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4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

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4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

Since we were kids, the importance of being successful has been instilled in us. May it be ranking first in the class or winning a running race. Every kid wanted to succeed to feel the pride that came with the elder’s appreciation or to escape the nagging about the need for success.

As we grow up, our tests and races change, but the need to succeed is constant. The meaning of success can be different for everyone. People have become obsessed with achievements and the pursuit of wealth. After we get our degrees and find jobs, it pretty much turns into a constant race to see how much we can achieve in how less of a time.

Everyone we meet wants to know how much money we make, and if it isn’t a lot, then future plans are asked. Don’t even get me started about being an entrepreneur. The constant questions of if your business is successful yet come pouring in even from people you don’t know well enough.

There are a lot of things that affect our success. External roadblocks are much easier to pinpoint than the ones we create in our minds. As an entrepreneur starting the journey, you might be familiar with how low self-esteem, self-doubt, bad habits can all keep us from achieving the success we want.

1. You don’t have a clear vision

4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

How you see the world has a huge hand in what steps you take to get where you desire to be. Believing in your potential, believing that this was what you were meant to do, believing in the purpose of your actions are all the things that allow you to keep moving forward. When even one of these beliefs becomes clouded in your mind, you will find it difficult to keep traveling the difficult part towards a successful life.

“When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.”

-Audre Lorde

How you look at everything also determines how you go about achieving your goals. Do you see failures as full stops or just commas? This determines how much you are willing to push. Do you believe in doing whatever it takes to achieve something? This determines how far you are willing to go. Would you trade your dream for a comfortable and secure life? This shows what hold priority in your life.

When your perception of life or perceptive of how you view things is flawed, you hit a mental roadblock. Because no matter what comes your way, you will find something in it to fit it into your flawed narration. Most of the times, problems seem bigger or smaller depending on how much we let them affect us. When you keep your vision clear, it becomes easier to follow the tunnel-vision towards success.

“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.”

-Arthur Ashe

2. You are confused about traveling the unknown path

4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

Now, that we have knowing-what-you-want cleared, we still have the how-you-want-to-get-there to focus on to. When the path you want to travel isn’t clear, you can easily feel lost. The lost feeling is one of the difficult mental blocks to get out of. You feel like you have nowhere to go from here. You can’t seem to find a way to reach your destination. You feel everything is pointless. These feelings can haunt the living light out of your productivity.

“Unless you walk out into the unknown, the odds of making a profound difference in your life are pretty low.”  

-Tom Peters

Figuring out what you want in life is very important when all you see is a void ahead. If you feel like you have no clue where you are going with any of what you are doing, then take some time off to just focus on that. Because once you know what path you want to travel or what destination you want to reach, it becomes easier to focus on getting there. You just need to know your destination, you will find the way. Better yet, you will pave your own way.

3. You are mentally unprepared to put in the work

4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

This happens to the best of us, especially when starting out. We let our emotions dictate our work ethic, and to say the least, that can be disastrous. Procrastination and laziness are examples of how we ruin our chances of getting what we want. Entrepreneurship is already hard, demanding,  and needs you to put in work every day.

“The really happy people are those who have broken the chains of procrastination, those who find satisfaction in doing the job at hand. They’re full of eagerness, zest, productivity. You can be, too.”

– Norman Vincent Peale

Some days you might not feel like working when you should be. Maybe you want to binge-watch the new show you have started or want to go out with your friends or watch a movie. There can be a lot number of things you would want to do instead of working, and that is exactly what you need to fight.

If you let your feelings get into the way of achieving daily goals and targets, you will get that much farther from your end goals. While everyone has lazy days, too many can kill your productivity altogether. Knowing what you want isn’t enough to succeed if you are not ready to put in the work needed.

4. You are undisciplined

4 Mental Roadblocks That Stop You From Succeeding

Jobs give you the discipline of working every day, achieving daily targets, working consistently. When you work for yourself, you don’t have that privilege. You need to have a routine and make yourself follow it. When you work a job, you have someone to answer to. The sense of accountability makes you get the work done, no matter if you want to do or not. You don’t get to procrastinate.

You will get reprimanded for not doing your work. You will feel humiliation if told your work isn’t good enough. You will even feel a sense of dread about losing your job if your sloppiness goes on. These feelings aren’t present when working on your business, not to the extent of a job.

“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, But painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

-Hebrews 12:11

When you work for yourself, you for the most part only have yourself to answer to. This makes it easier for your mind to use any reason to justify your procrastination. You have to hold on to that sense of accountability even when you are technically not answerable to anyone.

Most of our struggles are internal. Once we learn to point out where our problem lies within, it becomes easier to pin it down and bury it. Getting rid of your mental roadblock prepares you to face any obstacle heads on. You get to give your 100 percent, to put your best foot forward, to achieve what you want. Think about what’s holding you back and fight it. A sound mind is an important asset; use it!

“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.”

– Mark Victor Hansen



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7 Things You Have To Give Up If You Want To Be Successful

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Personal habits are a critical factor when it comes to being successful in life. No one has ever reached great heights by possessing unhealthy habits. If such a person does become rich or famous, he/she will fail to sustain their position for a long time.

This article is for someone who wants to be successful in life but is not able to do so because of some of their habits and behaviors. I am guessing you already know your life goal. Once you are aware of your unconscious behaviors, you can do something to get rid of them. And then you will be free to design a roadmap that will take you to your goal.   

There is a clear distinction between the way a wealthy person lives his/her life and a poor person goes through life. The difference is not in their intelligence or knowledge, but it is in their daily habits. As Robert Kiyosaki–the author of the best selling book Rich Dad Poor Dad— famously said: “A person can be highly educated, professionally successful, and financially illiterate.” You must know how finance works if you want to be successful.  

Here are some things you will have to give up if you want to be successful in life.

1. Making excuses all the time

Most people are always waiting for others to give them direction in life. They blame others if things don’t go their way. Making excuses will never lead you to the path of success. Because, instead of taking action, you are choosing to do nothing. As Hollywood actor Clint Eastwood rightly said: “What you put into life is what you get out of it.”

The number one thing that stops you from going for what you want is the negative thinking pattern that makes you feel like you are not good enough. So, why should you even try?

Taking responsibility for your life is the quickest way to stop making excuses. It means being aware of the consequences of your actions. So, next time when you make a mistake, don’t blame others, take responsibility and learn from it.

2. Looking for a magic pill

“Slow and steady wins the race.”

-Robert Lloyd

The magic pill solution is very prevalent in today’s society. People are very much inclined towards fast and effortless ways to achieve things. The best example of a magic pill is the 5-minutes abs commercial. The 5-minutes abs promise that you will get rock-hard abs within two weeks of using their product. This might sound quite enticing to someone who is overweight and lazy.

But the long term effects of these quick-fix solutions are negative. Furthermore, most of the quick-fix solutions available in the market don’t even work. For instance, it takes at least a couple of years of hard work in the gym to get fully fit and have the physique that you want.

Along with that, you also have to eat and sleep well. Knowing this fact, it is ridiculous to think that a 5-minute abs program will help you achieve similar results. So, stop looking for easy solutions if you want to be successful in life.  

3. Fear of failure

7 Things You Have To Give Up If You Want To Be Successful

Fear of failure stops people from trying things out. It is also the number one obstacle that keeps people from becoming financially independent. In reality, failure is supposed to expose our weakness, so that we can work on them and eliminate them eventually.  

Ego is our false sense of self. We create a mental picture of our best self. Your ego protects itself by creating a delusional fear inside your head. Don’t let your ego win. It just wants you to stay the way you are. Moreover, your ego also gets threatened by any major change in your life. To be successful, you will need to evaluate your life and make systematic changes to it.

4. Seeking approval from others

We are hardwired to seek approval from anyone who might seem like they have more authority than us. This survival strategy was useful in the prehistoric period. But in today’s world, seeking approval and validation from others will stop you from being free and unrestrained.

Not being good enough is another reason people seek approval from others. Everyone who is at the top of their field once had to start from the bottom and work their way up. Instead of owning up to our shortcomings and learning to live with them, we seek validation from others.

5. Unhealthy habits that stop you from progressing

7 Things You Have To Give Up If You Want To Be Successful

Your habits are indicators of the quality of your life. Good habits lead to success, happiness, and spiritual well being. Along with forming good habits, it is equally important to become conscious of our bad habits.

Binge eating, not getting enough exercise, not reading books, watching too much television and not sleeping enough are a few common unhealthy habits people have. If you have any of these bad habits, do not try to force yourself to do the right thing. Instead, replace the old habit with a new one.  

Your brain will not comply with you when you are trying to get rid of a bad or unhealthy habit. It gets habituated to the old patterns and wants to do what it is used to doing. So, when you replace an old habit with a new one, you get the same amount of dopamine rush in your brain that the old habit provided. But this time you are doing something constructive with keeping your long term wellbeing in mind.

6. Procrastinating and waiting for the right moment

Procrastination is a habit that gets triggered by stress in your life. It’s your way of taking a break from a hectic life. But like every other habit, it can be broken too. All you have to do is be aware of what your stress responses are and how you are currently dealing with the problems in your life.

Are you drinking too much alcohol, binge-watching television shows, or overeating? Once you know what activity you are indulging in to avoid work or whatever it is that you’re running away from, you can consciously stop yourself from doing it. Over time, you will break the pattern of avoidance and begin to focus on your desired activity.

7. Toxic people in your life

7 Things You Have To Give Up If You Want To Be Successful

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

-Jim Rohn

Your close friends and other people you spend time with, determine how much success you will achieve in life. Surrounding yourself with positive and like-minded people is one of the quickest ways to succeed in life. When you spend time with people who are miserable or unhappy in life, you slowly begin to get affected by their toxicity. Toxic people are everywhere, so you need to keep your eyes and ears open to protect yourself from them.  

People stay in toxic relationships because they think it’s benefiting them somehow. For instance, one might choose to work for an organization that pays well but doesn’t treat their employees properly. In this scenario, you sure become financially secure but what about your spiritual and emotional wellbeing? In a toxic relationship, there is always a major compromise. So, evaluate the people in your life and get rid of anyone who might be hurting your chances of success.

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7 YouTube Channels You Must Watch If You Want More From Life

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People spend hours and hours watching funny cat videos and other viral content on YouTube. And don’t get me wrong. It is important to watch relaxing pet videos online, but it’s more important to consume content that will help you grow as a person. In this post, I have chosen a few Youtube channels that made a profound impact on my life.

Categories like self-help, self-actualization, entrepreneurship, and relationships are the best when it comes to gaining tons of knowledge. Some of the channels on this list post long videos that last for more than an hour and others are short, quick tip clips. In my opinion, both are equally valuable. So, don’t miss out on any of these YouTube channels.

Following are 7 YouTube channels you must watch if you want more from life.

1. TED

7 YouTube Channels You Must Watch If You Want More From Life

TED conferences are a gold mine for young people wanting to learn and grow. Their slogan “ideas worth spreading” perfectly describes what they do as an organization. TED conferences LLC was created by Richard Saul Wurman in the year 1984. More than three decades later, it is now one of the most respected and treasured platforms for budding entrepreneurs, scientists, politicians, and artists.

They post all their conferences on their YouTube channel. All content they post is totally free of cost. They post videos under categories like productivity, pseudo-science, astronomy, medical science, self-improvement, etc. Almost all of their videos have high quality and easy-to-understand content.

The major event is held once a year in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada at the Vancouver Convention Center. In this event, each speaker gives an 18-minute speech in the most entertaining and ingenious way. To give you a headstart, these are the 11 must-see TED talks of all time. I hope you learn a lot from them.  

2. Lewis Howes

7 YouTube Channels You Must Watch If You Want More From Life

Lewis Howes has created one of the best YouTube channels for people looking for podcasts related to self-development and entrepreneurship. His podcast is called School of Greatness. Lewis had a troubled childhood. He was bullied, picked last in sports, and had unhealthy relationships with his peers. His misfortune inspired him to become a great professional athlete and now a successful entrepreneur.   

On his YouTube channel, he interviews successful athletes, authors, artists, and business owners. Tony Robbins and Mark Manson are among the recent guests on his show. Only a few years ago, Lewis was financially broke and had to sleep on his sister’s couch. With hard work and determination, he is now one of the best mentors in the United States. He makes an impact on people’s lives through his podcasts, videos, books, online courses, and live events.

3. Evan Carmichael

7 YouTube Channels You Must Watch If You Want More From Life

Evan Carmichael is a Canadian entrepreneur who created and sold a biotech software company at the tender age of 19. A couple of years later, he became a venture capitalist, helping people raise millions of dollars and making their dreams come true.

His entrepreneurial journey began when he was a kid. He sold art and baseball cards and held garage sales. But he took his first big leap when he was in university. He and his two friends built a biotech software company which went on to become very successful. Since then, Evan has been an entrepreneur and is now helping young people learn about it.  

With over 1.8 million subscribers, Evan’s YouTube channel is one of the most popular in the entrepreneurship category. Check out his channel to learn more about his outlook on business and life.

4. PowerfulJRE

7 YouTube Channels You Must Watch If You Want More From Life

Joe Rogan, the host, and creator of PowerfulJRE is also a successful stand-up comedian, mixed martial arts(MMA) color commentator, and a businessman. PowerfulJRE is the name of his YouTube channel. It has been the number one podcast on the internet for many years. Renowned personalities like Elon Musk and Neil Degrasse Tyson have been featured on his show.

The best thing about the Joe Rogan podcast is its format. It’s very simple and authentic. His guests share their stories and experiences with total spontaneity and honesty. For a listener, these stories can be inspirational and can trigger them to do great things in life. Joe is also a fitness and self-improvement junky. His main message to listeners is to do what they love and live a life full of adventure.

5. Tim Ferriss

7 YouTube Channels You Must Watch If You Want More From Life

Tim Ferriss is the author of best-selling book 4-Hour Workweek, a self-help and time management book. He is also known as a life hacker as he won the 165 lb weight class at the 1999 USAWKF national Sanshou (Chinese kickboxing). He won the competition by tactically pushing the opponent fighter out of the ring. His strategy was so unexpected that the opponents had no answer to it. He also dehydrated himself before the weigh-in and rehydrated just before the match to gain an unfair advantage over the fighters.   

Tim specializes in long-form content. On his YouTube channel, he posts podcast and quick tip videos. The podcasts last between 60-90 minutes. From start-ups to exotic teas, Tim talks on topics that he is passionate about.  

6. Khan Academy

7 YouTube Channels You Must Watch If You Want More From Life

Khan Academy is a non-profit organization founded by Salman Khan in 2008. It is California-based and was created with the sole purpose of educating and training people across the world. On its website, you will find thousands of lectures and tutorials in almost all categories.

Khan Academy also has a YouTube channel where they post similar content. Its math courses are very popular among school kids. However, there has been some criticism of its general science and computer science sections. Some people reportedly find them difficult to understand and follow.

The Khan Academy YouTube channel has over 4.8 million subscribers. So, don’t miss out on the original and groundbreaking information Khan Academy has to provide.

7. Tony Robbins

7 YouTube Channels You Must Watch If You Want More From Life

Tony Robbins is the author of the bestselling self-help book “Awaken The Giant Within”. He is also a world-renowned motivational speaker and business coach. Tony started his coaching career in his early 20s. Working along with Jim Rohn, he learned the ropes of the self-help industry.

On his YouTube channel, he posts motivational speeches and short clips of him changing people’s lives. In one instance, he cured a young man’s stuttering problem within seven minutes. The man couldn’t speak correctly for 30 years, and here he was, talking as if he never stuttered in his life. Tony knows how to inspire and motivate people. From time to time, everyone needs motivation. Subscribe to his channel to learn more about Tony’s life.  

I hope you liked this list of Youtube channels that can potentially change your life. Some of these channels are so good that it is difficult to miss even a single video they post. But you can cherry-pick videos from other channels. For instance, I don’t listen to every podcast Tim Ferriss or Joe Rogan posts. I listen only when I can relate to the topic.

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7 Qualities that Make You a Winner

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Everyone wants to be a winner but does everyone have what needs to be one. We might not possess a lot of things from the time we cry for the first time, but with time we learn through teachings and experiences. Some skills are worth having just to survive, and some are needed to succeed.

Being a winner comes from within. The more you work on yourself, the more you will learn how to use yourself in the most efficient manner. To be a winner, you need a winner mindset, which doesn’t come from doubting yourself. Here are 7 qualities you need to be a winner in your life and business.

1. Self-discipline

This is probably one of the most underrated and difficult quality to posses because it is not a skill you can have from birth. You might be raised with discipline, but self-discipline is something winners acquire through hard work and application.

It is not easy to change long acquired hurting habits, neither is it easy to ignore the constant distraction life keeps on throwing at you, but winners conquer this, way before actually becoming successful at their craft.

2. Not afraid to fail

Fear of failing is a common phenomenon; even the perennial winners go through this. What do they do differently you ask? Well, they fail. Failing early can be great for your life and career; it teaches you what not to do and how to handle difficult situations and when you need to take up responsibility.

People who have got it wrong many times and persist possibly know a lot more than people who had natural talents. Former United States Attorney General, Robert F. Kennedy summed it up nicely by saying, “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” Fear, in general, makes us doubt ourselves, but as Jack Canfield righty said, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”

3. Persistence

“Persist, persist, and persist” is what we are told by the greats of every field. It is a given really; every man on the quest for success knows that he needs to persist in order to get what he wants. What stops us then? What makes us not follow this, simple yet difficult to execute, strategy?

Well, you can blame it on the impatience and restlessness of the human mind. Keeping on hoping for different things if something doesn’t work out and giving up when we see even a slight chance of our hard work going to waste comes naturally to most of us. Fighting this urge is necessary to achieve big and it is certainly not easy. Winners master to persist. It is a cliche that we can only see the glitters and confetti when someone has achieved great heights but rarely can anyone fathom the hard work put in to get there.

4. Being aware of your strengths and weaknesses

Everyone has weaknesses, and the sooner you identify and acknowledge them, the better. What defines a winner is their unmatched mental strength to know what they can do better than most people and where they lack behind. They plan their battles knowing about themselves; they maximize their strengths and minimize the impact that their weaknesses have on their craft.

Winners keep on improving themselves and believe every day is a learning process and every person they meet can be a teacher. Japanese author Susaku Endo puts it into perspective by saying,  “Every weakness contains within itself a strength.”

6. Belief in your dreams

As the old saying goes, “You need to believe in your own dreams for others to start believing.” This is a fundamental mindset of an achiever. When no one believes in you, everyone writes you off; it’s you who has to believe in your own potential. No one can know you better than yourself.

In a lot of competitive sports when there is a clear underdog, experts usually say that matches are won and lost in the head and not on the field. Some extract pleasure out of having themselves against the wall and some drop their weapons. If you give your best even while knowing there are better chances of the opposition winning you have a slim chance of getting over the line, although, if you give up in your mind, there are no chances of you winning.

7. A never-say-die attitude

Failure is a part of life, it is a cliche, but how someone copes with it defines how they move ahead in life. Failure can be heartbreaking and can make you give up your dreams, but that is where most people leave the race.

Winners pull themselves through the hard times and learn from their mistakes, getting stronger with every mistake. A mistake is nothing but one way that doesn’t work, and if you know that well you won’t make that mistake over again. Winners never give up, their calmness under pressure and temperament ride them through the rough patches. How you deal with it is important.

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