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6 Reasons Why You Have Not Yet Identified Your Passion

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Few people know what they are passionate about, while the majority may not have even thought that they are capable of being passionate about anything. When people have no idea what they are passionate about, it is usually because they have not thought about the subject strongly and haven’t considered the possibilities.

We don’t put enough importance on the need to figure out what we are passionate about as much we do on choosing a career. That is also one of the reasons why many people are stuck in mundane jobs that suck them dry. Identifying your passion gives you a chance to make a career in something you love. When you enjoy what you do, life becomes much easier. 

Identifying your passion is the first step toward finding out a way of turning it into a lucrative business opportunity that will excite you to work every day. Even if you don’t want to turn it into business, knowing your passion gives you a purpose to enjoy life. Let’s look at the six typical reasons why you may have not yet identified your true passion yet.

1. Blinded by long-term life goals

Sometimes, people tend to be blinded by long-term goals they have set for their life that they forget to nurture their passions as well. And if you are such a person, then you need to quickly learn how to not let your life goals take over your entire day-to-day existence and deprive you of the opportunity to focus on your passions.

For example, you might have set a goal of becoming the regional manager of your company within the next 6 years. And for this, you may have to dedicate a lot of your time working on your current job and meeting the company’s expectations. While this is an admirable goal, there are, as they say, two sides to the coin.

You are so focused on your goal of becoming a manager that you end up never making time for your hobbies and passions. As such, the only way to identify your passion is to relax with your work times. Manage time more effectively so that you don’t sacrifice your life goals, but at the same time, have enough time left over to explore and identify your life’s passion.  

2. Unwillingness to change

Resistance to change can also be a major reason why you have not yet identified your passion. In order to know what you are passionate about, it is imperative that you try out new things. Otherwise, you might never know about your inherent talents and fulfilling hobbies.

For example, only when you try out gaming will you know whether you like it and are passionate about it or not. If you keep neglecting to try it because you think it’s a ‘kid’s thing,’ then you are blocking yourself from experiencing something new and discovering a passion you might not have known existed.

As such, the inability to change your current ways of life and neglecting to take part in new experiences is a behavior that you should get rid of as quickly as possible.

3. Scared of other people’s opinions

When you are scared of what others think, you tend to act in a way that complies with their sense of right and wrong. And this can have devastating consequences, one of which is that you will never truly understand your capabilities and passion. Since the focus of such a person is to never commit an act that might attract negative attention from other people, they will have to sacrifice a lot of things.

For example, if a child’s parents see academics as solely being the ‘right path’ for their child, and have a negative view of arts and sports, then that kid is likely to focus more on their studies rather than trying out painting or basketball. As a consequence, the child will never ever find whether they have a talent for artistic or athletic things.

And if you also have been restricting yourself from trying something because you were afraid of other people’s opinions, then you should come out of such negative habits. Keep such people at a distance in your life and go explore new things. You will surely find something that ignites your passion.

4. Too many ‘passions’

Having too many ‘passions’ is also detrimental in identifying your key passion. In most cases, these are not passions but fleeting interests. A person with such a habit will keep on trying new things, but will never become attached to any single activity. Nor will they improve.

You may be interested in basketball right now, but might soon switch over to studying anthropology, then might start focusing on pencil sketching, and so on. This constant jumping from one activity to another means that you will never know where your real passion lies.

Unfortunately, there is no clear-cut way to get out of such a habit. However, one of the positive attributes of this is that, since you are constantly trying out new areas, it is inevitable that you come across something that immediately connects with you and makes you dedicated.

5. Not confident in yourself

People who lack confidence also tend to do rather badly when it comes to identifying their passion. This largely stems from the fact that their lack of confidence stops them from doing new things. They are usually very scared by failure that the prospect of failing at something will discourage them from trying it out.

Only after a decent effort, will you know if this is something you can pursue. Some things are truly out of reach for many people but test your limits from time to time. Maybe you would have done great and immediately developed a passion that would have lasted a lifetime. But because of your lack of confidence, you avoid trying it out, missing opportunity after opportunity to discover your true calling.

6. Too much focus on a single passion

Some people tend to believe that humans should have a single passion that has a hold over them for life. This is not necessarily true. While a few are mostly dedicated to a single passion throughout their lives, others are likely to have multiple passions.

As such, blindly expecting to find one great passion might make a person tend to overlook the passions they already have. Maybe they are already interested in painting and gaming. But if they keep searching for a soul burning singular passion, they might end up neglecting their existing interests while never finding the singular passion they are looking for.

Takeaway

Relax a bit and enjoy what attracts your attention. Slowly, you will see that you are indeed passionate about something in your life. And whether your interest lies in a few areas or a single hobby is irrelevant. You just need to find something that triggers positive emotions in you.

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Why Talking To Yourself Is The Fastest Way To Build Self-confidence

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The idea of talking to yourself in a mirror might seem downright silly. And chances are, if you struggle with self-confidence, you want to be spending as little time in front of the mirror as possible. But if you can get past the initial awkwardness, you can benefit from the fastest results from spending time with yourself and actively engaging in conversation.

The wrong way of building self-confidence

When a person is under-confident, it generally means that they crave validation, appreciation, or some kind of proof that they’re worthy of love and recognition. We can all think of at least one person in our life who can be called ‘attention-seeking.’ But in reality, a vast majority of people are underconfident, even if it isn’t blatantly visible. 

Trying to seek approval from other people can manifest in indirect forms. You might find yourself working extra hours to get approval from your boss or going out of your way to do favors for people who wouldn’t do the same for you! We can really make ourselves suffer all for the quest of a few words of praise. 

The sad part is — the praise never really feels that great! Like an ice cream that got over way too quickly, praise and approval taste sweet for a few moments; before we fall right back into feeling lousy about ourselves. 

There has to be something that makes us feel better, for longer.

Why we listen to ourselves the most

Most of the time, the main reason why people are underconfident in the first place is that they have spent years thinking about self-derogatory and unkind thoughts about themselves. 

When you think that you’re not good enough for so many years, the conscious brain forms a habit out of these thoughts and keeps re-visiting them with every new situation. That’s why it’s so tricky to build self-confidence. There are numerous incidents of overweight people who had low self-esteem but found that losing weight didn’t improve their mental health. They still had low self-esteem, probably even more than they did earlier. 

The only way to get out of the rut of negative self-thoughts is to change your neural pathways. The only way you forget a previous habit is by forming a new one.

Continually talking to yourself in the mirror and saying good, positive things about yourself really works. And you might find it easier to say “I love you” in the mirror than saying “I love myself,” and that’s because we have a habit of being nicer to other people, not ourselves. Try to talk in the first person. “I am so smart.” “I am worthy of all the good things in life.”

“Every thought is either an investment or a cost.” T. Harv Eker

The Process

It will seem silly for the first few days. You will forget to do it sometimes, or even when you remember, you might get irritated with the entire process. It’s very hard to stay motivated. But try to stick with it! Give it 21 days of talking to yourself in the mirror every morning before you brush your teeth.

 (I found it easier to do it when I brush my teeth in the morning and night because that’s something I never forget to do.)

Focus on starting with complimenting yourself, listing out the things you admire in yourself.
“I like that I have a good work ethic.” or “I’m a good person, and I always value the truth”. After that, you can spend a few moments chatting with yourself. Talk about how much you like the weather today or anything else positive that you can think of. 

The key is to look right into your own eyes in the mirror. Try not to get distracted by that pimple that’s popped up on your chin or being critical of something else. You wouldn’t stare at your best friend’s pimple while they’re talking to you, would you? Treat your reflection with respect and talk to it directly without being mean.

The Results

After some time, you will notice results. They will be almost imperceptible initially, but you’ll end up looking forward to the time you spend looking into your own eyes. 

It takes a bit of time to rework the way your brain thinks, but this is the only direct way to get your mind to start giving you the approval you need. 

Once you spend time with yourself in the mirror, it creates distance. You’ll be less mean to yourself because you don’t want to hurt the person in the mirror. You’ll have started a long journey of self-love, one we must all undertake. 

There is so much more to human potential than we give ourselves credit for. The mind is powerful, and if you’re planning to do something for self-improvement — you’re already on the right path. 

Remember to stick with the process, and don’t expect instant results. In a month, your self-confidence will have improved because you’re finally getting the approval you always wanted: approval from yourself!

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Ways to set up a Home Office

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Day 1: ‘I am feeling lethargic today, maybe I’ll take rest for a while and resume after a few hours’

Day 2: ‘Don’t feel like working today’

Day 3:  ‘Work from home is not productive at all! It was better when we could function in office’

Have you been experiencing this for the last few months? 

Work from home can get boring and unproductive real quick and with changing times, this could be something companies resort to permanently.

So what’s the solution to not lose your work drive and keep working to your contentment?

Why not change your home workspace into a professional setting that gives you somewhat similar vibes as your in-office environment!

Wondering how?

Well, read on! 

To transform a small part of your house can be tedious but if the thought of strategically, can complement it well enough.

First things first – visualize how office spaces are built, most importantly the area where you used to sit in for hours and hours.

Got an idea? Now all you have to do is structure that into a smaller carpet area.

Decide on a location thereafter – where in the house do you want to set up your office. Make sure to be very particular when considering this because this has a major role in determining work focus and concentration. A corner, an entire room or just dividing the room into workspace and home is all to you and your comfort.

Usually, it is recommended to be in a remote area (like away from the kitchen) so to block any unnecessary noise.

Another thing to be cautious about is the amount of light that your chosen location has. With no proper lighting, the strain will increase and you might find it difficult to keep going.

What do companies do after building the space? 

They settle on what furniture and equipment will be required to commence the activity.

Similarly, select your desk and chair wisely. You will want to need a chair that isn’t too hard nor is it too soft.

Too hard could make your back hurt and too soft can cause you to sit in a wrong position that’ll ultimately result in a backache. Ideally, a rolling chair is recommended because it’ll give you movement and comfort at the same time.

Coming to the size of your desk, it depends on if you want a longer one or a short desk would suffice. However, make sure that the workplace doesn’t look and feel too clustered because then your efficiency is what can be affected. Along with the size of the desk, it’s shaping also is equally significant. L-shaped, T-shaped or U-shaped or any other shape, that will look chic and be the perfect match to your location – judge appropriately.

While you are at it, keep in mind to place your desk in front of some view that will soothe your eyes. A pleasant scenery to look at acts as a relaxing tool for the mind and the eyes, giving you the refreshment you need during the job hours.

Have you noticed how your in-office cabin looked hassle-free and clean? That’s what exactly you want in your home office too, trust me. Wires tangled and plug loosely attached will definitely distract you and come in the way of smooth operation. So to avoid this, make sure you’ve proper connection and sockets for keeping your wires and plugs out of the way.

Moving continuously to fetch files and other important things can turn out to be time-wasting. To not lose out on productivity, you could have cabinets and drawers made around your desk or within the same area as is your workspace.

The office is not about just desk-work. There are visits and meetings and conferences too. Therefore, having an area dedicated to client meetings is necessary. Though if you feel that this is something that can be done without, it’s entirely your call.

Sitting in one place for about 8-9 hours every day can be monotonous. What can be worse is when the same to you sit in is bland and plain – just like a hospital ward. I am sure you don’t like that and certainly wouldn’t want your workplace to emulate the same!

Hence, decorate and paint!

Make your room look green to calm you or fill it with colors to keep you fresh, bright, and awake the entire day. If you didn’t know, colors very much influence your emotions.

Like I had mentioned before, changing interiors can be tedious but if strategically done, it can complement your home well enough. Considering that, you could design and decorate your home office according to your house and it’s color combinations. This will not only not erupt your interior but also make you feel safe and congenial making it easier for you to work.

In the end, whatever you read or see, go by what you feel is right and appropriate for your house and your surroundings. Do not place anything that isn’t required or is unnecessary and just keeps adding up your budget.

In an attempt to make your home office beautiful and classy, remember to not walk off the money line. Setting a workplace at home can be expensive but if done well within the monetary limit, you are sure to get elegant and reasonable decor.

What?

Are you still reading? 

Go!  It’s time you start planning because you never know when offices might open up and you may be required to step out of your lazy workdays.

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How Reading can impact your Day to Day Life?

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Reading is a healthy habit, which, if practiced daily, can change your entire life around. Do you want to know why? Through Reading, one can not only gain knowledge but also stay acquainted with the outside as well as the inside world. The best thing about reading daily is to have an isolated place for yourself in your mind, where you can run off to. Most people don’t have the patience or intention to read, and that too, daily. Though this is a habit that takes time to settle in but trust me, once it does, you would never regret it. So, here is a list of reasons why you should read daily?

Why should you read daily?

  • To gain knowledge

Once you start reading daily, and by Reading, it can be anything – you can read few pages of a novel, or a magazine, or newspaper, or even poetry – you would notice within weeks how much your knowledge regarding the outer world has improved. Through Reading, one can have clear information regarding the current affairs, and hence, stay updated.

  • To improve your vocabulary

Through Reading, you can definitely learn new words and hence, improve your vocabulary. Most people make it a habit to learn a new word from the dictionary every day, but if you read daily, you are bound to get new words and make a list of them on a notebook with their meanings, which is definitely going to be helpful for you.

  • To have a make-believe world

The most beautiful consequence of Reading is having one’s own imaginary world, where one can live a life full of magic. This is the extraordinary superpower one acquires while reading. In this busy daily life of ours, we all look for a secluded place where we can feel the essence of peace. Reading can fly you off to the imaginary land of sunflowers, daisies, and cats who can indeed talk.

  • To become more attentive

Most people lack patience nowadays. Being impatient and restless has become a severe problem in today’s world. Here, Reading can help you calm your mind and improve your observation skills. It works like meditation. In no time, you would find your mind focusing on details and becoming more attentive to events, which used to go unnoticed.

  • To reduce stress

Reading is similar to meditation, and hence, it definitely helps to reduce your stress. Books always have a calming effect on one’s mind. It takes you away from daily problems and stressful situations and helps your mind to gain stability. Not only it helps in reducing stress, but it also helps to decrease the anxiety levels of a person. 

Everyone should make reading a daily habit. One should switch off the mobile phones, turn off the television and take some time out to read. It works wonders on one’s day-to-day life and changes one person’s entire personality. Though it can be hard at first, with time, you would cherish the moments alone, reading in a corner while your mind is flying off to Narnia.

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