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What to Tell Yourself During Tough Times?

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Whether you want to believe it or not, tough times are bound to come in your life from time to time. It’s easy to go tumbling down the rabbit hole of despair, to blame yourself, to blame others, or to give up.

It’s easier for self-doubt to seep in and for negative thoughts to take the front seat.

“Why me?”

“This always happens with me.”

“This is how I am going to be always.”

“I won’t ever succeed.”

These are just some of the thoughts that take over our mind when tough times strike. Even if the difficult phase passes, sooner or later it reappears in another form. The sooner you accept that tough times are a part of life, the sooner you will learn to not be fazed by them.

Positive thoughts don’t appear magically in your head during times like these, you have to actively work towards getting that mindset. One thing that is going to get you through difficult patches of your life is a positive and healthy mindset. To achieve that mindspace, there are some things you need to remind yourself and keep working towards.

1. It will pass

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“This too shall pass. It might pass like a kidney stone. But it will pass.”


-Anonymous

I don’t know who said it but it makes real sense here. No matter what kind of time you are going through, it is going to pass. Even the most happening days don’t last so why will the tough time. When you make up your mind and convince yourself that this predicament you are in will be over in some time, it is easier to deal with.

A deadline, an end date have the power to drive us through life even when we don’t want to. So, putting a clock on your tough time is a good thing to begin with, you don’t have to know the exact date but just the thought of it being over soon is enough to get you into action.

2. This will make me stronger

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“I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.”

-Rita Mero

Tough times, negative experiences, glitches in plans, every unfavorable thing teaches you something and that something helps you become stronger. What do you think people mean by being a better version of yourself? It simply means learning from your mistakes and using those lessons to grow yourself as a person. It might not seem like that at the time but once it passes you will realize how it made you a better person.

“Hard times are like a washing machine, they twist, turn and knock us around, but in the end we come out cleaner, brighter and better than before.”


-Anonymous

3. Don’t stop – Small steps go a long way

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“If you are going through hell, keep going.”


-Winston Churchill

It is tempting to tuck yourself in your comfy blanket and never get out. When things got tough, this used to be my go-to solution. Just go to sleep and wake up when everything passes but things seldom work as we want them to. After I woke up, the problem that had me in a time like was still there, and albeit calm I was still at the same place as before. No solution, no steps taken to fight this thing.

Then I realized that while feeling safe and hiding inside a bubble might be my preference, it wasn’t going to sustain me in the long run. What I needed to do was find a way out. Once this sunk in, I started finding outrageous ways to get help or help myself out of a situation. Well, the ways, they weren’t exactly outrageous but you get my point. For example, there’s an exam tomorrow and you don’t even know the name of the textbook, and you decide that it is possible to learn a 1,000-page book in the just 8 hours.

While that might seem ideal, it is far from it. What it did to me was put me under a lot of stress. Finally, I understood it was about taking small steps, you didn’t have to win the world in a day, just a small something was enough and that is what helps you win the world one day. Just keep taking baby steps, don’t stop.

In the end, it all boils down to your determination to not stop and to not let whatever it is get the better of you. Your mind is the only thing that is going to drive you in situations you would rather not be, so the only thing you have to do, to build yourself up from the ground, is convince yourself that whatever it is, you can get through it without breaking, and it is going to benefit you, and you are going to win because as someone wise said, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”

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Do you Want to Change your Status to Active this Pandemic

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Since early childhood, adolescence, and adulthood one is constantly pushed to achieve smaller and larger goals. This push takes the form of a motivational factor that helps an individual grow and move ahead in their day to day activities, to feel content, happy, and alive. But, sometimes these motivational factors could be hindered due to various elements and situations. This effect turns into demotivated behavior, further manifest in various physical and mental forms that hinder their well-being. The constant build-up of this demotivated mindset reflects in an individual in how they approach the daily task of getting up, feeling anxious to complete their routines, and go about their day. Hence motivation is an important driving force to accomplish any action. According to Kendra Cherry, an educational consultant in her article titled “What is Motivation” published in Verywell Mind describes ‘Motivation’ as a force that pushes you to act, initiate and guide goal-oriented behavior. In her article, she further focuses on two types of motivations extrinsic and intrinsic. Extrinsic motivation is an external driving force that pushes a person to work. Theses motivators could be rewards such as praise, money, recognition. While intrinsic motivation would be pushing to try something new, or the mere satisfaction that one gets with a task. Hence the internal push to complete the given task.

Similarly, motivation is an important asset required for a smooth functioning workplace, without which the productivity levels amongst their employees would drop. The growing pandemic crisis, foreign to many, has had a toll on the productivity levels of employees. With the shift to an online base as well as work from home situations the concerns of both the organization and employees increase. Humans by nature are known to be social beings. Hence seeing other people work around makes one introspect and motivates themselves. But, with the sudden isolation, individuals seem to have a hard time adjusting and hence have been slacking in their work. An added factor is that many employees have even been sacked, as companies have been trying to cope with this epidemic and its repercussion on them. Which has drastically dropped the motivation factors for many, as this had an effect on their confidence. Levels of productivity drop during work from home, explained by an article posted by welcome to the jungle, the article emphasizes that fewer rewards, micromanagement and lack of team spirit affect individuals working from home. Companies have even been concerned about their employee’s mental health issues in the past, but with the growing demotivation, mental health concerns have been on a rise. This is due to the state of work, where many are unable to reach deadlines, procrastinate, having increasing panic and anxiety levels. Hence as an extrinsic force companies need to find new ways to push their employees. 

For the ones working from home this shift in their environment, and scenery has made them confused and lack energy. The home environment might not be pleasant for many to work in while others would be missing their colleagues and their office. With the ongoing crisis, we lose motivation due to the panic and anxiety from thinking about the future. They worry about their job, family, friends start to cloud their mind adding to this, one starts to seem unfocused with the growing distractions in the surroundings. These distractions could be of various kinds, which would lead to one feeling lazy and procrastinate and hence lose productivity. Therefore on an intrinsic level, individuals need to apply various coping strategies to push themselves and to be more productive. 

During the normal working of companies, they have had activities and events to promote motivational behavior in their employees. Due to the current online shift, there needs to be a more unique and creative method to indulge them. These methods could be having online office parties, where individuals can come and interact with their peers, have a one on one with various employees and talk to them about things apart from work, promote other activities such as online courses, readings, etc., to keep them engaged and break the monotonous routine, finally have a more free-flowing communication and interaction with them. In terms of work-related encouragement, organizations could let workers control their schedule, while still maintaining deadlines, making the effort to reach out to them and ask about their online weekly plan, and commitment and helping them sort their schedules from time to time.

While on an individual level, employees need to declutter their home routine. Trying to focus on themselves while giving time to work as well. They need to be kind to themselves, as the situation at hand can be quite frustrating. Having a schedule in place as well as indulging in tasks that would excite them apart from work needs to be done. Having persistent movement in terms of the body by exercising at home, meditating, and also joining online yoga or Zumba classes can be quite helpful. As this would help them stay guided and increase energy levels. Apart from this one should strive to break the routine by reading, joining constructive online courses, and also increase online human interaction. Mental health should not be taken for granted, there needs to be open communication between the organization and the individual as these times are hard on everyone, but we need to work together to surpass this. Organizations need to have online counseling sessions, and individuals should try to be open about these sessions.  

Final Thoughts 

It is the onus of the organization and the self to build motivation in such unfortunate situations. Organizations and employees need to work together to push past these situations and help one another. This is possible to maintain by having feedback from both parties, as this would help understand what would work best for the onscreen future. 

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Ways to Stay Motivated During Pandemic

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Motivation is the kick-start one needs to execute his daily tasks and when lacking, can certainly take things downhill.

Depression

Anxiety

Stress

Mood swings

Thoughts of quitting

Uncertainties

Doubts

These emotions are very common for one to experience when locked up in a house of four walls for around 90 days.

A day without inspiration can make you feel like a failure and that you aren’t working to your optimum. What is there to read here is, machines break down too because of constant wear and tear, you are a human and your unproductive days don’t reflect your negligence. Instead, they are your body’s way of indicating the red-signal of overwork.

In times of low encouragement, it becomes necessary to take care of your mental health. A strong and calm mind at peace is the key to work effectively and efficiently.

Read through a few things listed below that you could resort to, to bounce back in action.

Most importantly, accept and embrace your present condition. It’s you who has to be okay with the fact that you cannot always be at the top of the work ladder. Like it is said – ‘It is okay to be not okay’. Acceptance is the first step towards overcoming a shortfall.

The second in line is to embrace this feeling. Accepting and pushing it in a corner does no good, rather it affects your immunity towards stress. Let your mind and body feel the laziness and the inertness.

It’s like applying the law of diminishing marginal utility – consuming the item until you no more feel the need of having it.

The key to a healthy mind is a nutritious food and plenty of fluids. Eating proper and in regular intervals keeps your form intact and chances of losing focus reduces.

Once you are full, it’s important to stay woke and digest the meal so as to not feel sleepy again. Maintain a strict yet flexible exercise routine to stay fit and away from usual illness.

Normally a light or a loose day is when you don’t have a set pattern to follow. Your work isn’t prioritized appropriately and you end up eating your ‘me’ time stressing over the fact that it’s too much to complete and you are just there wasting time.

A break from usual activities is necessary to relax.

An insight into what you are outside of your office is essential to not lose touch with your real self. During this, you could decide to spend time with your family and connect virtually with your friends too, however it is recommended to not blend in both.

In a span of 24 hours out of which if your office hours include 8-9, a slot for your oneself and family/friends can definitely be separately divided. This will not only give you more time to spend out of work but also be a good way to schedule your free time.

Oh, how we love to binge-watch web series! Take that love and squeeze it to the last drop. Revisit your favorite shows and movies to keep the sense of authenticity alive.

It is extremely important to know and understand your own capacity. Ambition and high standards are good however in the short term these can impact you negatively if not achieved. Listing down short and achievable goals not only are easy but also help boost your morale, giving you the push that is very much needed.

‘No news is a good news’ – one remains unaffected until he is brought face to face with the harsh reality. Hence, it is advised to stay away from social media and news. I am not referring to complete closure, but anything in excess is dangerous thus limited exposure to media and channels will pose beneficial.

Lastly, talking about a point that I mentioned earlier – it is essential to keep a check on your mental health. Many times this is considered to be a taboo which is why people are afraid of being judged if they come out clean. What they don’t realize is this is ultimately doing more damage to their own mind space.

There’s no shame in speaking about what you truly feel and what are the various things that trouble you. In fact, sharing struggles help you feel light and once your mind is empty, it clears a pathway for ideas and solutions to flow.

Take professional help if need be. These are the people who are meant to listen to you and are trained to guide you in the right manner for dealing with stress. If you aren’t comfortable with this, just talking to a family member or a trusted friend also perfectly substitutes the above.

Covid-19 is a severe situation and is getting under the nerves of a lot of people. With nation-wide lock-down and social-distancing and work from home, things have been a bit dicey. There is no certainty of what might happen the next moment and thus extra caution and attention to the well-being of self is the need of the hour.

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Why You Should Consider Adopting Strays over Buying Pets?

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Adopting: What it Means?

Have you ever felt that feeling of intense bliss run over your soul when your puppy comes running to you at the end of the day? Or when your cat purrs sweetly right across your chest while you unwind after long hours of work? Even if you don’t have a furry friend or any other one at home, don’t you wish to live such moments of bliss?

Pets are one of the most rewarding experiences in our life. Through their incredibly kind and innocent ways of being, they give that inner peace we all crave for. If you look into your dog’s eyes, you will see nothing but pure love looking back at you. There are no layers or hidden agendas behind their emotions; all they need is your attention and care.

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They enter our lives with their tiny paws but soon become a part of life, our journey, and of course, our favorite friend. But, if you are thinking of buying a pet, take a pause and reflect. What if you adopt one instead of buying? Have you ever wondered about that?

Yes, I know you might argue about getting a purebred, healthy, easy to train pup from the store rather than a grown-up four-legged friend from the rescue and shelter home. But think carefully, does that sound like a really viable argument?

Adopting an animal from the rescue shelter could give them new hope and a new home. Every pet deserves a loving home. Unfortunately, every year thousands of cats and dogs and other pets are abandoned by their human parents, and these poor creatures are left to fend for themselves. Your one act of kindness has the potential to change their lives.

To help another life is an exhilarating experience, especially when that helps change their lives and makes it much better. Adopting a homeless furry fellow gives you life-long support of unconditional love and the warmth of home to your friend.

While you are happily shopping for a new pet, a stray is eagerly looking for a new beginning. To be honest, whether it is adoption or buying, a pet is a pet, forever loyal, loving, and a true friend. 

There are millions of strays around the world living off scrapes and occasional pats of kindness. Think about the difference you can make by adopting one of them. I know that won’t be a solution for the million others, but hey, a step is all it takes to bring about change.

Especially in the current COVID-19 situation, pets are being abandoned, every day. These animals need your help more than ever. 

The Things You should Know About Adopting

Here are some of the common myth-busters and benefits of adopting a pet, that I have summarised:

  • The Purebred myth: Just because you are adopting doesn’t mean you won’t get a purebred. In fact, you can also get high-quality mixed breed dogs at shelter homes.
  • Inducted to a new community of pet-lovers: Once you adopt, you build a relationship with the shelter homes, and one day you might end up volunteering for the good cause!
  • Be an example: Adopting is a gesture of goodwill. By doing this, you can set an example for your kids and family about how to make a difference in the world.
  • Many breeders have a sort of puppy or kitten mill, where they are kept in constricted spaces. By adopting, you can put an end to such practice of keeping these happy paws in confined, unhealthy spaces.
  • Health woes: You do not need to fret about more impoverished health conditions of strays compared to pets bought from stores. Before you bring the adopted pet home, spaying/neutering, vaccinations, and other medical tests are done to ensure health safety.
  • Behavior: Animals living in shelter homes, although coming from adverse conditions, in many instances, cope well with other fellow beings since they stay in the company.
  • Money factor: When you buy a pet, you end up spending hundreds of dollars, but with adoption, it’s free, and you get the same kind, loving furry friend on your porch!
  • Please give them a lifetime home: That does not need any description, and the feeling involved in doing it is priceless.

Final Words

The decision to have a pet is a huge step in itself. It is almost like bringing a kid home. You have to care, nurture, and provide for them continually. No doubt, it is a big responsibility as well. But if you have taken that decision, why not move a step further? 

There are so many shelter homes and rescue animals around the world. So, why not adopt and give life a new meaning, for a furry fellow waiting out there, with its bright, honest eyes filled with love and gratitude?

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