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5 Very Important Self-Care Tips for Busy People

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5 Very Important Self-Care Tips for Busy People

Self-care is very crucial to keep working towards your goals. The irony is that people actually forget that while working for their goals. When you are busy and working towards your dream, it is easy to forget about yourself. Being busy has become a sort of measure to show how serious you are about your business. Nothing is as important as your well-being. This is something you need to remind yourself from time to time.

“Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.”

– Nathaniel Branden

In the process of working hard, we start berating ourselves when our body starts showing even a little sign of wearing out. It is important to listen to those signs and take steps to rectify the problem.

Self-care has been garnering more attention. People have started realizing that it is important to take care of one’s self to keep putting their best foot forward. Here are five things you should do no matter how busy you are.

“Self-care is how you take your power back.”

– Lalah Delia

1. Morning Self-Care Routine

5 Very Important Self-Care Tips for Busy People

What many people starting on the self-care journey do is that they set aside a day once in a while to focus on themselves. While this can be a great way to take a break, it isn’t as beneficial in the long run. Mornings are the most important time according to me. What you do in the morning has the power to set the tone for the day.

“Those who think they have not time for bodily exercise will sooner or later have to find time for illness.”

– Edward Stanley

It is important to use your waking hours wisely. Everything in the morning is much more relaxed from the peaceful nature to the blissful weather. Your mind and body are at peace too. You are yet to completely be absorbed in the day’s worries. This is the perfect time to indulge in some self-care.

Establish small habits that help you focus on your well-being every day. Meditating in the morning, doing yoga, drinking warm lemon water, writing in your gratitude journal are some of the things you can easily incorporate in your daily lifestyle.

This helps you start your day on a positive note without having to do something extra for the positive mindset. With a busy lifestyle, taking care of oneself seems like a luxury so when you do little things like these, you feel like you are on the right track. You feel content with your work-life balance.

For me, my morning routine consists of:

  1. Waking up at 6 AM
  2. Having a glass of water
  3. Washing my face and brushing my teeth
  4. Meditating for 20 minutes (I use Headspace app)
  5. Playing Elevate (a brain training app)
  6. Reading a Blinkist
  7. Reading for 30 minutes
  8. Listening to a motivational video
  9. Setting my 3 MITs for the day
  10. Making tea for me and my wife
  11. Spending some quality time with my wife over tea

2. Take Days Off

5 Very Important Self-Care Tips for Busy People

The one mistake that is common among entrepreneurs is trying to work non-stop. Like our body, our mind gets tired too, and like our body, our mind needs rest too. While daily self-care is important in the long run, so is taking time off. Both together give you the perfect balance for rejuvenating your mind and body.

On the days that you assign as an off, do not pencil in even a tiny amount of work. Try to stay away from social media. Consider it as sort of a detox and cleanse from social media and work. Spend the day with your friends, family, or loved ones. Or spending the day with just yourself might be exactly what you need.

“When we self-regulate well, we are better able to control the trajectory of our emotional lives and resulting actions based on our values and sense of purpose.”

– Amy Leigh Mercree

Take part in activities that aren’t related to work. Work on your hobbies or some little fun projects that you do only for yourself, not as an investment for something in the future. The day should only be about resting and relaxing.

3. Get enough sleep

5 Very Important Self-Care Tips for Busy People

When you have begun your business, or your business is at its peak, pulling an all-nighter is an often occasion. You might think that you are putting in all these extra hours and being super-productive, but are you?

Yes, you are putting in all those extra hours counts. I understand that sometimes there’s no other option. What you have to keep in mind is that you can easily fall prey to the “I work day and night, look how busy I am” mentality. Working day in and day out does not only deteriorate your health, but it also does the same to your work quality.

“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.”

– Anne Lamott

Now you might be ready to compromise with your health in the name of building your business but are you ready to make the same compromise with your work. Take a moment. Think about your answer.

While taking care of yourself is a thought that stays on the back burner, use the need to do a good job as a motivation to take care of yourself. When you are well rested, you will be able to do your best. So, get enough sleep, don’t hack away on coffee and energy drinks.

4. Reward yourself

5 Very Important Self-Care Tips for Busy People

Rewarding yourself works like a charm. You can even use rewards for yourself as deadlines. It doesn’t have to be something extravagant; it just has to be something that excites you enough to look forward to it. Something as small as eating your favorite donut works too.

When we see the results for our work, it gives us a sense of accomplishment. We get validation, and that is something that a lot of people look for: validation for their work or themselves. But, sometimes, results aren’t that easy to come by. You could be working on something that takes years to come to fruition, and those are the times when you can easily feel a lack of motivation to get going.

“Carve out and claim the time to care for yourself and kindle your own fire.”

– Amy Ippoliti

This is when setting a reward for yourself is most needed. It can give that small burst of happiness in your workspace that you so desperately need to get going. You can and should reward yourself after you have helped your business get out of a rough patch or completed a very difficult project. This gives you a sweet sense of accomplishment which helps you get back to work as an optimistically renewed person.

5. Review your goals

5 Very Important Self-Care Tips for Busy People

One thing that we always seem to forget is that it is not possible to do everything at once. To keep ourselves in tune with this, it is important to review our goals from time to time. Sometimes, while setting the goals, it is easier to slip and blur the lines between realistic goals and ideal fantasy goals. Meaning, in an ideal world, achieving those goals would have been easy, but in real life, there are a lot of things that can go wrong.

“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”

– Audre Lorde

When you go through your goals after some time has passed since you wrote them, you will be a better judge of how realistic they are. This also helps you keep updating your approach based on your current predicament.

It is OKAY to scratch a goal or add a new one as you go. Things change and adapting to changes is what keeps us going forward. When times change, so do our priorities and so do our goals. Trying to get everything done will eventually burn you out. Even if you manage to keep churning out results, those won’t be of high-quality, those won’t be something you are proud of. It is necessary to be flexible with our goals.

“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.”

–Deborah Day

These things don’t take much time. You can easily make them a monthly or weekly thing. Apart from setting a morning routine and getting enough sleep, none of the other things need to be done daily. If you don’t care about yourself enough, maybe you can do it for your business. See how pathetic it sounds in a way.

Don’t be someone who burned high and bright for a few years and then fazed out because you forgot to add rekindling; forgot to take care of yourself.

Always remember, the goal is to make our lives better!

“Accept yourself. Love yourself as you are. Your finest work, your best movements, your joy, peace, and healing comes when you love yourself. You give a great gift to the world when you do that. You give others permission to do the same: to love themselves. Revel in self-love. Roll in it. Bask in it as you would sunshine.”

– Melodie Beattie

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Why Too Many Self Help Books are Bad for You

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Since you’re reading this article on this blog, you probably have a keen interest in self-betterment. You’re the kind of person who has a constant hunger to grow, develop personality and achieve great things. You probably have a full shelf of self-help books at home, and reach for a new one in airport book stores. 

Let’s take a moment to congratulate yourself on this. Not many people, definitely not the vast majority of people are genuinely interested in self-growth. However, like any good thing in life, there is a flip-side to immersing yourself in self-help content. It can severely impact the way you see yourself, and the world around you; sometimes for the worse.

The Heroes

It’s fairly common to read a self-help book and start valorising the writer. The requisite to write a self-help book or a how-to guide is often being successful first so that you then have the ‘right’ to preach to other people. That’s why many “successful people” write memoirs or how-to guides to spill their secrets and let others know how they made it. 

A byproduct of this is the audience begins to automatically consume everything that the writer tells them as the gospel truth. We don’t doubt the credibility of someone who’s made it big. We don’t ask for much scientific backing when these successful persons tell us their life story: one anecdote is enough. 

Of course, in any field of scientific research, a single anecdote is never considered to be scientific evidence alone. This is simply because one person can never be an unbiased narrator of their own experiences. We can’t weigh their words against those of others; verify their methods with a control group. 

This is not to suggest that all writers of self-help books are getting away with lying or false information just because no one’s cross-checking (although that could be the occasional case). 

The few people who are successful in their fields and occupy positions in the public sphere undoubtedly have more experience than you and me. However, even they cannot hundred per cent explain the reasons for their success. It is generally a number of factors that act together, right connections, right timing, right pre-dispositions combined with the person’s efforts that bring them success. 

For example, if a successful entrepreneur writes about how he built his own business empire, he could give you 10 methods, or tips and tricks that he followed to stay motivated and increase his productivity. What he cannot guarantee is that this will work for everyone. He also cannot guarantee that those 10 exact methods are what caused his success.

There are many self-help books that are abundant with real-life examples, scientific studies, and academic research. These are also, coincidentally the type of books where the author relies less on his own experience as the source of his advice. These are not just more useful books to read, they also are much more informative and entertaining than their monologue counterparts. 

Survivorship Bias

One of the other side effects of surrounding yourself with lots of self-help content is that you become prey to the survivorship bias. This means that you continually consume stories and experiences of many people that have succeeded. Once we start following ‘successes’, we begin to see them everywhere. 

Social media has a hand to play in this as well. Popular social media platforms have algorithms that create echo-chambers where you only see the kind of content that you like. So if you’re only reading about positive and uplifting self-betterment content, chances are you never come across stories about failures. 

This can make you feel that there is an enormous amount of people that are succeeding and doing what you want to do. The spotlight is on the 1%, while ignoring the other 99% in the shadow. 

You might wonder why this is a problem. Isn’t focusing on the positive success stories making it more likely that you will also be successful yourself?

Surprisingly, it’s not. It can be the real reason why it’s so hard to succeed, because you can follow all the hacks, tips and tricks, and methods that you read in self-help books and still have unique challenges to overcome. This is because you’re ignoring the data from the vast masses of people that tried the very same methods and failed. 

You must be thinking: well, I should be focusing on failure stories? That’s depressing!

No, you don’t! For one, they are difficult to find. Simply knowing the information about how often someone succeeds to the level that you want to can be your tool. 

For example, if you want to become a best-selling author, you should know that simply getting published has a 1% success rate while a best-selling author is probably closer to 0.001%.

This is not to discourage you from chasing your dreams, but only to help you bring a dose of reality into your pursuit of success. 

Final Words

Knowing that the advice you read in a self-help book is from a person part of the 1% rather than the 99% can stop you from being frustrated. Many people follow the methods and techniques suggested in these books and then expect instant success. 

So if you’re waking up at 5 AM for three months in a row now, and wondering why you’re not a millionaire yet: the story was never that simple! 

Congratulations to your brand new good habit, and pursuit of self-betterment, but know that there is a long way to go before we discover a complete formula for success

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The Science Behind Forming Habits that Last

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If you’ve ever tried to form a habit, someone’s probably given you the advice that it takes only 21 days to do so. 

The 21-day rule claims that one must only perform an activity every day, for 21 days, until it automatically becomes a habit and the person no longer has to put in the effort to do the activity.

And, if you’ve ever tried to test out this rule: you likely found that it doesn’t really work. 

Unfortunately, there are many more factors that come into play when considering why some habit formation happens in less time than others. 

I was told by a school teacher that it takes 21 days to form a habit and 90 days for it to become a lifestyle. During the lockdown, I tried to make it a practice to meditate every day for 10 minutes to meditate. I eagerly awaited the 21-day mark, expecting some kind of magical transformation to take place as soon as I awoke. 

There was nothing different about the 21st day (or the 3 months after that), and I didn’t experience any time-bound results. 

Where the 21-Day Rule Comes from

Interestingly, the 21-Day Rule isn’t so much a rule as it’s a misinterpreted observation. A plastic surgeon Maxwell Maltz wrote a well-acclaimed book about human behavior. 

In his career, he noticed that it always took a minimum of 21 days for one of his patients to mentally adjust to the physical change in their body. He proposed that any sort of mental image adjustment requires a minimum of 21 days from this data. 

Now while this could be useful data for mental image adjustments, habit formation encompasses many more factors than that. 

Here are scientifically-backed factors that influence how strong your newly formed habit is and how long it will last.

How Big or Small it is

If your habit is something challenging to do, it will take a lot of willpower for you to drastically change your everyday routine to accommodate it. 

For example, if you work a 10hour shift and still want to workout at the gym for an hour a day, knowing it sacrifices your recreation time: chances are that this habit will be really difficult to form and sustain.

A small habit like making your bed, washing the dishes before you go to bed at night, or even self-affirmations in the morning: are all habits that can fit into a schedule without you having to sacrifice much. 

Starting with small habits makes it easier since you don’t need a lot of motivation to perform them. 

How Important the Habit is to your Self Image

Some habits we’re trying to form are more important to us than others. If you strongly believe that this habit will help you become the person you’re destined to be, you’re going to attach more value to carrying it out every day!

How Many Days you Skip

We’re often under the impression that all your progress will come crashing down if you skip a day. Thankfully, it’s been proven that even if you miss a day, there are no long-term effects on the habit formation itself. But it’s recommended that you never skip more than one day at a time.

How You Remind Yourself

When reminding yourself to perform the activity you’re trying to convert to a habit, it’s critical to piggyback off other existing habits. That means if you already have a habit of doing yoga and want to get into a habit of meditating, make sure that you meditate right after your yoga practice. One habit helps the other.

How Sustainable Your Pace is

If you’re working on forming a habit that needs to be built up over time, you need to make sure this pace is feasible for your current lifestyle. You know your life best, and if you know you’re going to have a significant life event and get busier soon, don’t have unrealistic expectations from your new habit!

Good luck!

40% of our day-to-day life is made out of habits. Forming a new habit can very realistically transform your entire life. I’m glad you’re on this journey to maximize your potential, and I’m sure you can do it!

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How Reading can impact your Day to Day Life?

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Reading is a healthy habit, which, if practiced daily, can change your entire life around. Do you want to know why? Through Reading, one can not only gain knowledge but also stay acquainted with the outside as well as the inside world. The best thing about reading daily is to have an isolated place for yourself in your mind, where you can run off to. Most people don’t have the patience or intention to read, and that too, daily. Though this is a habit that takes time to settle in but trust me, once it does, you would never regret it. So, here is a list of reasons why you should read daily?

Why should you read daily?

  • To gain knowledge

Once you start reading daily, and by Reading, it can be anything – you can read few pages of a novel, or a magazine, or newspaper, or even poetry – you would notice within weeks how much your knowledge regarding the outer world has improved. Through Reading, one can have clear information regarding the current affairs, and hence, stay updated.

  • To improve your vocabulary

Through Reading, you can definitely learn new words and hence, improve your vocabulary. Most people make it a habit to learn a new word from the dictionary every day, but if you read daily, you are bound to get new words and make a list of them on a notebook with their meanings, which is definitely going to be helpful for you.

  • To have a make-believe world

The most beautiful consequence of Reading is having one’s own imaginary world, where one can live a life full of magic. This is the extraordinary superpower one acquires while reading. In this busy daily life of ours, we all look for a secluded place where we can feel the essence of peace. Reading can fly you off to the imaginary land of sunflowers, daisies, and cats who can indeed talk.

  • To become more attentive

Most people lack patience nowadays. Being impatient and restless has become a severe problem in today’s world. Here, Reading can help you calm your mind and improve your observation skills. It works like meditation. In no time, you would find your mind focusing on details and becoming more attentive to events, which used to go unnoticed.

  • To reduce stress

Reading is similar to meditation, and hence, it definitely helps to reduce your stress. Books always have a calming effect on one’s mind. It takes you away from daily problems and stressful situations and helps your mind to gain stability. Not only it helps in reducing stress, but it also helps to decrease the anxiety levels of a person. 

Everyone should make reading a daily habit. One should switch off the mobile phones, turn off the television and take some time out to read. It works wonders on one’s day-to-day life and changes one person’s entire personality. Though it can be hard at first, with time, you would cherish the moments alone, reading in a corner while your mind is flying off to Narnia.

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