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5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

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5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

There are a lot of memes about how what we learned in school is never useful in our real lives. The skills that we need to survive in the real world are seldom taught by schools or even elders. The most important things that we need to do as adults are something that most of us learn ourselves.

Getting out of colleges and universities, we feel like we are now ready to step into proper adulthood where we earn for ourselves and pay for our own bills. But, that is not how we continue feeling; the first few years pass in figuring out how to exactly to do the adult stuff. Here are a few things that people usually struggle with and why it is important to incorporate them into our lives early on.

1. Personal finance

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

As we grow up, we realize that money is one of the most significant aspects of life that we need to survive. Proper management of finances is seldom taught to us, it is learned through mistakes and experiences. Learning personal finance is usually expected to be coached by parents but isn’t it an important life skill which schools should be responsible for?

It is no surprise that most of the lottery winners end up getting broke or exhausting the money on addictions. Adequate management of funds and investment of money should be introduced from an early age by the school systems to make the future children more responsible.

2. Importance of mental health

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

Mental health is something which was not even acknowledged until the 2000s. Anxiety, stress, worry, paranoia, depression, etc. are realities of life, and children should not grow up kicking themselves for feeling these things. The way a person behaves in adversity is usually molded by how that person grew up dealing with problems as a kid.

The notion that not having a good head space is unnatural, uncommon, or not important ends up worsening the situation rather than dealing with the issues at its source. Many schools are starting to introduce psychiatrist and counselors, but they should also make sure students don’t feel worried or taboo to approach them. Respect and awareness for mental health should be introduced right at the beginning of a person’s life to ease things in the future.

3. Friendships and romantic relationships

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

A significant part of a person’s life is spent on maintaining friendships and romantic relationships, yet little to none is contributed in this direction by the schooling system. This is another important aspect of life, which is expected to be taught and taken care of by elders and parents.

The constant breaking of relationships is proof that people need to be taught how to respect others’ space, learn to trust, overcome bad times, share feelings, and communicate. Dating, romance, and sexual urges are frowned upon and ignored in certain countries, which ironically ends up worsening the situation as children grow up learning from wrong sources.

It is high time this is acknowledged as a fact of life, and schools try to lay down a foundation from the beginning of a person’s life. Some schools have taken that up by introducing sex education into their curriculum.

4. Basic life skills (cooking, repairing, and swimming)

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

We all come across memes online on “If only I learned this in school.” Cooking, repairing, and swimming, are all life skills which might not necessarily be vital in life, but they are very common and makes a person independent and confident to live alone. Cooking is not learned by someone unless it is necessary or they have an interest in it. When people move out of their parent’s house, this is one of their biggest regrets as food is one of the basics of life.

Repair work and swimming, however, might not seem as important as cooking but they are handy skills to have in the bag in case something goes wrong. It is often the case that people say growing up is a combination of learning and getting a lot of things right, but seldom do we realize very few of them were taught to you in school. This pattern has to change to make the future kids better equipped to deal with the reality of life.

5. Professional etiquette

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

It is often the case that people have to learn to speak and write formally. Writing a resume, email, or even a letter is a challenge for most; communication is poor in general. Communication and professional work etiquette are vital in life irrespective of the field one intends to go into.

In the past, recruiters have found it difficult to hire a person just because of the lack of common etiquette and communication skills. Respecting diversity and working in harmony with people you do not necessarily connect with is critical. Hostile work environment will always lead to inconvenience and less productivity. Common manners and etiquettes should be introduced by the school system to generate better workers and better work environment.

Where does this leave us?

While we all know this, and we all discuss this. Changes aren’t that easy to come. School systems changing isn’t as easy as just flipping the curriculum. Yes, we would love to have schools teach real-life skills. Many schools are making changes to incorporate various subjects and workshops for better preparing the kids for life.

It is slow, but there is progress. Meanwhile, as elders, we need to teach the children all that they will need to know when they step into adulthood themselves. Don’t shy away from teaching them about personal finances, savings, taxes, housing, anything that can be pegged as boring. Tag them along from time to time so that they get the experience of these things first hand. Take the children with you to the bank, to shopping for groceries, to pay bills – let them see what it takes and how it is done. Remember, we all need to do our part for a better world.

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How Making Decisions Using the 10/10/10 Method Can Change Your Life

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How Making Decisions Using the 10/10/10 Method Can Change Your Life

Do you find it difficult to pick a side when presented with some tough decisions to make? If so, then the 10/10/10 method is the perfect solution for you. Master this simple three-step tactic, and you will soon find it easy to make quick and correct decisions just like legendary investors, Warren Buffet and Ray Dalio.

What Is The 10/10/10 Method?

The concept of the 10/10/10 method is pretty straightforward. What it advises you to do is to ask three questions when faced with a prospect of making a choice:

  • How will you feel about the decision in 10 minutes?
  • How will you feel about the decision in 10 months?
  • How will you feel about the decision in 10 years?

For example, suppose that you are presented with a choice to buy a refurbished vehicle within the next 24 hours at 25% discount. Now, this might entice you to buy the vehicle immediately. But at the same time, you might also be concerned as to whether it would be a bad choice. In this torn state of mind, the 10/10/10 method can offer some simple and beneficial guidance.

Ask yourself how you would feel about the buying decision in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years. If you think that within 10 minutes or 10 months of spending money you might regret it, then do not go for making the investment and buying the car. Look for other options. However, if you think that after 10 years, you will not even be concerned about having spent the money, then you can consider buying it. Just make sure that the asking price is reasonable enough.

The Psychology Of Bad Decisions And How The 10/10/10 Method Helps You Overcome It

How Making Decisions Using the 10/10/10 Method Can Change Your Life

In order to understand how the 10/10/10 method works, you have to first know the psychology involved in making a bad decision. So, let us first analyze what is a ‘bad decision’.

Imagine that you are suddenly presented with an opportunity to invest in a particular stock that your broker said will double in the next 3 days. But to take advantage of it, you will need to invest the money right away. Now, the prospect of doubling the money in just three days can be so tempting that you decide to bet all your savings on the stock. Then, the unexpected happens and the stock crashes in three days instead of going up. You have lost nearly all your hard-earned money.

In the above example, the decision to invest in the stock turned out to be a ‘bad decision’. And this was something you could have avoided if you had applied the 10/10/10 method. Before investing, consider the worse possibility of losing all your money and ask yourself the following question – how you will feel about your decision to invest in the stock in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years.

If you think that within just 10 minutes of betting your money, you will be fretting and worried about the possibility of losing all your savings, then do yourself a favor and refrain from making the investment. If you think that in 10 months, you will hate yourself for losing all your money, then that again is a sign that you should never invest in a stock, especially one with numerous unknown underlying risks. 

And finally, if you are making a huge investment that will have an adverse impact on your life over the course of 10 years, then run away from the stockbroker and never look back. You don’t want to spend the next 10 years of your life trying to make back the money you lost from the trade.

Final Thoughts

Think about the consequences of a decision. Not just the ‘brief ecstasy’ of a hit decision. Ponder on the implications and decide whether you’ll be well off or decline. In short, train your mind to start thinking beyond the immediate result because that’s usually just based on the emotions involved at the time. While we need to take risks to succeed, learning to take calculated risks instead of reckless ones is important.

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5 Ultimate Things to Do to Deal With Failure

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5 Ultimate Things to Do to Deal With Failure

Failure is something that is inevitable yet everyone tries to dodge it. You are going to fail in many things throughout your life because the path to success always makes pit stops at failure junction. Why not embrace it and learn to use it as an advantage. When you start accepting failure, the lessons you learn from those experiences are priceless. So, let’s talk about how to deal with failure.

1. Don’t Create Excuses For Every Failure

“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”

– Jordan Belfort

Not everything you do will meet a successful conclusion. Many of the decisions you take in life will not only tank but can also drag you into depression. But remember to never create any excuse for such failures. Instead, accept failure as it is, learn what went wrong, and try to adapt yourself so that you can fulfil your goal the next time. 

For example, if your company assigned you the task of capturing 25% of market share in a particular locality, and you failed to do so, focus on what went wrong and how you can improve. Don’t create excuses like ‘the company did not assign the required budget’ and so on. 

It may be true that the company may not have given the required budget, but using that as the sole reason for your failure and overlooking personal shortcomings like improper planning and failure to lead will never turn you into a worthy successful person.

2. Stop Blaming Others For Your Mistakes

5 Ultimate Things to Do to Deal With Failure

Never blame others for your mistake. Never. Period. This is especially true if you are the leader of a team, and your group has failed in any of their tasks. In such a situation, if you pin all blame on your teammates, trying to justify your standing to superiors and stakeholders, then not only will you appear an unworthy leader, but you can forget about ever achieving success.   

Being successful is not just about your own talent, it is also about the support of the team around you. No one achieves anything alone. Remember that. If you aim to be at the top, you will need loyal team members who will do everything they can to make you reach the top and stay there. And that loyalty can only be earned if you treat them with due respect, and of course, recognition. 

As such, if during a failure, you squarely put all blame on them, they will only consider you an opportunist, and someone who is unworthy of their loyalty. Take full responsibility for the failure and give them credit for success. Even if your team members have committed certain faults, hold yourself responsible and avoid shifting blame. 

This alone will be sufficient to earn respect, and your teammates will work even harder to make sure the next task is completed successfully.

3. Avoid Being a Control Freak

5 Ultimate Things to Do to Deal With Failure

Never be a control freak. When you are assigned with any specific task, split it into smaller tasks, and assign the best people for the job. Trust them to do their work properly, and guide them in case they make mistakes. 

Avoid trying to control every single action assuming that only you can do the task perfectly. If you carry such an attitude, then you won’t have any good members remain on your team for too long since talented people do not like being constantly watched over and told what to do. So, give up such behaviors and learn to trust the people under you. By doing that, you will have a better chance of keeping talented people in your team for longer and achieving success. 

Success is a process. It has numerous components and one of the main parts is to attain the loyalty of a professional team behind you. This team will be critical in achieving your success. 

4. Stop Expecting Life to Be Fair

“If we keep telling that life is unfair but do nothing serious about it, then life will forever continue to remain unfair!”

-Mehmet Murat Ildan

Life is not fair. Don’t be naïve as to assume that when you do something right, you deserve and will receive a positive result. Unfortunately, the world does not work that way. So, give up on such silly notions.

Instead, look at any task ahead of you from multiple perspectives. Plan for all types of consequences, without being fixated on a lone positive outcome. And by doing so, you will always be ready to meet any consequences, no matter how wildly they differ from your expectations.

Think about scenarios where your planning goes wrong, and the results achieved are far from perfect. Plan on steps to undertake when such things happen, and you will be well-prepared. As they say, hope for the best, and plan for the worst.

5. Meet Problems Head-On

 5 Ultimate Things to Do to Deal With Failure

And finally, don’t run away from problems. Don’t avoid them as if they don’t matter. That is a sure-fire way to remain a loser all through your life. No one achieved greatness by avoiding problems. Be stoic about obstacles. Obstacles will reveal paths you wouldn’t have considered otherwise.

Great people are successful and are admired by many people as being a success because they faced all problems head-on instead of running away from it. So, if your business is tanking, then have the courage to first acknowledge that your decisions were wrong. 

If you acknowledge that the business is failing, then you can think of ways to reverse the situation. But if you don’t even accept that reality, then you are guaranteed to fail. A person with such an attitude will never amount to anything. Mainly because they can’t accept the reality in front of them, and keep on avoiding the biggest obstacles.

And even if they achieve success, they will not be able to maintain it. So, develop a character that confronts all problems that come in the way of your goal, and you will have a better chance of being a successful person. 

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”

– Winston S. Churchill

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5 Things to Focus On if You Want to be Successful

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5 Things to Focus On if You Want to be Successful

Everyone wants to be successful. Different people have different criteria for success. While some pine for fame, others prefer wealth; they’re those who want to be respected above all else, and then there are people who define success as the peace of mind and ability to be free. 

However you define success, dreaming about it and reaching that pedestal are two different things. What separates them is actually just one simple thing – the willingness to change one’s behavior and thought process. You must first admit that you are where you are right now because of the choices you’ve thus far made in life. 

Like Marshall Goldsmith, the famous leadership thinker put it, “What got you here, won’t get you there.” He actually wrote a whole book on that. So, if you need to achieve that lofty goal, you need to get your thoughts in place, redefine mental models and pick up your act. Success is a result of choices. So, start choosing good from now on.

People who remain stuck with negative behaviors will never be a success and are destined to only dream of it. But those who are willing to learn about and understand where they go wrong and are open to modifying them, will always be on the path to success. It’s just a matter of time for these folks. Consistency is the key to success in whatever you want to achieve.

And if you are such a person (of course you are, why else would you be reading this) who is willing to change themselves to be successful, understand the mechanics of success, whether in your career or personal life, then you have to give up the negative attitudes mentioned below.   

1. Don’t Be Afraid of Your Abilities

“There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed.”

-Ray Goforth

Some people have a tendency to hold back their abilities just so that they don’t make other people feel inferior. Such an attitude will only keep you in a secondary position, never letting you get the taste of being a leader. 

5 Things to Focus On if You Want to be Successful

After all, being at the top means you have to outsmart everyone else competing for the position. When you hold yourself back, it is inevitable that you will never be ‘numero uno’. So, if you have a tendency to downplay abilities while in a team, then you should stop doing that. Use all your talents on whatever task you are assigned and come out on top.

There will obviously be people who don’t like the fact that you are number one. But you don’t have to mind them. Instead, associate with those who appreciate your effort and value you for the talents you have displayed.

2. Get Rid of Toxic People

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

– Jim Rohn

There will likely be lots of toxic people around you who aim to keep you in your current state, never allowing you to be successful. Such people might be acting this way due to a number of reasons, ranging from jealousy to their own insecurities. 

Whatever be their motivations, get rid of such toxic people and cut off all relationships with them. Maintaining any sort of contact with them is not only useless, but will also be counterproductive, and will hold you back from your goal. 

Instead, develop relationships with people who value your growth, appreciate your success, and give you suggestions as to how to improve yourself. Surrounding yourself with such supportive people alone will give you a huge confidence boost. 

Even better, surround yourself with people the likes of which you wish to achieve, i.e. those who are better than you.

3. Avoid Being Fixated on Idealistic Standards of Perfection

“Done is better than perfect.”

There is nothing perfect in this world. And this is something that many people who naively chase an idealistic sense of perfectionism need to understand. Without grasping this concept and being happy with achieving a realistic goal, you will only waste life on a wild goose chase, remaining in the same position at all times, never improving and becoming successful. 

For example, imagine that you are an artist tasked with creating four paintings for a company with a deadline of 2 months. Once the client has agreed on your basic concepts, you should move on to creating the painting one by one. 

5 Things to Focus On if You Want to be Successful

But if during the process of creating the first painting, you come up with an idea to make it even better then you might think of adapting your painting to the new idea. Don’t do it. Since the client has already approved an idea, go ahead with it and complete it. Overthinking should be avoided.

If you think of implementing the new idea, then you might come up with yet another idea that is better than everything you had till now. And this stream of ideas will never cease and you will never be able to complete the paintings in time. 

This will obviously hurt your reputation as a painter and people will opt not to hire you because of your inability to meet deadlines, thereby hurting your chances of being successful. So, forget about idealistic perfection, and instead focus on meeting achievable targets.

4. Don’t Seek Validation From Others

“I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure–It is: Try to please everybody.”

– Herbert Bayard Swope

When you do something, focus on doing it well. Don’t act in order to please someone else and gain their appreciation. That is definitely not the attitude of a winner. Successful people don’t do things just because they will receive appreciation. 

In turn, they do whatever they are tasked with, in the right way. And this makes them successful, eventually getting them praise from all corners. So, focus on doing the job at hand the best way possible, and you will have the mindset of a winner. 

Only when there is truth in what you do, can you understand it completely, and improve upon it to achieve real success.

5. Stay Fit And Healthy

5 Things to Focus On if You Want to be Successful

Be sure to keep yourself healthy and fit. If you pursue an unhealthy lifestyle filled with fatty foods and zero exercises, then success will be out of reach. Cut down on the junk food and start eating healthy, nutritious meals. Join a gym and get your body in shape. You don’t have to get a six-pack. You just have to be fit. And this will ensure that you have the energy to remain completely focused on your goal all day long.

Final Thoughts

Doing one good thing, however small, in a disciplined manner will lead to larger changes that will have an impact on the rest of your decisions, and eventually, change the course of your life. For more on this, read about Kaizen, the Japanese method of taking small steps to achieve large goals. 

Go about everything at a steady pace, there’s no need to try to conquer the world in one day. Start tackling the problem areas one by one to achieve success with everything.

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