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9 Positive Affirmations You Should Tell Yourself Every Day

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9 Positive Affirmations You Should Tell Yourself Every Day

It is easier to blame ourselves and shoot ourselves down. What is difficult is getting out of that negative place we constantly put ourselves in. We are our best friends and our number one cheerleaders, but on bad days we often forget that. We berate ourselves and feel more miserable than the situation demands.

Talking to yourself in the mirror every day, first thing in the morning, might not seem like a big thing to do. It might even sound stupid to many. But, hear me out, when I say that by giving yourself positive affirmations you are turning the gears of the law of attraction.

Here are some things you should tell yourself and why you need to believe them.

1. I am enough

This is something that most people have a hard time accepting. When you don’t believe you are enough, you are in constant search of something or someone to complete you and your life. You need to understand that you are enough, other’s can only add to your life not complete it.

“Stand for something. Make your life mean something. Start where you are with what you have. You are enough.”

-Germany Kent

You are who you spend most of your time with. Even when there is no one, you have you. Learning to appreciate yourself and your worth is essential. Because when you don’t respect yourself, others find it challenging to do it too.

2. I approve of myself and love myself

When you look at yourself in the mirror, make eye contact with your reflection and tell the mirror you that you love yourself. Repeat “I love you” to yourself, till you start believing it. You don’t need to tear yourself apart for every imperfection you feel you have. Those imperfections are what make you the person you are. Learn to embrace them!

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.”

-Steve Maraboli

Unless you love and accept yourself, it is difficult to love others. You first need to be completely comfortable with yourself before you try to nurture relationships with others. How you see yourself will reflect a lot on how you treat others. Remember that every relationship begins with you, so strengthen the one you have with yourself first.

3. I am doing my best every day

Overnight success happens to a select few, and even then there are a lot of baby steps that lead to overnight success. Whatever you do every day, big or small, contributes to your success. So, even on bad days, it is important to tell yourself that you are doing the best you can.

“Whatever you did today is enough. Whatever you felt today is valid. Whatever you thought today isn’t to be judged. Repeat the above each day.”

-Brittany Burgunder

Sometimes, even getting out of the bed can seem impossible and if you managed to drag yourself out of bed, appreciate yourself. Often all you need is a little encouragement to get back on track.

4. I am in charge of my own happiness

When you understand this, no one can change how you feel. This helps you remember that you and only you are responsible for your happiness and wellbeing. When you stop trying to find joy and love in others, you start valuing yourself the most.

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”

-Dale Carnegie

Expectations that you set for others have a way to disappoint you. But, relying on yourself is something that will lead to happiness and satisfaction. You have to become responsible for your own feelings and take responsibility for this daily. That is why you have to remind yourself every morning to not give others the power to decide how you should feel.

5. I am grateful for every day

Being grateful about little things daily helps you see the silver lining even on really bad days. This is why many people start keeping gratitude journals. As a means to counter the stressful lives we lead, gratitude journals have been gaining a lot of popularity. Do it at the end of the day. Write down three things you are grateful for. This helps you remember that today will pass and you will still have a lot to be grateful about.

“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.”

-Zig Ziglar

Most days you have to accept that you do not have the power to change some things. When that acceptance sets in, it becomes easier to deal with everything. Your attitude towards the day also plays a determining role in how you are going to feel. Be grateful to have woken up, healthy and alive, and to get to do things you love.

6. I am proud of who I have become

When you start loving yourself, uplifting yourself and understanding yourself, you will start feeling proud of who you are as a person right now, in this very moment. No one knows the struggles you have faced as well as you do. No one understands the sacrifices you have made as deeply as you do.

“Quit searching for essence in everything you’ve gotten wrong. It’s right there in everything you’ve gotten right. Just get better at it.”

-Chinonye J. Chidolue

Tell yourself that you are proud of yourself for overcoming all the obstacles and learning from your mistakes. Tell yourself that you are proud of yourself for not giving up when it was easy to give up. Tell yourself that you are proud of yourself and self-validate so that you don’t go out seeking validation.

7. I am in control of how I react to others

This somehow collaborates with telling yourself that you are responsible for your own happiness. When you stop giving others power to dictate your emotions, you automatically control how you react to others and to situations.

“Your power to choose can never be taken from you. It can be neglected and it can be ignored. But if used, it can make all the difference.”

-Steve Goodier

Pouring out all your emotions is not a good idea always. Some people like riling others up. When you recognize people like those, make sure to control your own narrative and not let them tell you how to feel. If you don’t like something or someone, try to get them out of your system so that you can live your life in peace. If you cannot change their presence, control how you react to whatever they or the situations bring to the table.

8. I have the power to create change

When you think about any situation that isn’t exactly preferable to you, ask yourself can you change it. If you can, do it. If you cannot, learn to adapt. You might not be able to change that exact thing, but if you believe that you have the power to create change, you will find a way around.

“You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we’re not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power.”

-Louise L. Hay

Remind yourself that you have the power to change the course of your own life. No one but you is responsible for your life and how you live it. If you believe and work towards it, you can change things to benefit yourself. You can change unfavorable situations to favorable ones.

9. The best is yet to come

Just by saying this, you have set yourself up for a better tomorrow. You just have to believe. If yesterday wasn’t better, today will be. If today wasn’t, then tell yourself that tomorrow will be. The best way to move forward in life is to believe that there is something better waiting for us up ahead.

“Always remember that your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come.”

-Zig Ziglar

The idea of that can give you enough of a push to keep going no matter what is going on in your life. By believing that the next day will bring you better opportunities, you are attracting positive energy to surround you.

“Your words control your life, your progress, your results, even your mental and physical health. You cannot talk like a failure and expect to be successful.”

-Germany Kent




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How Thinking Critically Changes Your Life for the Better

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How Thinking Critically Changes Your Life for the Better

Critical analysis can be defined as the ability to judge an issue by taking into account all factors that affect the process and outcome of the issue. A person with the ability to think critically will be able to calmly analyze from more than one perspective without letting personal preferences interfere judgment.

So, how does thinking critically make life better? For starters, it can enable you to understand topics more deeply, make you a star performer in your job and allow you to be more open and tolerant of people who hold beliefs which are quite contradictory to your own.

Understand, Don’t Just Learn 

One of the first things you notice after embracing critical thinking is that you are able to understand subjects much better. A normal learning process involves reading a subject and memorizing it. On occasions, you may also understand the subject logically. 

“Critical thinking takes you beyond such basic processes and enables you to understand the subject in a way that you begin seeing its implications across multiple areas.”

For example, if you are learning economics, you may come across a concept which states that the scarcity of a product raises its value, while the easy availability of a product decreases it. Now, a person without any critical thinking ability can only see its applicability in the field of economics, and will probably only be employed in that field.

But someone who can think critically will see the applicability of the theory of demand in other areas, which might at first seem unrelated. For example, they might observe that people who have grown without love from parents may hold love to be very important in their lives. 

In this case, love is the commodity, the scarcity of which, increased its value. And such insights are only possible because the person had critical thinking abilities which enabled him or her to apply knowledge gained from one subject to other areas.

This concept was explored in Richard Paul and Linda Elder’s Critical Thinking Development: A Stage Theory, in which they proposed that children who have higher critical thinking abilities are able to understand subjects at a deeper level and connect ideas across multiple disciplines.

Increasing Tolerance

How Thinking Critically Changes Your Life for the Better

If there is one thing that contributes to a lack of tolerance in the world, it is the absence of critical thinking. Intolerant ideas are the products of narrow viewpoints which are unable to accommodate other perspectives, especially those which run counter to them.

As an article on tolerance and critical thinking notes, when people surround themselves with those who only share their views, critical thinking can suffer and they can end up thinking that only their viewpoint is the absolute reality.

A person of a specific spiritual belief may be against another person’s belief, refusing to believe it as equally valid as their own. A person who identifies with a particular sexual identity may hate those who live with a completely opposite inclination. There are many such examples of intolerance.

Critical thinking expands your ability to observe and accept other people’s views and beliefs. For example, if you are a religiously intolerant person, then critical thinking will make you see that the other person’s way of worship is not so different from yours since both of you are essentially praying to a divine power for the good of people you love. 

And when you start accommodating the other viewpoint, any intolerance you feel will begin dissolving and you become more forbearing.

Developing Critical Thinking

How Thinking Critically Changes Your Life for the Better

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

-Aristotle

Developing the ability to think critically is no easy task. It requires you to slowly give up your preconceived notions and start making value-based judgments on events based on merit. For people who have grown with a strong set of prejudices, this can look impossible.

And even if you think you have developed a strong ability to think critically, you will still have to deal with the paradox of critical thinking, where you may not be able to decide whether you have arrived at a conclusion because of careful analysis or whether you have fooled yourself into thinking that you had done a critical analysis.

But whatever paradoxes you may face, one thing is for certain – it is far more beneficial for you to be able to think critically than not being able to. And as such, putting in the effort to be a solid critical thinker is well worth it.  

Final Thoughts

When you start thinking critically and from various perspectives, the range of thoughts increase. More thoughts aren’t necessarily a catalyst for decision making. Hence, have your starting points and intentions in the right place, and decisions will be easier to make and you won’t get into analysis paralysis.

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5 Ways to Turn Around Your Mindset

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5 Ways to Turn Around Your Mindset

I have some bad news. The only thing holding you back from achieving everything you want is YOUR mindset. Not society, not laws, not your family, or your circumstances, it’s YOU! The biggest achievers in the world weren’t born with a silver spoon or with supernatural powers; they were mortals, many from underprivileged backgrounds or having insurmountable circumstances. Yet, they reached heights and became role models. 

Now, the good news- it’s never too late to change your mindset. And, you don’t need any psychological counseling or mentoring for this. The power lies within you. Here are five superpowers you possess that can help change your mindset and make you the person you want:

1. Power of Belief

What we believe is what we become. All brilliant innovations started as an idea. People who conceived them believed in their ideas even when others didn’t. So should you. Believe that you are unique and that you can achieve anything you set your mind on. 

Self-belief is a powerful defense in the face of adversity. It keeps you motivated and even bullish in pursuit of your goals. There is no dearth of challenges or critics. But let them not pull you down. Believe in yourself and in a higher power that is working towards making your dreams come true.

2. Power of Clarity

Our thoughts become actions and things. Do you have objective clarity about your goals? Not what your family wants or what society expects, but what you REALLY want. You’ll be surprised to know that you’ve been programmed- conditioned to act according to others’ expectations. 

What use are time and effort spent in pursuing what doesn’t matter to you and what won’t make you happy? Rather, invest energy in attaining your goals. You can’t pursue a target that doesn’t exist. So define your objectives and their anticipated timeline, and then persevere to get them, no matter what! 

3. Power of Positivity

5 Ways to Turn Around Your Mindset

Things happen for a reason. If you believe good things will happen, the whole universe conspires to make it possible. And this isn’t a cliché or an idealistic thought. Consider a situation where you’re going for an interview and despite feeling that you’re underqualified for the job, you bolster yourself with positive thoughts. 

You think about your accomplishments and your strengths. You look back at your journey and fill yourself with pride on how far you’ve come. Things start falling into place. You reflect confidence and feel equipped to handle all challenges. You may not know everything but you’re willing to learn and grow. And that’s always a positive- an asset for any organization.  

For cultivating a positive mindset, surround yourself with positive people- those who believe in you or have overcome difficulties. Their mindset is contagious. Stay away from negativity, criticism, fear, and overthinking.

4. Power to Forgive

This is not easy. It takes years of practice. We are often very hard on ourselves when things go awry. A failed marriage, a setback in business, dysfunctional relationships, or other tumultuous situations lead us to blame ourselves. Or we end up shifting the blame to another person or circumstance. In either case, we harbor a lot of negative energy that consumes our positive mindset.

5 Ways to Turn Around Your Mindset

Stop beating yourself and blaming others for things going wrong. Take responsibility for your actions, their outcomes, and ultimate consequences. In a perilous situation, accept that things could have been different had your attitude or response been different. 

But this should not become a reason to loathe yourself. Learn your lessons and move on. If others are responsible for the debacle, they might be battling with their own demons. There’s really no need to dwell on negative situations. 

5. Power to Love Yourself

We don’t mean to preach narcissism but invaluable self-love. Do you love your company? Are you sparing some ME time in busy routine? Most successful people have mastered the work-life balance equation. They have sacred morning rituals that revolve around mental, spiritual, and physical cleansing. Why is it so? 

This is because you are your best friend, your ally, and your own army. If you don’t invest time in nurturing your mind, body and soul, it’s incomprehensible how you’ll handle your work, life, business, and the world. It’s quite easy to get lost in the rigmarole of daily pressures and routines and neglect ourselves. That’s why self-love has to be imbibed in the very fabric of your life; it’s non-negotiable and even sacred. Do things that you enjoy, lose yourself in the moment, quit worrying about everything, and don’t ever feel guilty about it. I promise you’ll feel sheer delight.

Final Thought

Changing your mindset will take deliberate efforts. It won’t happen overnight. Have patience but keep practicing. The very fact that you’re reading this post is a positive sign that you feel a need to transform. That’s a great beginning. Now, take it step by step and you’ll reach the finish line, slowly but certainly. And don’t forget to pat your back when you do!

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5 Decisions That Can Fill Your Life With Regret

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5 Decisions That Can Fill Your Life With Regret

There will be moments in your life when you will have to make tough choices; when you will have to sacrifice something in order to get something else. While most such decisions do not usually create any long-term problems, this is not true in all situations. You might make certain decisions that can push you into depression years down the line. In this post, we look at five such typical decisions that have the power to fill your life with regret.  

1. Neglecting your passion

5 Decisions That Can Fill Your Life With Regret

Many people often choose to sacrifice their passion in favor of focusing on their careers when transitioning from their teenage years into adulthood. And this can eventually prove to be extremely devastating for some people.

A human being is essentially a creature of passion, filled with hundreds of ideas and a will to explore their interests to the full. When this passion is curbed, and the person is forced into doing something that they don’t like, they will ultimately find their life to be boring and stressful. A sense of purposelessness will start to rattle their minds, and many might even end up being depressed.

“Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”

-Franklin D. Roosevelt

So, when you are faced with a situation where you have to decide between your passion and your career, never reject your hobbies and interests outright. Continue practicing it in some way or the other, and eventually, you will come to realize how crucial that decision has been to your sense of self.

2. Preferring career over a loving relationship

5 Decisions That Can Fill Your Life With Regret

This is another big mistake that can haunt your life forever – putting your professional life ahead of your relationships. Unfortunately, this is very common in today’s cut-throat competitive world.  The excessive focus on career has been identified as one of the single biggest causes of unhappiness and loneliness among adults.

“A career is wonderful but you can’t curl up with it on a cold night.”

-Marilyn Monroe

You must understand that humans are, at the end of the day, emotional beings. A large part of a person’s life is dedicated to satisfying their emotional requirements – the need to be loved, the need to be appreciated, the need to be wanted, and so on, and as such, depriving yourself of such emotional stimulation is akin to damaging the circuitry of a PC and hoping for it to work perfectly. 

As a result, you should always ensure that you never sacrifice your relationships in order to advance in your career. Instead, you should learn to manage both of them. Otherwise, you might end up feeling lonely and depressed in the middle age, blaming yourself for the times you brushed aside your relationship commitments in favor of work.

3. Holding grudges

5 Decisions That Can Fill Your Life With Regret

It is said that hatred not only destroys the object but also the person who holds hatred within. And sadly, it is true. In some cases, the grudge you hold will only end up destroying you while the other party walks away unaffected.

This is why it is very important that you learn to never hold any grudge against anyone. But if you do hold a grudge, then it is possible that your hatred for the person will turn into an obsession. You will slowly start losing focus on enjoying and living your life to the fullest. Instead, you will start thinking of how to harm the other person. This is a disturbing mentality that will negatively affect all your relationships.

“Holding a grudge is letting someone live rent-free in your head.”

Learn to let go of any hatred against anyone, no matter how much harm they have done to you. However, not hating does not mean that you forget what the other person did to you. It simply means that you have removed them as the focus of your life. That’s all. But, if you decide to dedicate most of your life in trying to bring down the other person, then you will essentially lead a miserable life.

4. Being stuck at a desk job

5 Decisions That Can Fill Your Life With Regret

With the way the current job environment has shaped up, it is very likely that you might be engaged in work that will mostly require you to sit on a chair all day long. While this might feel extremely comfortable in the beginning, you will quickly realize how boring, monotonous, and harmful it can be.

The biggest negative effect of a desk job will be on your health. Just sitting for eight hours every day for many years will definitely cause some health issues. This is why it is important that you don’t get sucked into the appeal of a desk job.  

“Give a man health and a course to steer, and he’ll never stop to trouble about whether he’s happy or not.”

-George Bernard Shaw

The best way to deal with this is to join a gym and start a workout regimen so that you keep yourself physically fit. But, if you choose to avoid exercising thinking that it is a waste of time, then you will have to face several health issues in the future. Even if you are busy, it is important to include self-care into your routine.

5. Adding on the debt to ‘enjoy’ life

5 Decisions That Can Fill Your Life With Regret

It is normal for people to fall into debt under the pretext of enjoying their lives. Someone might pile up on his/her credit card debt due to their excessive affinity for expensive clothes; others might take longer-term debts to go for vacations around the world; some might even take a loan on their home to buy a BMW. Whatever may be the case, you have to understand that the extreme focus on enjoying life even at the risk of falling into debt is a very bad decision.

As you become older and enter your forties, all the debt you have piled up during the younger years will now be a burden. And you will be trapped, having to repay all those debts at a time you should be carefully planning your retirement. In the worst case scenario, you may even have to retire with little to no savings. 

“A simple fact that is hard to learn is that the time to save money is when you have some.”

-Joe Moore

So, learn to control your desires and only indulge in them to the extent that you don’t end up taking debts to satisfy those desires. By doing so, you will never have to live a dissatisfied life or regret the poor financial decisions you took in your younger days.  

Takeaway

Being mindful is really important when it comes to decisions that can impact your life for a longer term. Whenever making big decisions, try to take a pause and think about it with all the pros and cons and how it will affect your life. When you do that, instead of taking impulsive decisions, it will become easier to make decisions that won’t make you feel regret.

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