A positive mindset can be a gateway to your success. What you focus your energy on, is what manifests. The law of attraction is at play here.
Two very important factors of creating a positive mindset are your mind and your physical environment. You have to balance and work at both of them in such a way that it helps you succeed. If even one of these two things is not at 100%, then your goals will suffer.
A negative physical environment will bring you down no matter how positive your mindset. Every step you take further will be pulled ten steps backward if you are in a place that drains your energy and affects you mentally. Let’s say, your family is not supportive of your work and you work from home. Constant bickering, blaming, and fights have the power to drain your mind of all the energy and creativity you need to get your work done.
You have to get out of that place, change things, anything to change the current situation and add positivity to your life.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”
Here are some tips that will help you do just that. Most of these things don’t exactly need much of your time, but they do need discipline, you have to adopt them in your everyday life.
1. Start your day on a positive note
How you start your day sets the ball rolling for how the rest of your day is going to be. This is why all the positive affirmation exercises have been gaining popularity lately. If you wake up late, cranky, don’t get enough sleep, then you carry that emotion for the rest of the day. This means you start your day on a pessimistic note and let that view cast a shadow over everything else you do.
There are various ways that people use to start their day on a positive note, such as –
- A gratitude journal – Keeping a gratitude journal and writing in it the first thing in the morning has shown to have positive effects on the mind. Because you consciously make an effort to think of things you appreciate, you make your mind take on a grateful and positive mindset.
- Talking to yourself in the mirror – No matter how silly it sounds, try saying encouraging words to yourself every morning. You will start noticing a positive change. As soon as you repeat positive reinforcements to your own reflection, you will most probably feel yourself feel light, get a little smile.
- Meditate – Meditation helps your mind relax and when your mind relaxes it is easier to think positive thoughts. Self-awareness meditation helps you connect more with yourself and helps you understand yourself better. When understanding sets in, it is easier to not keep on criticizing yourself.
- Breathing exercises – Breathing exercises allow you to take time out for yourself, to focus only on your breathing, to breathe correctly, and also transport to a calm, positive place.
“By celebrating the small stuff and feeling gratitude for it, things you never noticed before will come into focus.”
2. Keep your focus on good things
Your days are going to be filled with good and bad things, what you focus on takes over your outlook on things. Sometimes it can be difficult to see the silver lining, but no matter how faint the lining is, it is what you should be focusing on. It might not make sense to you sometimes, but it sure helps.
Suppose, you are stuck in traffic, it sure sucks, but you can do nothing about it at that moment so you might as well finish listening to the podcast, audiobook, song you were listening to. If you have to wait for quite some time for an appointment, think of it as an opportunity to catch up on reading or replying to your emails. In most negative situations, you might not have a choice to change them, so instead of focusing on them, find other things you can do or think about what good it can do and go from there.
3. Use your failures to learn and grow
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is
delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”
– Denis Waitley
One thing that is constant about learning and getting new experiences is making mistakes. Even the most successful people have made mistakes. Mistakes are one of the best ways to learn and grow. If not for failures, we would never find new and efficient ways to do things.
Instead of focusing on the fact that you failed, think about why you did and what you can do to change it. Keep the lesson in your mind to be used in the future.
Use humor to add a touch of lightness
“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.”
– Bill Cosby
Humor is one of the ways people cope up with bad situations. It is one of the powerful tools to use to surround yourself with positivity. One thing that my friend always said in bad situations was to think what a great story your situation will be one day. You will use the time you knew nothing, were in muck or had a horrible experience as a funny story or an inspiring story.
5. Surround yourself with positive people
“It’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours, and you’ll drift in that direction.”
“You can not change the people around you. But you can change the people that you choose to be around.”
The people you surround yourself with, leave a more long-lasting effect on you than you would have imagined. This is why it is always advised to surround yourself with people you would like to be like. If there is a person around you who spends his time pointing out everything that could go wrong, then you are going to give in to the pessimism and start doing the same.
Finding positive people to surround yourself with can be difficult, but one thing you can do is cut off the negative people from your life. Let only the positivity seep into your mind.
A positive mindset is a push you need every day to work towards your goals and dreams. Work on yourself so that you can work on your goals. If you are not at your peak, it will show in the work you do. First better yourself then target the goals, it will become much easier to achieve!
5 Tips to Increase Your Focus
Low attention span or difficulty in focusing is becoming a common problem for many. With so many entertainment options readily available, it has become easy to be distracted and to procrastinate. Our work takes the hit and that, in turn, makes us feel bad. Instead of dismissing your lack of focus as something you have to deal with, learn to increase it.
Like our body, our mind needs exercise too. The areas we consider to be weak can be built up if we put our mind to it. Just because our focus isn’t as strong as we would like it to be, doesn’t mean you have to accept the fact and do nothing about it. Try to better it. There are things, practices, and exercises that if done regularly, can help you increase your focus.
If you didn’t know, meditation has different types that focus on different areas. Mindfulness meditation can help you boost your attention span significantly. Not only that, meditation in itself can help you relax, and become calm and collected. Now, that your mind has relaxed and is free of a thought jumble, it becomes easier to focus on things that actually matter.
Meditation for just 10 to 20 minutes a day will help you increase your focus and attention span. Start your mornings by focusing on your breathing for a few minutes, followed by your meditation ritual. You can also do some light breathing exercise just before doing something that requires focus to clear your mind.
2. Include practicing mindfulness in your day
While mindfulness meditation helps you become more aware and helps increase your focus. Practicing mindfulness throughout your day will help you fight distractions and focus on the tasks at hand. Mindfulness simply is being very attentive to every aspect of the task you are doing, and also noticing every small detail about your task.
It can seem like it isn’t easy, but it is. What I do is that I imagine I am writing about whatever I am doing – not informative writing but descriptive. So, suppose I am eating my lunch, I will pay attention to the cutlery, the color of my food, the smell, the taste, the texture of each ingredient. I will focus on chewing and swallowing, on the feeling it gives rise to.
What we usually do is that we focus on distractions while eating, and our primary task somehow becomes secondary. Our focus shifts towards our phones or the shows we are watching. This is what happens with many of our tasks.
3. Don’t listen to music while working
Many of us have the habit of listening to music while working on something. While it helps people most of the times and can be a good thing, it does the opposite for people with poor focus. If you know the song, then you are most probably going to sing along, and that stops you from giving your all to the task at hand.
Let’s say you are doing something that is going to be using the same parts of your brain, then will doing those things together make sense? No, right? When you are doing something that uses motor functions like your household chores, then listening to music is fine, but not while reading if you don’t have a high focus level.
4. Build your willpower
Willpower will allow you to ignore distractions like playing songs or using your phone and will help you to stay focused on the task at hand. Consciously saying no to yourself whenever you feel like doing something else is very important and a skill that you should definitely develop if you want to increase your focus level.
Your attention span will be served well with intentionally trying to focus and also having strong willpower isn’t only good for building your focus but also for being productive. At the end of the day, what you do or do not do boils down to your willpower, saying no to distractions depends entirely on your willpower.
5. Increase your focus gradually
Like any habit, you need to start slow. Like when starting exercise, you are advised to start slow because your body might not be able to take it, the same goes for anything mental. The best way to stay focused is for you to start using the Pomodoro technique. This lets you start working in bouts so that you can start with a short amount of focusing time.
You traditionally work for 25 minutes and then take a five minutes break. After you have repeated this four times, you can take a longer break. Because you know that you have to work for only 25 minutes, it becomes easier to focus. This is a great way to start out.
All it boils down to is will power and persistence. If you are really dedicated to increasing your focus, then you will find it easier to do things to help. I would say, convincing yourself is the hardest part, so start out by taking small steps. Don’t decide to start being completely focused for the whole day, that isn’t going to happen. Use these tips to slowly but gradually increase your focus.
9 Signs It’s Time To Change Your Mindset
Changing your mindset about money and relationships can be life-enriching and have a massive impact on your life. It can open up virtually limitless opportunities for you in a short period of time. There are clear signs that you can look for to know whether you are going in the right direction in life or not.
Here are 9 signs that let you know that it’s time to change your mindset.
1. You are in denial
Tough circumstances can sometimes take their toll and can make you delusional. People who are in a difficult place in life simple deny that they are unhappy. They pretend as if nothing is wrong and everything is going the way they want it to go. They are in denial. Denial is a primitive defense mechanism that has existed since prehistoric times. You know it’s time to change your mindset when you find yourself denying reality.
2. You feel no gratitude
Being grateful is the quality of being thankful for what you currently have. Having a job, no shortage of food, living in one of the best countries in the world, etc are some of the good things we are blessed to be born with. You should change your mindset if you don’t notice these good things and are too caught up in your own life. Here’s a tip to develop gratitude: Write down five things you already have that you cannot live without.
3. Your relationships are a mess
Relationships have always been key to the survival and growth of human beings as a species. They provide you physical and emotional intimacy. This keeps you sane and functional. If your relationships are a mess, you should take a step back and test the situation. Are you at fault? If yes then think about how you can change and adapt to make your relationships better.
4. You see yourself as a victim
If you find yourself blaming other people or situations and are feeling dreadful all the time, then you may have a victim mindset. Don’t get me wrong. I am not denying that bad things don’t happen to you. But it’s your response to them is what makes you a victim or a victor. Great people like Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, and Mahatma Gandhi had to go through discrimination and atrocities in their life. But they dealt with it with courage and conviction.
5. You are clinging to old friends
There is nothing wrong with staying in touch with your old friends. In fact, old friendships should always be cherished and celebrated. But the problem arises when you cling on the people you know and find it difficult to make new friends. This is because you have gotten too comfortable with what you have and are not willing to risk losing them. You can change your mindset by introducing yourself to 5 new people each week.
6. You feel guilty
Guilt is one of the most disruptive feelings that can turn into poison and destroy your entire life. People usually use it as a weapon against others to get what they want. It is extremely unhealthy to be around a person who is making you feel guilty all the time. Evaluate your social circle and see if there are such people in your group. If you are feeling guilty, you can change your mindset by not blaming yourself for every wrong thing that happens.
7. You are only seeing the dark side
Seeing only the downsides or the negative aspects in a particular thing or a situation is a learned behavior. Most people acquire it early in their childhood from their parents. It’s a symptom of being a part of a dysfunctional family. But everything you learn can be unlearned. You need to become aware of how your negativity is affecting your life. To get motivated and stay motivated in life, you must focus on the positives.
8. You are not learning new things
The day you stop learning new things, you stop growing as a person. Learning and experiencing new things makes us feel alive and awake. No matter how old you are, it is necessary for the development of your brain. Try learning musical instruments, a new sport, board games, new skills at work, etc.
9. Your life is not moving in the direction you want it to go
This is one of the most common dilemmas faced by millennials. They may have everything they want but they still feel unsatisfied with their life. If this sounds like you, you can change your mindset by knowing what you want from life. Don’t just achieve things because it will make others happy. Being better than others might momentarily make you feel good but that feeling is not long lasting.
So, if you think you exhibit one of these signs, you can begin by acknowledging and accepting that there is work to be done. You can seek help from a friend or a therapist to get to the root of the issue and solve it permanently. Most often, talking about your problems itself will lead you to the right solution.
5 Ways To Change Your Perspective During a Crisis
Is your life a constant uphill battle? Do you struggle to achieve your goals? Or maybe you are in a temporary crisis situation that you know will pass soon? Whatever it may be, you can change your circumstance by changing your perspective about everything in life.
Here are the 5 ways to change your perspective during a crisis.
1. Go on a solo backpacking journey
Going on a year-long backpacking trip is one of the best ways to change your perspective about life. Thousands of millennials from countries like the United States, Denmark and Norway have used solo travel as a way to grow and become more mature in a short period of time.
Travelling can make you forget your worries and give you a new perspective on life. As you meet people from different countries and cultures, you will learn how they deal with and overcome their personal problems. Every culture has something interesting to teach. So, book a ticket to Thailand or Cambodia and begin the process of healing today.
2. Get new friends
Almost all successful people I know have a steady flow of new friends and people in their life. Old relationships, no matter how special they are, become stale and toxic as time passes by. By temporarily or permanently distancing yourself from your old friends, you can learn and grow in different directions.
Don’t get me wrong, they might have your best interest in their mind but you will not only realize the things that you are missing out until you expand your social circle. Meeting new and interesting people will help you change your perspective about everything. There is no definitive guide on how to meet new people and make friends, but you can start by going to events and meetups related to the things that interest you.
3. Read books that will shatter your old beliefs
Lack of passion and social awareness are two main reasons why some people continue to stay narrow-minded throughout their life. Imagine how your life would look like if you had no hobbies and friends? How would you feel? If you have found yourself in this situation, you can begin with reading books like “Awaken the Giant Within” by Tony Robbins.
Reading this book will change your perspective about yourself. It will make you realize how worthy you are of success and happiness. Tony has been teaching personal development since he was a teenager. He worked with and learned from the self-help industry giant Jim Rohn. The principles and concepts from this book will make a massive difference in your life.
4. Spend at least 1-hour every day in nature
Everyone knows that walking and trekking in nature has a lot of physical benefits. But it can also powerfully impact the way you think and perceive the world. An average American spends his days working all day in an office. This makes him feel suppressed so he watches television at night to blow off the stress. This lifestyle is detrimental.
Begin by taking a brisk walk every morning in a park. If you are lucky enough to stay in an area surrounded by nature, you can just head out into the woods. This activity releases four primary chemicals in the brain called dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. The release of these happiness hormones will calm your mind and make you think more rationally.
5. Shift your focus on health and nutrition
Focusing on health and nutrition will not only change your perspective but also keep you motivated and happy throughout the day. Of course, you are going to have your bad days too but they will be infrequent. Health and nutrition included things like regular exercise, eating good food, going to bed early, maintain good hygiene, etc.
Summing it up
Being in a life crisis does not mean the end of the world for you. Everyone goes through adversities in life. In fact, your problems and the way you solve them determine the quality of your life. Negative thinking, victimizing yourself and self-loathing are some of the ways a loser tries to justify his/her failure. Becoming aware of these habits will change your perspective on everything in life.
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