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6 Reasons Why You Have Not Yet Identified Your Passion

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Few people know what they are passionate about, while the majority may not have even thought that they are capable of being passionate about anything. When people have no idea what they are passionate about, it is usually because they have not thought about the subject strongly and haven’t considered the possibilities.

We don’t put enough importance on the need to figure out what we are passionate about as much we do on choosing a career. That is also one of the reasons why many people are stuck in mundane jobs that suck them dry. Identifying your passion gives you a chance to make a career in something you love. When you enjoy what you do, life becomes much easier. 

Identifying your passion is the first step toward finding out a way of turning it into a lucrative business opportunity that will excite you to work every day. Even if you don’t want to turn it into business, knowing your passion gives you a purpose to enjoy life. Let’s look at the six typical reasons why you may have not yet identified your true passion yet.

1. Blinded by long-term life goals

Sometimes, people tend to be blinded by long-term goals they have set for their life that they forget to nurture their passions as well. And if you are such a person, then you need to quickly learn how to not let your life goals take over your entire day-to-day existence and deprive you of the opportunity to focus on your passions.

For example, you might have set a goal of becoming the regional manager of your company within the next 6 years. And for this, you may have to dedicate a lot of your time working on your current job and meeting the company’s expectations. While this is an admirable goal, there are, as they say, two sides to the coin.

You are so focused on your goal of becoming a manager that you end up never making time for your hobbies and passions. As such, the only way to identify your passion is to relax with your work times. Manage time more effectively so that you don’t sacrifice your life goals, but at the same time, have enough time left over to explore and identify your life’s passion.  

2. Unwillingness to change

Resistance to change can also be a major reason why you have not yet identified your passion. In order to know what you are passionate about, it is imperative that you try out new things. Otherwise, you might never know about your inherent talents and fulfilling hobbies.

For example, only when you try out gaming will you know whether you like it and are passionate about it or not. If you keep neglecting to try it because you think it’s a ‘kid’s thing,’ then you are blocking yourself from experiencing something new and discovering a passion you might not have known existed.

As such, the inability to change your current ways of life and neglecting to take part in new experiences is a behavior that you should get rid of as quickly as possible.

3. Scared of other people’s opinions

When you are scared of what others think, you tend to act in a way that complies with their sense of right and wrong. And this can have devastating consequences, one of which is that you will never truly understand your capabilities and passion. Since the focus of such a person is to never commit an act that might attract negative attention from other people, they will have to sacrifice a lot of things.

For example, if a child’s parents see academics as solely being the ‘right path’ for their child, and have a negative view of arts and sports, then that kid is likely to focus more on their studies rather than trying out painting or basketball. As a consequence, the child will never ever find whether they have a talent for artistic or athletic things.

And if you also have been restricting yourself from trying something because you were afraid of other people’s opinions, then you should come out of such negative habits. Keep such people at a distance in your life and go explore new things. You will surely find something that ignites your passion.

4. Too many ‘passions’

Having too many ‘passions’ is also detrimental in identifying your key passion. In most cases, these are not passions but fleeting interests. A person with such a habit will keep on trying new things, but will never become attached to any single activity. Nor will they improve.

You may be interested in basketball right now, but might soon switch over to studying anthropology, then might start focusing on pencil sketching, and so on. This constant jumping from one activity to another means that you will never know where your real passion lies.

Unfortunately, there is no clear-cut way to get out of such a habit. However, one of the positive attributes of this is that, since you are constantly trying out new areas, it is inevitable that you come across something that immediately connects with you and makes you dedicated.

5. Not confident in yourself

People who lack confidence also tend to do rather badly when it comes to identifying their passion. This largely stems from the fact that their lack of confidence stops them from doing new things. They are usually very scared by failure that the prospect of failing at something will discourage them from trying it out.

Only after a decent effort, will you know if this is something you can pursue. Some things are truly out of reach for many people but test your limits from time to time. Maybe you would have done great and immediately developed a passion that would have lasted a lifetime. But because of your lack of confidence, you avoid trying it out, missing opportunity after opportunity to discover your true calling.

6. Too much focus on a single passion

Some people tend to believe that humans should have a single passion that has a hold over them for life. This is not necessarily true. While a few are mostly dedicated to a single passion throughout their lives, others are likely to have multiple passions.

As such, blindly expecting to find one great passion might make a person tend to overlook the passions they already have. Maybe they are already interested in painting and gaming. But if they keep searching for a soul burning singular passion, they might end up neglecting their existing interests while never finding the singular passion they are looking for.

Takeaway

Relax a bit and enjoy what attracts your attention. Slowly, you will see that you are indeed passionate about something in your life. And whether your interest lies in a few areas or a single hobby is irrelevant. You just need to find something that triggers positive emotions in you.

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4 Essential Must-Read Self-Help Books

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Charles Baudelaire once said, “A book is a garden, an orchard, a storehouse, a party, a company, a counselor, a multitude of counselors.” Whether you are someone who is just beginning to wander into the world of books, or reading is your second nature, chances are that you will learn a bit or two from everything you read.

With the growing popularity of non-fiction books, one of the biggest and best-selling genres these days has become that of self-help and self-improvement books. If that piques your interest and makes you want to get one for yourself, here is a list of 4 essential self-help books that everybody should read.

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1. Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

Victor Frankl’s 1946 book Man’s Search for Meaning is a chronicle of the traumatic experiences he went through while imprisoned in Nazi concentration camps during World War II. The book breaks down his psychotherapeutic method into two simple steps— identifying one’s purpose in life – something that imparts positive energy and wholly dedicating the imagination to that outcome.

2. Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life

If you are active on social media, then this aesthetic little blue book must have appeared on your feed at least once. But don’t be fooled by its charming appeal, because this book by Hector Garcia and Francesc Miralles, as claimed in the subtitle, holds the elusive key to happiness and contentment in one’s life. It uses the principle of finding and adhering to your ‘ikigai’ or ‘reason for living’ to strike a balance between your interests, contribution to the world, and personal sustainability.

3. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

In his book, Stephen Covey shares 7 simple habits, which if followed diligently, can improve your life by making you truly effective and efficient in everything that you do. Not only that, the realistic advice in this book focuses on uplifting not just yourself, but also encouraging others around you to do the same, thus creating a stable and flourishing environment.

4. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

No list about self-help books can be considered complete without including this absolute classic from 1936 by Dale Carnegie, the be-all and end-all of this kind of literature. How to Win Friends and Influence People tackles a variety of social spheres from the public to the private, and the original edition had six sections, namely: “Twelve Things This Book Will Do For You”, “Fundamental Techniques in Handling People”, “Six Ways to Make People Like You”. “Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking”, “Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment”, “Letters That Produced Miraculous Results”, and finally, “Seven Rules For Making Your Home Life Happier”.

As is clear, Carnegie’s book covers a lot of bases that people struggle with— which is why the book was an instant bestseller upon launch.

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5 Things About Self-Love That You Need To Know Right Now!

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Who is the first person that comes to your mind when you talk about love? Is it your family, a friend, or your significant other? But, what about you? Self-love is important to lead a happy and healthy life in a world that keeps growing stressful and demanding by the day. However, this concept is often overlooked and misunderstood. So, here are the 5 most important things that you should know about self-love.

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5 Most Important Things About Self-Love

1. Self-Love Cannot Be Attained Overnight

When you’ve lived a major portion of your life disregarding your needs and value, then giving yourself the care and love that you deserve might take some time. Just like loving others, loving yourself is like a journey and a consistent process. Also, don’t overemphasize your flaws. All humans have flaws and those flaws are what make you humane and unique.

2. Self-Love is Important to Practice

Practicing self-love will inculcate a better mindset that opens more doors for you to give and receive love. According to psychologists, creating a healthy relationship, full of care and understanding, with yourself will help you form the same kind of relationship with others as well. Also, maintaining healthy boundaries is very important too.

3. Finding the Sources to Heal Is Difficult

If you are in the process of healing and are taking the necessary steps to heal, then you should be proud of yourself. Healing takes time, is quite complex, and is not that easy. Becoming overwhelmed during the process is normal and while you do become so, know that you’re not alone. Digging deep into past wounds or even reoccurring ones could be quite overwhelming.

It might be tempting to keep pushing but remember that self-love also includes acknowledging your boundaries. So, you need to step back from healing for a bit when it becomes too much to handle.

4. Give Permission to Be Compassionate Towards Yourself

One of the biggest sources of strength is being able to be kind towards yourself in life. Society makes us blame ourselves when things go wrong. As a result, time and again we make ourselves believe that we aren’t good enough or qualified enough. Rather, we should try to objectively examine the situation.

Suppressing yourself for the sake of others could be brutal towards your self-esteem. You need to consciously accept that you deserve understanding and kindness. And while you do that, your self-esteem and confidence will keep growing.

5. Do What Your Heart Asks You To

Have you ever felt as if you have to do something because others were pressurizing you to? Committing to something you don’t want to such as taking a certain career path that you don’t like could be dangerous. This might seem to resolve differences with others for a short while, it might leave you unfulfilled later on.

Loving yourself also includes allowing yourself the right to follow your own dreams and desires regardless of what others might say. That will make you happy and fulfilled.

Final Thoughts

Self-love could also seem difficult at times. It does what is best for you and you might not feel excited about it all the time. For example, sleeping early because tomorrow is an important day or not meeting your friends because you have to finish an assignment. Setting down and respecting your own boundaries is a great thing.

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Four Realistic Ways to Stick to Your New Year Resolutions

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We have all been there: the festivities of December roll around and bring along with them oodles of reflection over the past year. If you’re like most people, you’ll be met with a strange mix of disappointment and inspiration.

From diet and exercise goals to breaking free from damaging habits, from creating extensive reading lists to vouching to handle finances better, the turn of the year sees all kinds of resolutions being made. However, it is not long before old habits rear their ugly heads again and all those starry-eyed promises fly out the window. If you want to break this vicious cycle once and for all and make long-lasting changes, read on for four ways to make sure that you see your New Year 2021 resolutions through!

Define your purpose and discover your ‘ikigai’

More often than not, we half-heartedly commit to ideas and decisions without taking the time to understand whether or not they are things we want to invest our energy and precious time in. As a consequence of this lack of interest and purpose, the burnout sets in pretty quickly and we end up feeling worse than before.

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To avoid this, firstly, choose your goals for the right reasons.  Instead of being vague about why you have set out to achieve your objectives, think and try to internalize your purpose and imagine how it sustainably fits into the larger scheme of your life.

Figure out what works for you

Different methods yield different results for people. Some are comfortable with making small changes to their daily routines and lives every day. Yet others feel that committing to a clean break makes things easier and more effective for them in the long run. In the end, it’s about what works best to serve you and your aims.

Make a clear plan with key milestones/markers of progress

Avoid being vague. Set yourself up for success by charting out a clear, well-defined path instead of being misguided by abstract ideas of progress. Create tangible trackers and markers of growth like pros and cons lists, vision boards, journals, and progress photos that you can look back at and reflect upon how much you have achieved.

Find support or relevant resources

Remember that many other people are on the same journey as you and have goals and struggles similar to yours. Reliable support from family and friends can boost you up in moments of weakness and push you to achieve what you originally set out to achieve. Staying accountable and truthful to yourself is also a crucial factor.

If you need an external community for advice, mentoring, and sharing your journey, turning to the internet is a great idea! There are countless resources and forums online on Facebook, Instagram, and also specialized apps ranging from diet and fitness (Nike Training Club, Adidas Training, MyFitnessPal) to meditation and wellness (Headspace, Calm), etc.

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