The Science of Attraction: How To Use It To Make A Good Impression and Enhance Your Dating Life

Does your dating life need a boost? Are you tired of spending weekends on your own? Consider learning the science of attraction and use it to your advantage to improve your love life. Experts say that there’s a reason why we’re instantly attracted to some people we meet. What’s more, the first few seconds of your initial interaction will define whether you’ll engage with that individual again or you’ll avoid them at all costs.

According to UW Medicine neuroscientist Larry Zweifel, this is what makes first impressions so important when you’re putting yourself out there. “That’s when we establish that the individual we met is receptive to social interaction and engaging with us,” he says. Being attracted to someone can create feelings of motivation, which encourages you to create opportunities to deepen your relationship. Ready to meet the one? Here’s how to use the science of attraction to enhance your dating life.

Work on Your Eye Contact

A quick glance at another person’s face may be enough to indicate interest, but if you want to create intimacy at first sight, you’ll need to work on your eye contact. Being able to gaze into another person’s eyes can increase trust and understanding, which can lead to attraction. In fact, a study has found that strangers who had soulful eye contact for two minutes can develop passionate feelings for each other.

To improve eye contact, practice by looking at yourself in the mirror and then holding your gaze for a few seconds. Gradually increase the time so you’ll get used to the feeling. You can also practice by having virtual conversations with other people on platforms like InstaCams. While video chatting, try gazing at the other person’s face for 4 to 5 seconds before looking away. Although you’re not technically having eye contact since the other person is looking at their webcam, doing so creates the same sensation as seeing eye-to-eye. In the real world, try a flirting technique called triangular gazing. Simply move your gaze from the eye of the person to the other eye, then down to their lips, and back again. This creates tension and intimacy, and it demonstrates interest without being creepy.    

Use the Right Scents

Some scents can turn people off, but the right ones can make people fall in love with you. Scientific evidence shows that the most attractive scents to men include vanilla, pumpkin pie, chocolate, and cinnamon, while women are attracted to men who wear jasmine, mint, leather, and fruity scents like mango and orange.

Using scents to appeal to a person’s senses is a subtle way to build attraction and create chemistry with a potential partner, so choose your perfumes or colognes wisely. Also, avoid dousing yourself with perfume since that can induce headaches, and some people don’t care for overly strong scents. Instead, apply your cologne or perfume sparingly so they’ll only get a whiff of it once they lean in.

Making a good first impression can boost your attractiveness, and it makes people want to know more about you. Use the science of attraction to your advantage, and see how it can help you create intimacy and connection with a potential partner.