Journaling and writing have been proven to be extremely beneficial to your mental health. It is relaxing and therapeutic. Some people use one journal to jot down everything, and some have different journals dedicated to different areas of their lives. There’s no one way to go about it. The only thing that matters is that you write your thoughts down.
It is a great way to reflect on your day, and these reflections later help you to reflect on your life. You learn a lot and realize what changes you need to make in order to lead a healthy and meaningful life, both mentally and physically. It also tells you how to go about your goals and what exactly is stopping you from achieving them.
There are so many ways to journal. You can follow the traditional pen and paper route. It helps many people feel more connected to their thoughts. If writing is not your thing or you are better with a keyboard, then make digital entries. You can type entries on your notes in your phone or start a blog to log in your daily life. Keeping it public or private, writing in a book or computer, journaling or bullet journaling, it’s all your choice really.
I mostly journal in Day One for Mac and iOS. It’s a wonderful app and worth every penny. Here is a snapshot of what my Day One looks like.
Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t write daily. Write as much as you can and as many days as you can remember to. Slowly it will become a habit. Here are some reasons why journaling can be beneficial for you.
1. Journaling relieves stress
When you write things down, what you are essentially doing is transferring the information from your brain to a physical manifestation. This works the same as freeing up space in your memory card by transferring data to your computer. When there is free space, functioning becomes easier. May it be artificial intelligence or human intelligence, information overload can crash the system.
One of the reasons we feel stressed out is because there is a lot going on in our minds. With journaling, you get an opportunity to write down everything that is bothering you, everything that is distracting you, or anything that just doesn’t need to be taking up space right now. This way, you get to pour everything out and just breathe. This then allows you to look at what has been filling your mind in an objective manner.
2. Journaling helps achieve goals
You don’t have to have a clear idea of all that you want to achieve. Sometimes you don’t want to talk about your goals and dreams with anyone, and that is okay. By journaling, you can talk to yourself about them. Write down all that you want to achieve and why you want those things.
It doesn’t have to be specific, and you do not have to have a strategy. It might not even make sense currently. But, just pen it down. It later allows you to work on a plan to achieve those goals and work on the strategy based on what you have written. It is said that written goals are most likely to come true. This way, you put the idea out in the world, and it is not just a thought fragment in your mind.
3. Journaling helps reduce anxiety
When you want to achieve a lot or even when you are working on achieving them, it is easy to feel overwhelmed and agitated. Feeling anxious in your daily life becomes a routine. Every thought brings anxiety, and it doesn’t matter if it is the worry that accompanies the uncertainty of the future or a simple thing as what to wear.
When you start writing, it gives you an outlet to express yourself. It gives you a way to get rid of those thoughts. You put it on the paper and don’t allow those thoughts to fester in your mind and become bigger than they were and cause you anxiety.
4. Journaling helps you learn more about yourself
When you write every day, you are recording your daily life. When you go over it, it gives you an idea about how you react to a certain situation, what triggers your negative emotions. How you react to external stimuli is an interesting thing that you will find in your own words.
This helps you pinpoint what the problem is, it helps you learn and grow. It sort of gives you a third person’s view over yourself and your reactions to different things. The more you know and understand yourself, the easier it becomes to grow.
5. Journaling is a private escape
If you are someone who doesn’t like sharing your goals or feelings with other people, then this is the best thing you can do. It helps you pour everything out without the fear of being judged. People worry a lot about how people look at them or if what they are sharing will make people judge them, and this stops many from sharing.
Sharing is healthy. If not with others, do it with yourself. Journals are usually for your eyes only. Unless you allow someone to read your journal, they should not be able to. This gives you a safe haven to share your deepest thoughts and helps you and your mind relax.
Journaling might not be everyone’s thing. You might believe that you aren’t good at writing. The main thing to remember is that you are doing this for yourself and not for others. It doesn’t matter if you are good at writing or not. You can literally write your thoughts down as bullet points, and it still counts. Give it a shot; you never know how it ends up being beneficial to you.
Why Chasing Perfection is a Futile Activity
“Perfection is attained by slow degrees; it requires the hand of time.”
Perfection takes time. Time is something that most of us scared to invest. You either invest your time or you elude it trying to save it. From the time we start understanding words and achievements, we are inspired to chase perfection. By the time you realize that there is no such thing as ‘perfection’ in this world, you have already wasted a lot of your learning years chasing it.
While looking for a perfect job, a perfect career, a perfect relationship, a perfect moment – we often forget to cherish the things we have or be thankful the opportunities we have been given – we end up losing what we have.
“When you aim for perfection, you discover it’s a moving target.”
We keep on running after an adjective that is very hard to put onto things. Perfection is going to have a different meaning for different people. Something that isn’t perfect for you is going to be perfect for someone else.
The pursuit of perfection in every aspect of your life can be very exhausting, you will be going through every stage with a looming dread of not being perfect. Even when you have done a great job, you won’t be satisfied because it does not meet your idea of perfection.
In an attempt to achieve perfection, we have laden ourselves with copious amounts of pressure for every big or little thing we do. It sort of takes out the fun from things when you are constantly striving to make it exceptionally perfect.
“Perfection is finally attained not when there is no longer anything to add but when there is no longer anything to take away when a body has been stripped down to its nakedness.”
-Antoine De Saint-Exupry
We often chase perfection so that we can stand tall in front of society. The opinions of other people affect a lot of people and that is usually the driving force. We want to prove ourselves to others – it can be someone who said we can’t do this or it can be someone we want to be proud of ourselves. What we don’t realize is that everyone is struggling to do their bit. Everyone is under the pressure of being perfect, the irony being, none of us are.
Low self-esteem and self-doubt is usually the cause of us trying to be ‘perfect’ at everything, we do this to improve our self-esteem. Self-doubt also stems from constantly comparing ourselves with others. Many people suffer from imposter syndrome. We don’t understand how that can be detrimental to the work we do. Not feeling good enough, feeling like a fraud, feeling like you don’t deserve anything can really suck the life out of you. These are the mental roadblocks that stop you from doing your best while keeping you constantly worried about chasing a state that is not that tangible – ‘perfection.’
In the years you spend chasing it, there will come a moment of clarity that will help you realize that the pursuit is futile. When you realize that you no longer have to run after being perfect – when you understand that being good enough is actually enough – that is when you feel contentment in life.
Being content is the first step of feeling satisfied with your life and with your efforts. It is a liberating feeling to finally be happy with yourself after years of beating yourself up.
“To accomplish the perfect perfection, a little imperfection helps.”
There are a lot of advantages to not chasing perfection. You start feeling more happiness and gratitude in the light of appreciating the things around you and yourself. This results in you developing an optimistic approach toward life. When you are chasing perfection, it is somehow lost. You start finding faults in all your achievements, stopping yourself from being happy about them. This leads to negativity clouding your thoughts and as a result, you start pouring the same negativity in your life.
When you let go of the notion of perfection, you allow yourself to relax and be proud of your achievements. This action triggers positive emotions within you, helping you become optimistic toward the next stage of your life. This then leads to you feeling more confident. Being confident about your abilities also stops you from running after perfection and makes you realize the worth in what you do.
Striving for perfection is a good thing because then it will make you work harder to get better day by day. With time, every skill gets better. Chasing perfection, on the other hand, is dangerous to the learning process. You need to learn the difference so that you don’t end up harming yourself in the long run.
Instead of chasing perfection, remember to strive for improvement and excellence. When you focus on becoming better than you were yesterday, you automatically open doors for yourself. You surround yourself with positivity – inside and out – making it a much-needed fuel to keep working toward your goal.
Always believe in what you can achieve no matter how imperfect you feel. There are going to be days when you don’t feel good enough. Everyone feels like that once in a while – trust me we all feel the same as humans.
When you let go of that perfection ideology, you free yourself from your own expectations tying you down. You start feeling content with your life and with the pace you are going. That is what will help you sail by, that is what will hold you aboard.
How You Can Use Humor to Win at Life in the Face of Adversities
“A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life.”
-William Arthur Ward
When you are starting out on a new path – may it be starting a new course, a new business, a new relationship – there are going to be difficulties at every corner. Just because your path is hurdled with obstacles doesn’t mean you give up. While people can keep pushing in order to achieve their dreams, it can often take a toll on their health – especially mental health.
Mental health anyway is not taken that seriously but when you don’t feel right in your mind even the mundane of tasks become utterly complicated in nature. One way to keep going through adversities without losing yourself is learning to laugh at yourself and your situation.
“Laugh at yourself, but don’t ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don’t leave any of yourself safely onshore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory.”
While laughing at yourself is important, you need to know the difference between finding humor in whatever is happening and being self-deprecating. Self-deprecation helps no one. It isn’t the good humor that helps you make light of things, it is the kind that will make you drown in self-pity and make you lose confidence in yourself.
You already have a lot of negative feelings surrounding you, you are already dealing with doubts that are related to your decisions, your chosen path, your abilities, you don’t need to add on to it by doubting your self, your determination, and your worth. For others to respect you, you need to learn to respect yourself.
“Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat… Never take yourself too seriously.”
Learning to see humor in situations and developing humor as a habit is the best course of action to take if you are in a difficult phase and could use with not letting everything affect you to the core.
There are two very basic things you can do to develop a sense of humor without going out of your way – observe people who can find humor in situations and observe situations you can find humor in.
Observe Funny People
An easy way to develop your humor is to observe people who are known to be funny. If you have a friend who is incredibly popular at work because of the way they crack jokes and make people laugh, tag along and learn the tricks of the trade.
Look at them and identify situations when they make a joke, the way they present it, and so on. And when you spend some time with such people, you are sure to imbibe some of their qualities.
When developing your humor sense, be careful of distinguishing between being funny and mean. Remember to never crack jokes at someone’s expense, making them a butt of jokes in front of others will creating animosity rather than a good-natured bond.
“To laugh at others is egoistic; to laugh at oneself is very humble. Learn to laugh at yourself – about your seriousness and things like that. You can get serious about seriousness. Then instead of one, you have created two diseases. Then you can get serious about that also, and you can go on and on. There is no end to it; it can go on AD NAUSEAM.”
It will only make you a despicable figure. Plus, only make jokes in appropriate situations. Blindly joking around won’t get you anywhere. You need to balance the serious stuff in your life with humorous aspects. And when you achieve a perfect balance between the two, your life will open itself to new experiences, and you will lead a fuller, better life with new and deeper relationships.
Observe Everything From a Humorous Perspective
Most people usually don’t observe things around them in their daily lives. Instead, they are busy being engrossed in their desires and fears. And this is quite sad since you will start seeing an entirely different world if you take the time to watch and observe the things around you.
“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.”
You might start seeing a quirky habit of the roadside vendor you pass every day but never bother to look at. You will ride the taxi as usual, but see that the owner has a picture of a funny quote right in front of the dashboard. And during the travel, you might see that an elderly man, who was buying flowers from a young woman, was trying to flirt with her in a rather comedic but sweet way.
All these observations will come in handy when you try to make a joke among friends and co-workers. If you observe most people who are funny, they are able to draw from their experiences and present them in a humorous manner. It is basically storytelling in the heart of it. This is why it is very important that you start observing the things happening around you. The more you see, the more material you will get to use in your jokes.
There’s no point in taking yourself seriously when your life is already full of seriousness. You might not have time to enjoy yourself because you are busy building your dreams, you might have to give up a lot of things, you might even stop working on your hobbies – these things are common in the building phases of people’s careers – but what you have to remember to not give up is laughter.
“A sense of humor… is needed armor. Joy in one’s heart and some laughter on one’s lips is a sign that the person down deep has a pretty good grasp of life.”
Laughter will get you through even the darkest of days. When you seem like there is nothing going your way, laughter will be there to accompany you learning from your failures and not breaking down to not apply the learnings one more time to achieve success. Learn to find laughter in what you can, you keep you going in the race of life.
3 Things You Can Do to Make Humor a Habit
Have you ever talked to someone and couldn’t stop laughing? It wasn’t them telling a knock-knock joke or making a specific joke, it was just their one-liners in the midst of conversation, some keen observation, and some creative comparisons that had you laughing along.
This – humor – is a quality that helps people put others at ease in their presence. When you are humorous by nature, people are drawn to you. You can easily diffuse a tense situation, you become a people magnet, and you can joke about yourself reeling people in because they can relate. This has high benefits. Not only as a personality trait that helps you in social settings, but being humorous is also beneficial for your personal life, professional life, and health.
“If you can laugh at yourself, you are going to be fine. If you allow others to laugh with you, you will be great.”
When people think of improving personal qualities, they usually focus on aspects like beauty, intelligence, confidence, physical strength and so on. Very rarely do people think of developing their sense of humor. This is sad in a way since a good sense of humor can easily make you appear attractive, boost confidence, and make you look overall smarter in front of others.
So, why not focus on making humor a habit?
Now that we have looked at how humor can bring about positive changes in your life and the attributes of a humorous person, let’s talk about how to develop a sense of humor so that it becomes your second nature by examining how you can develop a sense of humor and learn to infuse it in your daily life.
Watch Comedy Shows
A good way to develop your humor sense is to watch comedy shows. Make a note of the best comedy shows on TV and online, and be sure to watch at least one episode per day. When you do this for a few months, you will start using some of the jokes you heard in conversations with other people.
And slowly, you will start creating your own jokes depending on the situation you are in. Make sure that you definitely watch shows that are dependent on taking a funny outlook on current issues. The unique perspective such shows bring to real-world problems will surely make you see the world in the same sarcastic and funny way.
Join a Comedy Class
If you are serious about learning to be a humorous person, consider joining a comedy class. Since they are conducted by professional comedians, they can teach you tips and tricks to train your mind to see the humor in different situations.
Plus, you will be with a group of people who share the same goal as you – developing their funny side. And being part of a group where you can make a joke without worrying about its failure will definitely give you the confidence to sharpen your humorous side. However, do keep in mind that such courses do not come cheap.
Be Silly Sometimes
“We take ourselves way too seriously, and we don’t take God seriously enough. It is not by accident that humor and humility come from the same root word. If you can laugh at yourself, you’ll always have plenty of good material.”
Some people are always serious and extremely wary of doing ‘silly’ things out of fear that it might affect their ‘image’ in front of others. And if you are one of them, then you need to learn to relax and do some silly stuff from time to time.
Go out and participate in a street dance competition and let yourself loose, or dress up as your favorite superhero and roam the streets. Whatever you do, make sure that you get out of your comfort zone.
Only then can you develop a humorous side. If you live a restricted life, then you will never be able to acquire the requisite sense of humor. So, start doing and saying some silly things, and you will definitely see life through the eyes of a comedian.
“Laughter is a holy thing. It is as sacred as music and silence and solemnity, maybe more sacred. Laughter is like a prayer, like a bridge over which creatures tiptoe to meet each other. Laughter is like mercy; it heals. When you can laugh at yourself, you are free.”
Life is a joke, after all. Who knows when things all fall apart? So, why keep tight about it all? Start loosening up, and take life to be something that should be laughed at. When you are with the right people, laughing at situations becomes easier.
Laughter brings positive vibes in your life, positive vibes attract positive people, which in turn removes negativity from your life. It’s a circle – you need to get the ball rolling to change the bubble of emotions you surround yourself with.
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