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5 Reasons Why You Need to Start Journaling Immediately

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5 Reasons Why You Need to Start Journaling Immediately

Journaling and writing have been proven to be extremely beneficial to your mental health. It is relaxing and therapeutic. Some people use one journal to jot down everything, and some have different journals dedicated to different areas of their lives. There’s no one way to go about it. The only thing that matters is that you write your thoughts down.

It is a great way to reflect on your day, and these reflections later help you to reflect on your life. You learn a lot and realize what changes you need to make in order to lead a healthy and meaningful life, both mentally and physically. It also tells you how to go about your goals and what exactly is stopping you from achieving them.

There are so many ways to journal. You can follow the traditional pen and paper route. It helps many people feel more connected to their thoughts. If writing is not your thing or you are better with a keyboard, then make digital entries. You can type entries on your notes in your phone or start a blog to log in your daily life. Keeping it public or private, writing in a book or computer, journaling or bullet journaling, it’s all your choice really.
I mostly journal in Day One for Mac and iOS. It’s a wonderful app and worth every penny. Here is a snapshot of what my Day One looks like.

5 Reasons Why You Need to Start Journaling Immediately

Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t write daily. Write as much as you can and as many days as you can remember to. Slowly it will become a habit. Here are some reasons why journaling can be beneficial for you.

1. Journaling relieves stress

When you write things down, what you are essentially doing is transferring the information from your brain to a physical manifestation. This works the same as freeing up space in your memory card by transferring data to your computer. When there is free space, functioning becomes easier. May it be artificial intelligence or human intelligence, information overload can crash the system.

One of the reasons we feel stressed out is because there is a lot going on in our minds. With journaling, you get an opportunity to write down everything that is bothering you, everything that is distracting you, or anything that just doesn’t need to be taking up space right now. This way, you get to pour everything out and just breathe. This then allows you to look at what has been filling your mind in an objective manner.

2. Journaling helps achieve goals

You don’t have to have a clear idea of all that you want to achieve. Sometimes you don’t want to talk about your goals and dreams with anyone, and that is okay. By journaling, you can talk to yourself about them. Write down all that you want to achieve and why you want those things.

It doesn’t have to be specific, and you do not have to have a strategy. It might not even make sense currently. But, just pen it down. It later allows you to work on a plan to achieve those goals and work on the strategy based on what you have written. It is said that written goals are most likely to come true. This way, you put the idea out in the world, and it is not just a thought fragment in your mind.

3. Journaling helps reduce anxiety

When you want to achieve a lot or even when you are working on achieving them, it is easy to feel overwhelmed and agitated. Feeling anxious in your daily life becomes a routine. Every thought brings anxiety, and it doesn’t matter if it is the worry that accompanies the uncertainty of the future or a simple thing as what to wear.

When you start writing, it gives you an outlet to express yourself. It gives you a way to get rid of those thoughts. You put it on the paper and don’t allow those thoughts to fester in your mind and become bigger than they were and cause you anxiety.

4. Journaling helps you learn more about yourself

When you write every day, you are recording your daily life. When you go over it, it gives you an idea about how you react to a certain situation, what triggers your negative emotions. How you react to external stimuli is an interesting thing that you will find in your own words.

This helps you pinpoint what the problem is, it helps you learn and grow. It sort of gives you a third person’s view over yourself and your reactions to different things. The more you know and understand yourself, the easier it becomes to grow.

5. Journaling is a private escape

If you are someone who doesn’t like sharing your goals or feelings with other people, then this is the best thing you can do. It helps you pour everything out without the fear of being judged. People worry a lot about how people look at them or if what they are sharing will make people judge them, and this stops many from sharing.

Sharing is healthy. If not with others, do it with yourself. Journals are usually for your eyes only. Unless you allow someone to read your journal, they should not be able to. This gives you a safe haven to share your deepest thoughts and helps you and your mind relax.

5 Reasons Why You Need to Start Journaling Immediately

Journaling might not be everyone’s thing. You might believe that you aren’t good at writing. The main thing to remember is that you are doing this for yourself and not for others. It doesn’t matter if you are good at writing or not. You can literally write your thoughts down as bullet points, and it still counts. Give it a shot; you never know how it ends up being beneficial to you.

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Why Too Many Self Help Books are Bad for You

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Since you’re reading this article on this blog, you probably have a keen interest in self-betterment. You’re the kind of person who has a constant hunger to grow, develop personality and achieve great things. You probably have a full shelf of self-help books at home, and reach for a new one in airport book stores. 

Let’s take a moment to congratulate yourself on this. Not many people, definitely not the vast majority of people are genuinely interested in self-growth. However, like any good thing in life, there is a flip-side to immersing yourself in self-help content. It can severely impact the way you see yourself, and the world around you; sometimes for the worse.

The Heroes

It’s fairly common to read a self-help book and start valorising the writer. The requisite to write a self-help book or a how-to guide is often being successful first so that you then have the ‘right’ to preach to other people. That’s why many “successful people” write memoirs or how-to guides to spill their secrets and let others know how they made it. 

A byproduct of this is the audience begins to automatically consume everything that the writer tells them as the gospel truth. We don’t doubt the credibility of someone who’s made it big. We don’t ask for much scientific backing when these successful persons tell us their life story: one anecdote is enough. 

Of course, in any field of scientific research, a single anecdote is never considered to be scientific evidence alone. This is simply because one person can never be an unbiased narrator of their own experiences. We can’t weigh their words against those of others; verify their methods with a control group. 

This is not to suggest that all writers of self-help books are getting away with lying or false information just because no one’s cross-checking (although that could be the occasional case). 

The few people who are successful in their fields and occupy positions in the public sphere undoubtedly have more experience than you and me. However, even they cannot hundred per cent explain the reasons for their success. It is generally a number of factors that act together, right connections, right timing, right pre-dispositions combined with the person’s efforts that bring them success. 

For example, if a successful entrepreneur writes about how he built his own business empire, he could give you 10 methods, or tips and tricks that he followed to stay motivated and increase his productivity. What he cannot guarantee is that this will work for everyone. He also cannot guarantee that those 10 exact methods are what caused his success.

There are many self-help books that are abundant with real-life examples, scientific studies, and academic research. These are also, coincidentally the type of books where the author relies less on his own experience as the source of his advice. These are not just more useful books to read, they also are much more informative and entertaining than their monologue counterparts. 

Survivorship Bias

One of the other side effects of surrounding yourself with lots of self-help content is that you become prey to the survivorship bias. This means that you continually consume stories and experiences of many people that have succeeded. Once we start following ‘successes’, we begin to see them everywhere. 

Social media has a hand to play in this as well. Popular social media platforms have algorithms that create echo-chambers where you only see the kind of content that you like. So if you’re only reading about positive and uplifting self-betterment content, chances are you never come across stories about failures. 

This can make you feel that there is an enormous amount of people that are succeeding and doing what you want to do. The spotlight is on the 1%, while ignoring the other 99% in the shadow. 

You might wonder why this is a problem. Isn’t focusing on the positive success stories making it more likely that you will also be successful yourself?

Surprisingly, it’s not. It can be the real reason why it’s so hard to succeed, because you can follow all the hacks, tips and tricks, and methods that you read in self-help books and still have unique challenges to overcome. This is because you’re ignoring the data from the vast masses of people that tried the very same methods and failed. 

You must be thinking: well, I should be focusing on failure stories? That’s depressing!

No, you don’t! For one, they are difficult to find. Simply knowing the information about how often someone succeeds to the level that you want to can be your tool. 

For example, if you want to become a best-selling author, you should know that simply getting published has a 1% success rate while a best-selling author is probably closer to 0.001%.

This is not to discourage you from chasing your dreams, but only to help you bring a dose of reality into your pursuit of success. 

Final Words

Knowing that the advice you read in a self-help book is from a person part of the 1% rather than the 99% can stop you from being frustrated. Many people follow the methods and techniques suggested in these books and then expect instant success. 

So if you’re waking up at 5 AM for three months in a row now, and wondering why you’re not a millionaire yet: the story was never that simple! 

Congratulations to your brand new good habit, and pursuit of self-betterment, but know that there is a long way to go before we discover a complete formula for success

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The Science Behind Forming Habits that Last

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If you’ve ever tried to form a habit, someone’s probably given you the advice that it takes only 21 days to do so. 

The 21-day rule claims that one must only perform an activity every day, for 21 days, until it automatically becomes a habit and the person no longer has to put in the effort to do the activity.

And, if you’ve ever tried to test out this rule: you likely found that it doesn’t really work. 

Unfortunately, there are many more factors that come into play when considering why some habit formation happens in less time than others. 

I was told by a school teacher that it takes 21 days to form a habit and 90 days for it to become a lifestyle. During the lockdown, I tried to make it a practice to meditate every day for 10 minutes to meditate. I eagerly awaited the 21-day mark, expecting some kind of magical transformation to take place as soon as I awoke. 

There was nothing different about the 21st day (or the 3 months after that), and I didn’t experience any time-bound results. 

Where the 21-Day Rule Comes from

Interestingly, the 21-Day Rule isn’t so much a rule as it’s a misinterpreted observation. A plastic surgeon Maxwell Maltz wrote a well-acclaimed book about human behavior. 

In his career, he noticed that it always took a minimum of 21 days for one of his patients to mentally adjust to the physical change in their body. He proposed that any sort of mental image adjustment requires a minimum of 21 days from this data. 

Now while this could be useful data for mental image adjustments, habit formation encompasses many more factors than that. 

Here are scientifically-backed factors that influence how strong your newly formed habit is and how long it will last.

How Big or Small it is

If your habit is something challenging to do, it will take a lot of willpower for you to drastically change your everyday routine to accommodate it. 

For example, if you work a 10hour shift and still want to workout at the gym for an hour a day, knowing it sacrifices your recreation time: chances are that this habit will be really difficult to form and sustain.

A small habit like making your bed, washing the dishes before you go to bed at night, or even self-affirmations in the morning: are all habits that can fit into a schedule without you having to sacrifice much. 

Starting with small habits makes it easier since you don’t need a lot of motivation to perform them. 

How Important the Habit is to your Self Image

Some habits we’re trying to form are more important to us than others. If you strongly believe that this habit will help you become the person you’re destined to be, you’re going to attach more value to carrying it out every day!

How Many Days you Skip

We’re often under the impression that all your progress will come crashing down if you skip a day. Thankfully, it’s been proven that even if you miss a day, there are no long-term effects on the habit formation itself. But it’s recommended that you never skip more than one day at a time.

How You Remind Yourself

When reminding yourself to perform the activity you’re trying to convert to a habit, it’s critical to piggyback off other existing habits. That means if you already have a habit of doing yoga and want to get into a habit of meditating, make sure that you meditate right after your yoga practice. One habit helps the other.

How Sustainable Your Pace is

If you’re working on forming a habit that needs to be built up over time, you need to make sure this pace is feasible for your current lifestyle. You know your life best, and if you know you’re going to have a significant life event and get busier soon, don’t have unrealistic expectations from your new habit!

Good luck!

40% of our day-to-day life is made out of habits. Forming a new habit can very realistically transform your entire life. I’m glad you’re on this journey to maximize your potential, and I’m sure you can do it!

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How Reading can impact your Day to Day Life?

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Reading is a healthy habit, which, if practiced daily, can change your entire life around. Do you want to know why? Through Reading, one can not only gain knowledge but also stay acquainted with the outside as well as the inside world. The best thing about reading daily is to have an isolated place for yourself in your mind, where you can run off to. Most people don’t have the patience or intention to read, and that too, daily. Though this is a habit that takes time to settle in but trust me, once it does, you would never regret it. So, here is a list of reasons why you should read daily?

Why should you read daily?

  • To gain knowledge

Once you start reading daily, and by Reading, it can be anything – you can read few pages of a novel, or a magazine, or newspaper, or even poetry – you would notice within weeks how much your knowledge regarding the outer world has improved. Through Reading, one can have clear information regarding the current affairs, and hence, stay updated.

  • To improve your vocabulary

Through Reading, you can definitely learn new words and hence, improve your vocabulary. Most people make it a habit to learn a new word from the dictionary every day, but if you read daily, you are bound to get new words and make a list of them on a notebook with their meanings, which is definitely going to be helpful for you.

  • To have a make-believe world

The most beautiful consequence of Reading is having one’s own imaginary world, where one can live a life full of magic. This is the extraordinary superpower one acquires while reading. In this busy daily life of ours, we all look for a secluded place where we can feel the essence of peace. Reading can fly you off to the imaginary land of sunflowers, daisies, and cats who can indeed talk.

  • To become more attentive

Most people lack patience nowadays. Being impatient and restless has become a severe problem in today’s world. Here, Reading can help you calm your mind and improve your observation skills. It works like meditation. In no time, you would find your mind focusing on details and becoming more attentive to events, which used to go unnoticed.

  • To reduce stress

Reading is similar to meditation, and hence, it definitely helps to reduce your stress. Books always have a calming effect on one’s mind. It takes you away from daily problems and stressful situations and helps your mind to gain stability. Not only it helps in reducing stress, but it also helps to decrease the anxiety levels of a person. 

Everyone should make reading a daily habit. One should switch off the mobile phones, turn off the television and take some time out to read. It works wonders on one’s day-to-day life and changes one person’s entire personality. Though it can be hard at first, with time, you would cherish the moments alone, reading in a corner while your mind is flying off to Narnia.

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