that simply getting published has a 1% success rate while a best-selling author is probably closer to 0.001%.

This is not to discourage you from chasing your dreams, but only to help you bring a dose of reality into your pursuit of success. 

Final Words

Knowing that the advice you read in a self-help book is from a person part of the 1% rather than the 99% can stop you from being frustrated. Many people follow the methods and techniques suggested in these books and then expect instant success. 

So if you’re waking up at 5 AM for three months in a row now, and wondering why you’re not a millionaire yet: the story was never that simple! 

Congratulations to your brand new good habit, and pursuit of self-betterment, but know that there is a long way to go before we discover a complete formula for success

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Which of These 9 Types Of Intelligent Are You?

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When we talk about intelligence, most of the time it’s on linear terms. Either someone is intelligent or they aren’t. 

What some people refer to when they talk about intelligence, is academic prowess. “She’s very intelligent, always at the top of her class.” Other times, they refer to quick-mindedness or wit. “He always has a response to everything, quite an intelligent man!” 

There is no general consensus on what intelligence actually refers to. Then comes along the question of origin. Where does intelligence come from? Is it genetic; are you born with it? Or do you become intelligent because of your circumstances, such as going to a good school?

Psychology answers these questions in a few different theories. My favorite one is by the American developmental psychologist Howard Gardner. It’s called the Multiple Intelligence Theory. Gardner talks about how multifaceted intelligence really is, and how it interplays with what we consider to be ‘talents’.

Gardner introduced 9 types of intelligence. Most people have all types of intelligence in them, but at varying degrees. That means you’ll have some amount of intellectual capacity of all 9 types, but may be strongest in only one or two. 

You can do a quiz to find out which type of intelligence you are, and then come back here and read up about your type of intelligence.

Let’s find out about the different types! 

Understanding your type of intelligence can greatly help in self-awareness of your strengths and weaknesses and also with career choice!

Visual-Spatial Intelligence

People strong in visual-spatial intelligence are great with visualizing concepts. They also tend to have a good sense of direction. 

Architects, Artists, and Navigators score high on Visual-Spatial Intelligence

Linguistic-Verbal Intelligence

People with this kind of intelligence have an affinity for words. They’re able to use language effectively for communication and tend to be comfortable with the written and spoken word.

Teachers, Writers, Lawyers are all high on Linguistic-Verbal Intelligence

Logical-Mathematical Intelligence

You have strong Logical-Mathematical Intelligence if you’re great at handling logical operations and have always been good at Math! These individuals have a strong analytical brain and are great at problem-solving.

They’re also interested in research and empirical data. That’s why you’ll find Engineers, Scientists, Mathematicians all high in Logical-Mathematical Intelligence. 

Bodily/Kinesthetic

People scoring high in this kind of intelligence are said to have strong dexterity and motor skills. Their proficiency lies in tactile actions. They tend to be good at sports, dance, and other activities that require the brain to be fine-tuned to the body’s movements.  

They’re also great at learning things through doing rather than reading or hearing about it. That means that they learn through experiences, kinesthetically. 

Actors, Dancers, Sculptors, are all examples of professions that would require high levels of Bodily/Kinesthetic intelligence. 

Musical Intelligence

Yes, Music is an intelligence too! We think of it as just a talent, but it’s definitely an intellectual capacity. People who have music intelligence show proficiency for playing musical instruments from a young age as well as a deep understanding of rhythm and melody. 

They’re also great at remembering tunes and picking up musical patterns. They’re best at learning something if they attach a melody to it. Miley Cyrus and the Bone Dance episode — we’re looking at you!

Music intelligence is found in a wide range of musical careers, from composers to producers and artists. 

Interpersonal Intelligence

You’ve probably used the term interpersonal skills at a job interview, thinking it just means you get along with people. It’s also a form of intelligence, according to Gardner, and is much more than being extraverted. 

Somebody with strong interpersonal intelligence doesn’t just get along with everyone, they also instinctively understand human emotions. They are able to identify and relate to almost anybody, and ‘speak the language’ of human emotions fluently. This means they can recognize someone else’s emotions and take it a step further by manipulating it (for better or worse!) 

They intuitively know the motives, intentions, and desires of the people they interact with. 

Great career options for people high in interpersonal intelligence are Psychologists, Counselors, Salespeople, or Politicians!

Intrapersonal Intelligence

While Interpersonal Intelligence was all about understanding other people, Intrapersonal Intelligence is all about truly understanding yourself and being in tune with your own emotions, desires, and intentions. 

They have a high level of self-awareness and are able to accomplish success in life by truly knowing themselves. They are able to spend time day-dreaming and introspecting, and can feel enriched with quality alone time.

Philosophers, Writers, Scientists all have great intrapersonal intelligence since they are able to identify their own strengths and weaknesses and hone their skills for greater achievements. 

Naturalistic Intelligence

Simply put, if someone has a green thumb, they would score well in Naturalistic Intelligence. However, there is also much more than that. People with high intelligence in this category are able to be in tune with nature and have an affinity for nurturing and devoting time to other species. 

It explains why some people have a burning passion for environmentalism and deeply care about animals and nature while others have no capacity for it at all. 

They’re excellent at identifying patterns in nature and understanding the different ways that other species ‘communicate’. 

Unsurprisingly, people with high naturalistic intelligence are Farmers, Gardeners, and Botanists. 

Existential Intelligence

People with existential intelligence have the capacity to devote their life to deal with the abstract and the intangible. They’re in tune with the spiritual realm and can spend time pondering concepts about the universe and religion. 

Religious leaders, philosophers, astrologists all have very high existential intelligence. They have the ability to ‘look at the bigger picture’ for most of their life without getting bogged down by the nitty-gritties of the everyday. 

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