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4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

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4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

Since we were kids, the importance of being successful has been instilled in us. May it be ranking first in the class or winning a running race. Every kid wanted to succeed to feel the pride that came with the elder’s appreciation or to escape the nagging about the need for success.

As we grow up, our tests and races change, but the need to succeed is constant. The meaning of success can be different for everyone. People have become obsessed with achievements and the pursuit of wealth. After we get our degrees and find jobs, it pretty much turns into a constant race to see how much we can achieve in how less of a time.

Everyone we meet wants to know how much money we make, and if it isn’t a lot, then future plans are asked. Don’t even get me started about being an entrepreneur. The constant questions of if your business is successful yet come pouring in even from people you don’t know well enough.

There are a lot of things that affect our success. External roadblocks are much easier to pinpoint than the ones we create in our minds. As an entrepreneur starting the journey, you might be familiar with how low self-esteem, self-doubt, bad habits can all keep us from achieving the success we want.

1. You don’t have a clear vision

4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

How you see the world has a huge hand in what steps you take to get where you desire to be. Believing in your potential, believing that this was what you were meant to do, believing in the purpose of your actions are all the things that allow you to keep moving forward. When even one of these beliefs becomes clouded in your mind, you will find it difficult to keep traveling the difficult part towards a successful life.

“When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.”

-Audre Lorde

How you look at everything also determines how you go about achieving your goals. Do you see failures as full stops or just commas? This determines how much you are willing to push. Do you believe in doing whatever it takes to achieve something? This determines how far you are willing to go. Would you trade your dream for a comfortable and secure life? This shows what hold priority in your life.

When your perception of life or perceptive of how you view things is flawed, you hit a mental roadblock. Because no matter what comes your way, you will find something in it to fit it into your flawed narration. Most of the times, problems seem bigger or smaller depending on how much we let them affect us. When you keep your vision clear, it becomes easier to follow the tunnel-vision towards success.

“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.”

-Arthur Ashe

2. You are confused about traveling the unknown path

4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

Now, that we have knowing-what-you-want cleared, we still have the how-you-want-to-get-there to focus on to. When the path you want to travel isn’t clear, you can easily feel lost. The lost feeling is one of the difficult mental blocks to get out of. You feel like you have nowhere to go from here. You can’t seem to find a way to reach your destination. You feel everything is pointless. These feelings can haunt the living light out of your productivity.

“Unless you walk out into the unknown, the odds of making a profound difference in your life are pretty low.”  

-Tom Peters

Figuring out what you want in life is very important when all you see is a void ahead. If you feel like you have no clue where you are going with any of what you are doing, then take some time off to just focus on that. Because once you know what path you want to travel or what destination you want to reach, it becomes easier to focus on getting there. You just need to know your destination, you will find the way. Better yet, you will pave your own way.

3. You are mentally unprepared to put in the work

4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

This happens to the best of us, especially when starting out. We let our emotions dictate our work ethic, and to say the least, that can be disastrous. Procrastination and laziness are examples of how we ruin our chances of getting what we want. Entrepreneurship is already hard, demanding,  and needs you to put in work every day.

“The really happy people are those who have broken the chains of procrastination, those who find satisfaction in doing the job at hand. They’re full of eagerness, zest, productivity. You can be, too.”

– Norman Vincent Peale

Some days you might not feel like working when you should be. Maybe you want to binge-watch the new show you have started or want to go out with your friends or watch a movie. There can be a lot number of things you would want to do instead of working, and that is exactly what you need to fight.

If you let your feelings get into the way of achieving daily goals and targets, you will get that much farther from your end goals. While everyone has lazy days, too many can kill your productivity altogether. Knowing what you want isn’t enough to succeed if you are not ready to put in the work needed.

4. You are undisciplined

4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

Jobs give you the discipline of working every day, achieving daily targets, working consistently. When you work for yourself, you don’t have that privilege. You need to have a routine and make yourself follow it. When you work a job, you have someone to answer to. The sense of accountability makes you get the work done, no matter if you want to do or not. You don’t get to procrastinate.

You will get reprimanded for not doing your work. You will feel humiliation if told your work isn’t good enough. You will even feel a sense of dread about losing your job if your sloppiness goes on. These feelings aren’t present when working on your business, not to the extent of a job.

“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, But painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

-Hebrews 12:11

When you work for yourself, you for the most part only have yourself to answer to. This makes it easier for your mind to use any reason to justify your procrastination. You have to hold on to that sense of accountability even when you are technically not answerable to anyone.

Most of our struggles are internal. Once we learn to point out where our problem lies within, it becomes easier to pin it down and bury it. Getting rid of your mental roadblock prepares you to face any obstacle heads on. You get to give your 100 percent, to put your best foot forward, to achieve what you want. Think about what’s holding you back and fight it. A sound mind is an important asset; use it!

“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.”

– Mark Victor Hansen



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6 Reasons Why Listening To Podcasts Can Benefit Your Life

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Podcasting is the latest way of sharing and spreading information. Some people also say podcasts are going to replace blogs as they are easy to consume and also entertaining. Only time will tell that. However, podcasting is an American way of sharing information and it has been there for a long time. In earlier times, people use to broadcast them live on the radio.

They are also more personal than TV talk shows and radios. Some of the podcast hosts really open up about their personal life and share stories that motivate and inspire the listeners. Some podcasts don’t show the speaker; they are audio only. While others show both audio and video. I like the latter format.  

Here are 6 reasons how listening to podcasts can benefit your life.

1. Podcasts are a great alternative to books

Not everyone likes to learn in a structured way. In fact, there are some cultures in which it is frowned upon to take a systematic approach to learning and problem-solving. I know it is unlike American culture but there are some pros in learning things by osmosis. A podcast is a talk show where one or more than one people share their personal stories, experiences and knowledge.

For instance, listening to a podcast from someone like Neil Degrasse Tyson is far more entertaining than reading his books. His books don’t create the same dramatic effect that he is able to create in his podcasts. Consequently, listening to a podcast can be more beneficial than reading books. The listener gets to emotionally connect with the podcast host. Therefore, a better learning experience.

2. They provide entertainment

6 Reasons Why Listening To Podcasts Can Benefit Your Life
Dublin, Wednesday 31th October 2013: Pictured at the The Web Summit 2013, RDS. Photo by Dan Taylor/Heisenberg Media

It is very rare that a top podcast on YouTube or Spotify is uninteresting or boring. Entertainment is a huge factor when determining how well a podcast is going to do on these platforms. No matter how much value a podcast creator provides via his/her content, it is not going to blow up unless it is entertaining.

Listening to podcasts is like watching a TV talk show. But the only difference is that podcasts are not scripted and are unfiltered. So, a listener gets to know what their heroes like Elon Musk and Mike Tyson actually think and feel. In my opinion, Joe Rogan Experience and Joey Diaz are the most entertaining podcast on YouTube. They are also packed with knowledge and interesting facts.

3. They are authentic and genuine

Unlike TV talk shows, podcasts are created by people who are doing great things in life and are willing to share their knowledge and experience with us. Joe Rogan and Tim Ferriss are the best examples of such people. They both had already achieved so much in their life before they started to share their experience with people.

I accept that scripted TV talk shows can also be entertaining. But spontaneity and authenticity are two values that most successful people live by and also seek in other people. Jocko Willink is another example of a genuine and authentic podcaster. Jocko makes listening to podcasts a pure pleasure as he shares stories from his days in the United States Navy.

4. You get to learn from industry experts

Tom Ferry shares his knowledge on the real estate investments in North America on his YouTube channel. He not only educates people about investment but also teaches them how to become a real estate agent and grow their business in the same field. By listening to podcasts similar to Tom’s, you will not only gain knowledge of your desired industry but also get inner circle insights that are not openly discussed anywhere else.

5. It’s a great companion during the commute

6 Reasons Why Listening To Podcasts Can Benefit Your Life

It’s a good habit to listen to audiobooks while commuting to work or just traveling. Audiobooks are great at providing you with precise and step by step knowledge. But they can be flat and boring sometimes. Listening to podcasts while commuting has some additional benefits that the audiobooks don’t.

Podcast are entertaining and keep you in a social mood. Especially, when you are returning home. Audiobooks can put you in work-mode. Moreover, you can also listen to podcasts while working out in the gym, taking a walk in the park, running, etc. I feel like they have a perfect mix of entertainment and learning.

6. Most of the great podcasts are free of cost

Audiobooks cost more than $10. Even if you listen to one audiobook per week, your monthly expense on them goes up to $40. These $40 can be easily saved or used for something else. Most of the great podcasts are absolutely free of charge. You can stream or download them anytime you want. Moreover, listening to podcasts from several different authors may also give you a glimpse of what they are all about. This helps you buy the perfect audiobook for your needs.

I hope these reasons are enough to motivate and inspire you to add this new habit to your daily routine. This is one of those habits where you don’t have to do much. Just search for your favorite topic on YouTube, sit back and relax. You could support these content creator by donating a few bucks if you want but most of them don’t even ask for donations. So, there is nothing to risk or lose.

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5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

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5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

There are a lot of memes about how what we learned in school is never useful in our real lives. The skills that we need to survive in the real world are seldom taught by schools or even elders. The most important things that we need to do as adults are something that most of us learn ourselves.

Getting out of colleges and universities, we feel like we are now ready to step into proper adulthood where we earn for ourselves and pay for our own bills. But, that is not how we continue feeling; the first few years pass in figuring out how to exactly to do the adult stuff. Here are a few things that people usually struggle with and why it is important to incorporate them into our lives early on.

1. Personal finance

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

As we grow up, we realize that money is one of the most significant aspects of life that we need to survive. Proper management of finances is seldom taught to us, it is learned through mistakes and experiences. Learning personal finance is usually expected to be coached by parents but isn’t it an important life skill which schools should be responsible for?

It is no surprise that most of the lottery winners end up getting broke or exhausting the money on addictions. Adequate management of funds and investment of money should be introduced from an early age by the school systems to make the future children more responsible.

2. Importance of mental health

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

Mental health is something which was not even acknowledged until the 2000s. Anxiety, stress, worry, paranoia, depression, etc. are realities of life, and children should not grow up kicking themselves for feeling these things. The way a person behaves in adversity is usually molded by how that person grew up dealing with problems as a kid.

The notion that not having a good head space is unnatural, uncommon, or not important ends up worsening the situation rather than dealing with the issues at its source. Many schools are starting to introduce psychiatrist and counselors, but they should also make sure students don’t feel worried or taboo to approach them. Respect and awareness for mental health should be introduced right at the beginning of a person’s life to ease things in the future.

3. Friendships and romantic relationships

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

A significant part of a person’s life is spent on maintaining friendships and romantic relationships, yet little to none is contributed in this direction by the schooling system. This is another important aspect of life, which is expected to be taught and taken care of by elders and parents.

The constant breaking of relationships is proof that people need to be taught how to respect others’ space, learn to trust, overcome bad times, share feelings, and communicate. Dating, romance, and sexual urges are frowned upon and ignored in certain countries, which ironically ends up worsening the situation as children grow up learning from wrong sources.

It is high time this is acknowledged as a fact of life, and schools try to lay down a foundation from the beginning of a person’s life. Some schools have taken that up by introducing sex education into their curriculum.

4. Basic life skills (cooking, repairing, and swimming)

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

We all come across memes online on “If only I learned this in school.” Cooking, repairing, and swimming, are all life skills which might not necessarily be vital in life, but they are very common and makes a person independent and confident to live alone. Cooking is not learned by someone unless it is necessary or they have an interest in it. When people move out of their parent’s house, this is one of their biggest regrets as food is one of the basics of life.

Repair work and swimming, however, might not seem as important as cooking but they are handy skills to have in the bag in case something goes wrong. It is often the case that people say growing up is a combination of learning and getting a lot of things right, but seldom do we realize very few of them were taught to you in school. This pattern has to change to make the future kids better equipped to deal with the reality of life.

5. Professional etiquette

5 Life Skills Your School Should Have Taught You But Didn’t

It is often the case that people have to learn to speak and write formally. Writing a resume, email, or even a letter is a challenge for most; communication is poor in general. Communication and professional work etiquette are vital in life irrespective of the field one intends to go into.

In the past, recruiters have found it difficult to hire a person just because of the lack of common etiquette and communication skills. Respecting diversity and working in harmony with people you do not necessarily connect with is critical. Hostile work environment will always lead to inconvenience and less productivity. Common manners and etiquettes should be introduced by the school system to generate better workers and better work environment.

Where does this leave us?

While we all know this, and we all discuss this. Changes aren’t that easy to come. School systems changing isn’t as easy as just flipping the curriculum. Yes, we would love to have schools teach real-life skills. Many schools are making changes to incorporate various subjects and workshops for better preparing the kids for life.

It is slow, but there is progress. Meanwhile, as elders, we need to teach the children all that they will need to know when they step into adulthood themselves. Don’t shy away from teaching them about personal finances, savings, taxes, housing, anything that can be pegged as boring. Tag them along from time to time so that they get the experience of these things first hand. Take the children with you to the bank, to shopping for groceries, to pay bills – let them see what it takes and how it is done. Remember, we all need to do our part for a better world.

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7 Things Not to Say If You Want to be Successful

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7 Things Not to Say If You Want to be Successful

When we begin our journey, there are a lot of thoughts that plague our minds. Some of them positive, but most of them negative. You must have heard people mention “Law of attraction.” It means you attract what you think. Fear is one of the most prominent emotions that controls us in the starting phase. These thoughts are a result of fear and sometimes, ego.

Knowing what thoughts to hold on to and what ideas to let go is crucial to develop a positive attitude. Most of the things that I am going to talk about end up making us pessimists, egotistical, careless, and cocky.

These are the things we use as an excuse as to why we aren’t doing anything to change our situation that we hate or why we aren’t working on our dreams. These also make excuses for our own shortcomings. To be successful, it is vital to get rid of emotions that do nothing but pull you down or make you feel comfortable in your own incompetence.

1. “I’m just waiting for the right time to start doing things the way I think I should.”

Right time never comes. No time is the right time. You have to take the time and make it right. If this is your excuse for not getting started on building things the way you want them to be, then it is just that- an EXCUSE!

Many people lose precious years because they wait for the perfect moment. The perfect moment to quit their job, the perfect moment to launch a business, the perfect moment to take a risk. Guess what? The perfect moment never comes. There will always be something that will give you a reason to not take the first step. If you are looking for a reason to stay where you are, then you will surely find it. You have to get over it and just start. The start is the tricky part; it then becomes easier emotionally.

2. “I’ll start working from tomorrow.”

Tomorrow never comes for people who use this as an excuse. I used to do this with my workout plans. “I will start exercising from tomorrow.” “I will start eating healthy from tomorrow.” Trust me; there is nothing healthy about this mindset.

It is a way of procrastinating but on a much larger scale. When you procrastinate on a specific task that you will have to do, that you are accountable for, that you will be answerable to someone for, you will eventually end up doing it. But goals that you have for yourself do not necessarily have a deadline, so it is easier for your brain to keep pushing it without feeling guilty. Ask yourself, “Why not today?” If you don’t have a logical answer, then start it today.

3. “I know I need to work hard but ….”

4. “I don’t need to change anything.”

5. “I’m too busy for this.”

When you know you need to work hard, but you still find some excuse not to, just know that the problem is you. We do not like to accept that we are at fault in any situation. We are also creatures of habit. While we want change, we don’t like to go through the process of bringing change.

When we want grand things, we have to make efforts that are bigger than anything we have done before. We want something, but we don’t want to change anything to get it. This is because we get too comfortable where we are. Getting out of your comfort zone is necessary to achieve success.

“Too busy” is an excuse I hear a lot. “Why aren’t you doing something that clearly needs to be done for yourself?” is something that people ask people who keep talking about their dreams but do nothing for them to come true. If being busy is your answer, then you need to realize that you don’t want it as bad as you think you do. When you really want something, you make time for it. That’s how priorities work.

6. “He/she was born to succeed. I don’t have what it takes.”

7. “I was just unlucky this time.”

Making excuses like success depends on luck or on other people being more skilled than you are the laziest ones you can make. If you really think that all it takes to succeed is luck, then you are wrong on so many levels.

“Success comes when preparation meets opportunity.”

-English Proverb

If you want “luck” to be in your favor, you have to work hard. When you put all the work out there, you are sure to attract opportunities. Sure some people are more talented than others, but that will be the case in every scenario. Does that mean we should stop aiming for great things? No! Sometimes people with talent fail because they are not willing to put in the work needed. You will see people who are not necessarily naturally-gifted in a field making steady progress because they keep learning and improving themselves. It all boils down to consistency at the end of the day.

A negative mentality can hurt even the best works. This is why people focus so much on cutting negativity out of your life. If you are not a pessimist, surrounding yourself with people like that will make you one. People you hang out regularly with have quite an influence on your thought process. Surround yourself with people who know how to look at the silver lining.

When you are trying to make something of yourself, it is definitely hard. You are scared, you are worried, you want to be the best. You do not need to add the extra obstacle of your own thoughts. Don’t let your thoughts hold you back, if anything, they should help you propel. This is also why meditation is advised for people who have trouble getting their thoughts in order. Try meditating, and you will learn how much of an asset a clear mind truly is.

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