Everyone wants to be successful. Different people have different criteria for success. While some pine for fame, others prefer wealth; they’re those who want to be respected above all else, and then there are people who define success as the peace of mind and ability to be free.
However you define success, dreaming about it and reaching that pedestal are two different things. What separates them is actually just one simple thing – the willingness to change one’s behavior and thought process. You must first admit that you are where you are right now because of the choices you’ve thus far made in life.
Like Marshall Goldsmith, the famous leadership thinker put it, “What got you here, won’t get you there.” He actually wrote a whole book on that. So, if you need to achieve that lofty goal, you need to get your thoughts in place, redefine mental models and pick up your act. Success is a result of choices. So, start choosing good from now on.
People who remain stuck with negative behaviors will never be a success and are destined to only dream of it. But those who are willing to learn about and understand where they go wrong and are open to modifying them, will always be on the path to success. It’s just a matter of time for these folks. Consistency is the key to success in whatever you want to achieve.
And if you are such a person (of course you are, why else would you be reading this) who is willing to change themselves to be successful, understand the mechanics of success, whether in your career or personal life, then you have to give up the negative attitudes mentioned below.
1. Don’t Be Afraid of Your Abilities
“There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed.”
Some people have a tendency to hold back their abilities just so that they don’t make other people feel inferior. Such an attitude will only keep you in a secondary position, never letting you get the taste of being a leader.
After all, being at the top means you have to outsmart everyone else competing for the position. When you hold yourself back, it is inevitable that you will never be ‘numero uno’. So, if you have a tendency to downplay abilities while in a team, then you should stop doing that. Use all your talents on whatever task you are assigned and come out on top.
There will obviously be people who don’t like the fact that you are number one. But you don’t have to mind them. Instead, associate with those who appreciate your effort and value you for the talents you have displayed.
2. Get Rid of Toxic People
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
– Jim Rohn
There will likely be lots of toxic people around you who aim to keep you in your current state, never allowing you to be successful. Such people might be acting this way due to a number of reasons, ranging from jealousy to their own insecurities.
Whatever be their motivations, get rid of such toxic people and cut off all relationships with them. Maintaining any sort of contact with them is not only useless, but will also be counterproductive, and will hold you back from your goal.
Instead, develop relationships with people who value your growth, appreciate your success, and give you suggestions as to how to improve yourself. Surrounding yourself with such supportive people alone will give you a huge confidence boost.
Even better, surround yourself with people the likes of which you wish to achieve, i.e. those who are better than you.
3. Avoid Being Fixated on Idealistic Standards of Perfection
“Done is better than perfect.”
There is nothing perfect in this world. And this is something that many people who naively chase an idealistic sense of perfectionism need to understand. Without grasping this concept and being happy with achieving a realistic goal, you will only waste life on a wild goose chase, remaining in the same position at all times, never improving and becoming successful.
For example, imagine that you are an artist tasked with creating four paintings for a company with a deadline of 2 months. Once the client has agreed on your basic concepts, you should move on to creating the painting one by one.
But if during the process of creating the first painting, you come up with an idea to make it even better then you might think of adapting your painting to the new idea. Don’t do it. Since the client has already approved an idea, go ahead with it and complete it. Overthinking should be avoided.
If you think of implementing the new idea, then you might come up with yet another idea that is better than everything you had till now. And this stream of ideas will never cease and you will never be able to complete the paintings in time.
This will obviously hurt your reputation as a painter and people will opt not to hire you because of your inability to meet deadlines, thereby hurting your chances of being successful. So, forget about idealistic perfection, and instead focus on meeting achievable targets.
4. Don’t Seek Validation From Others
“I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure–It is: Try to please everybody.”
– Herbert Bayard Swope
When you do something, focus on doing it well. Don’t act in order to please someone else and gain their appreciation. That is definitely not the attitude of a winner. Successful people don’t do things just because they will receive appreciation.
In turn, they do whatever they are tasked with, in the right way. And this makes them successful, eventually getting them praise from all corners. So, focus on doing the job at hand the best way possible, and you will have the mindset of a winner.
Only when there is truth in what you do, can you understand it completely, and improve upon it to achieve real success.
5. Stay Fit And Healthy
Be sure to keep yourself healthy and fit. If you pursue an unhealthy lifestyle filled with fatty foods and zero exercises, then success will be out of reach. Cut down on the junk food and start eating healthy, nutritious meals. Join a gym and get your body in shape. You don’t have to get a six-pack. You just have to be fit. And this will ensure that you have the energy to remain completely focused on your goal all day long.
Doing one good thing, however small, in a disciplined manner will lead to larger changes that will have an impact on the rest of your decisions, and eventually, change the course of your life. For more on this, read about Kaizen, the Japanese method of taking small steps to achieve large goals.
Go about everything at a steady pace, there’s no need to try to conquer the world in one day. Start tackling the problem areas one by one to achieve success with everything.
Which of These 9 Types Of Intelligent Are You?
When we talk about intelligence, most of the time it’s on linear terms. Either someone is intelligent or they aren’t.
What some people refer to when they talk about intelligence, is academic prowess. “She’s very intelligent, always at the top of her class.” Other times, they refer to quick-mindedness or wit. “He always has a response to everything, quite an intelligent man!”
There is no general consensus on what intelligence actually refers to. Then comes along the question of origin. Where does intelligence come from? Is it genetic; are you born with it? Or do you become intelligent because of your circumstances, such as going to a good school?
Psychology answers these questions in a few different theories. My favorite one is by the American developmental psychologist Howard Gardner. It’s called the Multiple Intelligence Theory. Gardner talks about how multifaceted intelligence really is, and how it interplays with what we consider to be ‘talents’.
Gardner introduced 9 types of intelligence. Most people have all types of intelligence in them, but at varying degrees. That means you’ll have some amount of intellectual capacity of all 9 types, but may be strongest in only one or two.
You can do a quiz to find out which type of intelligence you are, and then come back here and read up about your type of intelligence.
Let’s find out about the different types!
Understanding your type of intelligence can greatly help in self-awareness of your strengths and weaknesses and also with career choice!
People strong in visual-spatial intelligence are great with visualizing concepts. They also tend to have a good sense of direction.
Architects, Artists, and Navigators score high on Visual-Spatial Intelligence
People with this kind of intelligence have an affinity for words. They’re able to use language effectively for communication and tend to be comfortable with the written and spoken word.
Teachers, Writers, Lawyers are all high on Linguistic-Verbal Intelligence
You have strong Logical-Mathematical Intelligence if you’re great at handling logical operations and have always been good at Math! These individuals have a strong analytical brain and are great at problem-solving.
They’re also interested in research and empirical data. That’s why you’ll find Engineers, Scientists, Mathematicians all high in Logical-Mathematical Intelligence.
People scoring high in this kind of intelligence are said to have strong dexterity and motor skills. Their proficiency lies in tactile actions. They tend to be good at sports, dance, and other activities that require the brain to be fine-tuned to the body’s movements.
They’re also great at learning things through doing rather than reading or hearing about it. That means that they learn through experiences, kinesthetically.
Actors, Dancers, Sculptors, are all examples of professions that would require high levels of Bodily/Kinesthetic intelligence.
Yes, Music is an intelligence too! We think of it as just a talent, but it’s definitely an intellectual capacity. People who have music intelligence show proficiency for playing musical instruments from a young age as well as a deep understanding of rhythm and melody.
They’re also great at remembering tunes and picking up musical patterns. They’re best at learning something if they attach a melody to it. Miley Cyrus and the Bone Dance episode — we’re looking at you!
Music intelligence is found in a wide range of musical careers, from composers to producers and artists.
You’ve probably used the term interpersonal skills at a job interview, thinking it just means you get along with people. It’s also a form of intelligence, according to Gardner, and is much more than being extraverted.
Somebody with strong interpersonal intelligence doesn’t just get along with everyone, they also instinctively understand human emotions. They are able to identify and relate to almost anybody, and ‘speak the language’ of human emotions fluently. This means they can recognize someone else’s emotions and take it a step further by manipulating it (for better or worse!)
They intuitively know the motives, intentions, and desires of the people they interact with.
Great career options for people high in interpersonal intelligence are Psychologists, Counselors, Salespeople, or Politicians!
While Interpersonal Intelligence was all about understanding other people, Intrapersonal Intelligence is all about truly understanding yourself and being in tune with your own emotions, desires, and intentions.
They have a high level of self-awareness and are able to accomplish success in life by truly knowing themselves. They are able to spend time day-dreaming and introspecting, and can feel enriched with quality alone time.
Philosophers, Writers, Scientists all have great intrapersonal intelligence since they are able to identify their own strengths and weaknesses and hone their skills for greater achievements.
Simply put, if someone has a green thumb, they would score well in Naturalistic Intelligence. However, there is also much more than that. People with high intelligence in this category are able to be in tune with nature and have an affinity for nurturing and devoting time to other species.
It explains why some people have a burning passion for environmentalism and deeply care about animals and nature while others have no capacity for it at all.
They’re excellent at identifying patterns in nature and understanding the different ways that other species ‘communicate’.
Unsurprisingly, people with high naturalistic intelligence are Farmers, Gardeners, and Botanists.
People with existential intelligence have the capacity to devote their life to deal with the abstract and the intangible. They’re in tune with the spiritual realm and can spend time pondering concepts about the universe and religion.
Religious leaders, philosophers, astrologists all have very high existential intelligence. They have the ability to ‘look at the bigger picture’ for most of their life without getting bogged down by the nitty-gritties of the everyday.
How Reading can impact your Day to Day Life?
Reading is a healthy habit, which, if practiced daily, can change your entire life around. Do you want to know why? Through Reading, one can not only gain knowledge but also stay acquainted with the outside as well as the inside world. The best thing about reading daily is to have an isolated place for yourself in your mind, where you can run off to. Most people don’t have the patience or intention to read, and that too, daily. Though this is a habit that takes time to settle in but trust me, once it does, you would never regret it. So, here is a list of reasons why you should read daily?
Why should you read daily?
- To gain knowledge
Once you start reading daily, and by Reading, it can be anything – you can read few pages of a novel, or a magazine, or newspaper, or even poetry – you would notice within weeks how much your knowledge regarding the outer world has improved. Through Reading, one can have clear information regarding the current affairs, and hence, stay updated.
- To improve your vocabulary
Through Reading, you can definitely learn new words and hence, improve your vocabulary. Most people make it a habit to learn a new word from the dictionary every day, but if you read daily, you are bound to get new words and make a list of them on a notebook with their meanings, which is definitely going to be helpful for you.
- To have a make-believe world
The most beautiful consequence of Reading is having one’s own imaginary world, where one can live a life full of magic. This is the extraordinary superpower one acquires while reading. In this busy daily life of ours, we all look for a secluded place where we can feel the essence of peace. Reading can fly you off to the imaginary land of sunflowers, daisies, and cats who can indeed talk.
- To become more attentive
Most people lack patience nowadays. Being impatient and restless has become a severe problem in today’s world. Here, Reading can help you calm your mind and improve your observation skills. It works like meditation. In no time, you would find your mind focusing on details and becoming more attentive to events, which used to go unnoticed.
- To reduce stress
Reading is similar to meditation, and hence, it definitely helps to reduce your stress. Books always have a calming effect on one’s mind. It takes you away from daily problems and stressful situations and helps your mind to gain stability. Not only it helps in reducing stress, but it also helps to decrease the anxiety levels of a person.
Everyone should make reading a daily habit. One should switch off the mobile phones, turn off the television and take some time out to read. It works wonders on one’s day-to-day life and changes one person’s entire personality. Though it can be hard at first, with time, you would cherish the moments alone, reading in a corner while your mind is flying off to Narnia.
Post-COVID: Transformation of work Culture
The environment and situation around us promote us to adapt to change. The epidemic COVID 19 has not just changed the structure of a workplace but also changed the idea of communication between individuals. Technology has become the survival kit for many organizations as they move their offices online. Applications and communication websites such as zoom, slack, Trello have become the organization’s best friends. With the fast-growing online base, the future of companies post-COVID 19, is something that needs to be considered or discussed. Work from home scenario was first seen to be frustrating but now people seem to have become accustomed to it. Hence when they do make the shift from a virtual office to a real-time office, it is sure to transform the meaning of work culture.
Working from the comfort of your bed to a flexible job timing, you log into your meeting this work from home has become the new normal. Companies have been changing the way they function, and it has been a chaotic few months for everyone due to the corona pandemic. This has made virtual offices a reality. Trying to function at times like this has been difficult, the change has been both positive and negative, while also requiring improvements. But, going back to office spaces and resuming work, would include massive changes and adjustment from both parties. Businesses would try to survive with the conditions, while the employees would be trying to adjust to the void that COVID left behind. Going back to work would be defined differently. The definition would include people coming in and out at their preferred timings, as well as for deciding how much time they want to work in proximity with people. This means that people would come into office spaces, but with their own weekly schedule and pace. Therefore a great cultural change would take place for many industries and setups. Working form home includes the dress code of wearing pajamas and thinking of comfort, which would affect the concept of dress codes in office spaces. The idea of comfort would change the dressing culture of organizations.
The culture of meetings and communication would have a different understanding among the organizations. Working with virtual mode to communicate for so many months meant adapting to it, and has become the most efficient way. The technology in real-time offices would just be a means of connection, and not requiring everyone to be in the same room. Not just this but the idea of meetings all together might be re-evaluated. Commuting ideas or messages would turn into email threads or chat rooms. Presentations could be shared online and interaction between people would remain in these mediums. Meetings defined this way would lead to co-working spaces being promoted by companies for their employees. Hence, the idea of buildings as an office space would change as the organizations would pay for their employees to use such spaces and would cut down on real estate for organizations. This would be different for different sectors of work, but nonetheless the culture of working in an office building would change.
With business comes, traveling and the idea of the same would truly change. People would be more hesitant to take up traveling, and if they do they would be more careful and take precautions. Paranoia might seep in and travel to other countries would be avoided as much as possible. Further companies might even evolve traveling, by making it online. Organizations would convert meetings in other countries online and it would seem more efficient in terms of cost as well. Post pandemic companies are going to be in a crunch in terms of finance, their idea would be to survive. The ones who adapt to change and shift with time are the ones who survive, but to survive they would try to cut the extra expenses. Survival kit would also incorporate the sacking of employees. Many companies have already started to fire employees due to the sudden downfall of the economy. Various sectors are trying to survive and keep afloat, and making difficult decisions.
Safety being a huge concern during COVID would still remain post-pandemic as well. Individuals are going to be more aware of their surroundings, and their health would be their priorities. So, when they do meet their colleagues, greetings would be different. People would be careful and social distancing would now become a part of their normal behavior. Companies too are going to take more precautions with their employees’ health. Routine check-ups would be very common, and temperatures would be checked when employees enter the buildings. When individuals open the door to enter their office they would not just be greeted by the view of their cubicles. They would also spot sanitizers placed everywhere, and trying to guess who is under the mask. Health care rules would be altered, an employee feeling under the weather would be asked to work from home. The time of the employees is monetized and hence it wouldn’t matter where they work as long as they do the required days work. Work culture would be under construction Post-COVID and only time can tell what the new look truly holds for everyone.
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