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Comparing Your Journey to Someone Else’s is the Root Cause of Self-Doubt

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Comparing Your Journey to Someone Else’s is the Root Cause of Self-Doubt

There are many times when we think what we are doing is not enough or not good enough according to the comparison we make with others. What we fail to realize is that not everyone is at the same point in their journey. Not everyone is in the same situation, not everyone faces the same challenges, and not everyone has the same dreams. Which is why staying focused on your own dreams becomes important.

The destination can be the same, yes, but the goals can be different. You and another person can want the same things but for totally different reasons. All these things considered, there is no point in comparing your journey to someone else’s. Other than doubt and negativity, it gives you nothing. If you look at someone, try to learn from their accomplishments rather than thinking how they already achieved something that you have wanted to.

Comparing Your Journey to Someone Else’s is the Root Cause of Self-Doubt

Comparing your progress to others is you being unfair to yourself. You cannot compare your start to someone’s middle and come out happy from that thought. All it will do is take you down. When you start working at something that involves a huge risk, it is easy to look at everything with distrust, it is easy to compare, it is easy to judge. You have to try to think of ways to change your perspective during crises. You have to actively stop yourself from thinking about external things that are completely out of your control.

External roadblocks are easier to pinpoint, but the ones we create ourselves, our mental roadblocks, those are what stop us from succeeding. Living in denial about how you yourself are holding yourself back is not going to help. Instead of doing that, you need to recognize the signs that tell you that it is time to change your mindset for a better standing point.

The point is that not all negativity is external, and sometimes, out of fear, we become negative. Pessimistic thoughts talk over any enthusiasm you have for going about your work. As you work on building something, one of the main things to do is to learn how to say no to negativity. You can boycott negative people, turn away from negative influences, stop participating in negative discussions, but stopping the negativity in your mind is a bit difficult.

Comparing Your Journey to Someone Else’s is the Root Cause of Self-Doubt

The most effective thing you can is to start journaling. Journaling gives you an opportunity to pour out your thoughts and then see what is bothering you. When all your worries and thoughts are out on paper, you will know what you need to focus on and what you need to change to help yourself. It is a form of self-therapy. Try it if you don’t want to talk to someone else.

Having a clear mind is important if you want to get your work done effectively. Mental exhaustion from worrying too much can negatively impact your productivity, that paired with the constant comparison with others is sure to cause your downfall. Along with journaling, start with positive affirmations. Include positive talk in your daily routine. Remind yourself that you can do it.

I cannot stress enough on self-care. When we start a new project, there are a lot of things that need to be worked on, and that has us busy. Being busy is required at this stage, I agree, but that isn’t reason enough to not take care of yourself. Being busy and taking care of your self are not mutually exclusive. It is all about priority.

Takeaway

There are a lot of things you will have to deal with. Doubts and questions are always going to be pouring in from the people you know. Do not be another addition to your headache. If you manage to keep your headspace clean, no matter what comes your way, you will be able to deal with anything. From time to time, take moments off to just reflect and simply relax.  

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Why You Should Consider Adopting Strays over Buying Pets?

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Adopting: What it Means?

Have you ever felt that feeling of intense bliss run over your soul when your puppy comes running to you at the end of the day? Or when your cat purrs sweetly right across your chest while you unwind after long hours of work? Even if you don’t have a furry friend or any other one at home, don’t you wish to live such moments of bliss?

Pets are one of the most rewarding experiences in our life. Through their incredibly kind and innocent ways of being, they give that inner peace we all crave for. If you look into your dog’s eyes, you will see nothing but pure love looking back at you. There are no layers or hidden agendas behind their emotions; all they need is your attention and care.

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They enter our lives with their tiny paws but soon become a part of life, our journey, and of course, our favorite friend. But, if you are thinking of buying a pet, take a pause and reflect. What if you adopt one instead of buying? Have you ever wondered about that?

Yes, I know you might argue about getting a purebred, healthy, easy to train pup from the store rather than a grown-up four-legged friend from the rescue and shelter home. But think carefully, does that sound like a really viable argument?

Adopting an animal from the rescue shelter could give them new hope and a new home. Every pet deserves a loving home. Unfortunately, every year thousands of cats and dogs and other pets are abandoned by their human parents, and these poor creatures are left to fend for themselves. Your one act of kindness has the potential to change their lives.

To help another life is an exhilarating experience, especially when that helps change their lives and makes it much better. Adopting a homeless furry fellow gives you life-long support of unconditional love and the warmth of home to your friend.

While you are happily shopping for a new pet, a stray is eagerly looking for a new beginning. To be honest, whether it is adoption or buying, a pet is a pet, forever loyal, loving, and a true friend. 

There are millions of strays around the world living off scrapes and occasional pats of kindness. Think about the difference you can make by adopting one of them. I know that won’t be a solution for the million others, but hey, a step is all it takes to bring about change.

Especially in the current COVID-19 situation, pets are being abandoned, every day. These animals need your help more than ever. 

The Things You should Know About Adopting

Here are some of the common myth-busters and benefits of adopting a pet, that I have summarised:

  • The Purebred myth: Just because you are adopting doesn’t mean you won’t get a purebred. In fact, you can also get high-quality mixed breed dogs at shelter homes.
  • Inducted to a new community of pet-lovers: Once you adopt, you build a relationship with the shelter homes, and one day you might end up volunteering for the good cause!
  • Be an example: Adopting is a gesture of goodwill. By doing this, you can set an example for your kids and family about how to make a difference in the world.
  • Many breeders have a sort of puppy or kitten mill, where they are kept in constricted spaces. By adopting, you can put an end to such practice of keeping these happy paws in confined, unhealthy spaces.
  • Health woes: You do not need to fret about more impoverished health conditions of strays compared to pets bought from stores. Before you bring the adopted pet home, spaying/neutering, vaccinations, and other medical tests are done to ensure health safety.
  • Behavior: Animals living in shelter homes, although coming from adverse conditions, in many instances, cope well with other fellow beings since they stay in the company.
  • Money factor: When you buy a pet, you end up spending hundreds of dollars, but with adoption, it’s free, and you get the same kind, loving furry friend on your porch!
  • Please give them a lifetime home: That does not need any description, and the feeling involved in doing it is priceless.

Final Words

The decision to have a pet is a huge step in itself. It is almost like bringing a kid home. You have to care, nurture, and provide for them continually. No doubt, it is a big responsibility as well. But if you have taken that decision, why not move a step further? 

There are so many shelter homes and rescue animals around the world. So, why not adopt and give life a new meaning, for a furry fellow waiting out there, with its bright, honest eyes filled with love and gratitude?

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5 Things to Do to Prepare for the Next Phase in Your Life

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5 Things to Do to Prepare for the Next Phase in Your Life

Are you experiencing new things and are overwhelmed because of the said things? Taking a step into the unknown future can be scary, but don’t we work for this very moment? While getting out of your comfort zone and exploring things can be frightening, they are exactly what helps you achieve great success.

If you are entering a new phase in life, doesn’t matter personally or professionally, you need to prepare yourself for new responsibilities and an entirely different schedule. It can also make you start feeling a different way and look at yourself in a completely new light. Here are some things you can do to prepare yourself for the next phase of your life.

1. Ace Your Managerial Skills

5 Things to Do to Prepare for the Next Phase in Your Life

When you enter new phases of your life, you often have to learn and hone new skills. Managerial skill is something that will come in use in both personal and professional life. Usually, when you level up in your professional life, you have to start interacting more with your colleagues and employees. Higher the post, the more important people skills become.

You have to learn to get work done, even from the most difficult person, without losing your calm or creating a hostile environment. Finding the delicate balance of establishing your authority and also being welcoming can be tricky. But, this is one of those skills that make sure that you get the best out of people.

People shouldn’t be afraid to come to you with suggestions, issues, ideas, or in general. But, they shouldn’t also start taking your authority for granted. You need to be firm when getting work done, and warm when you are receiving the said work. Making people feel valued and their work appreciated is as important as pointing out things that can make their work better.

2. Create and Maintain a Work-Life Balance

You should probably start to evaluate your life before to commit to more responsibilities. Ask yourself these things –

  • Am I have three proper meals?
  • Am I getting enough sleep?
  • Am I doing things that I love?
  • Is there something I wish I had more time for?
  • Am I spending enough time with my loved ones?
  • Do I have a life other than my work?

If the answer to any of these things is “No,” then you might want to cut back on the hours you spend working or learn to manage time better. Having a healthy work-life balance or work-life integration is really important to succeed truly.

Having a better personal life and not a good professional life will eventually affect your personal life as well. Having a great work-life and no personal life will start mentally draining you. Having a balance is really important to set yourself up for success.

3. Make “Never Giving Up” Your Mantra

5 Things to Do to Prepare for the Next Phase in Your Life

When nothing seems to be going in our favor, it is easy to just give up. But, for moving forward in life, this attitude just doesn’t cut it. I know, it is easier to blame the situation, the whatever, than to keep going. There will always be thousands of reasons to give up, but what matters is that one reason to not – which is moving forward in life!

When you take up new challenges, it is always going to seem difficult at the start. It might not even be that difficult in real life, but it something different and unfamiliar, and those facts are enough to scare us and make us start doubting ourselves.

Look at any issues that crop up like a bend in the road rather than a dead end. Giving up on your dreams means giving up on everything you have worked on up until that point. It is as good as giving up on yourself. When you give up on yourself, who do you think is going to take a chance on you?

4. Don’t Let Others Dull Your Shine

We often care a lot about what others think about our business when it is none of their business. People who have time to talk about others anyway are the kind you should not be associating with. People who are working on their own goals do not have the time to care about what other people are doing, let alone pass comments about it.

“Let your light shine today, and let your personality blossom, too. You don’t have to be a people-pleaser, just a people-lover.”

– Beth Moore

When you try something big or something different, people will generally have a negative attitude toward it. We often try to deviate from anything that isn’t familiar or risky, and this attitude carries when looking at others. You do not need people doubting you when you yourself are unsure about where you are going to end up.

People are going to talk; there’s nothing you can do about it. And honestly, answering them or even acknowledging their comments achieves nothing. Ignoring what other people have to say about your plans or dreams is one of the smartest moves you can make.

5. Follow Your Passion

5 Things to Do to Prepare for the Next Phase in Your Life

When you follow your passion, all the things I talked about earlier become easier. Because whatever you are doing is something that every fiber of your being is invested in, so it becomes easier to invest everything in the success of the said plan.

When you take time to analyze the situation, you can tap into the best version of yourself, and it becomes easier to find an answer that you have been searching for. You can do what you like the most – going for walks, doing yoga, meditation, etc. If you have many voices in your head that tell you what to do, slowing down will help you listen to yourself. 

So, slowing down is always the first step when you feel clueless or overwhelmed. Having many little hobbies can feel overwhelming at first, but it’s one of the best ways to find what you love most and do what you really want to do. Start doing lots of things – new hobbies, new interests, etc. It’s always better to try something new than to have no options at all. 

Final Thoughts

Whenever you enter new phases in life, it is important to close the last chapter on a positive note and carry on with as many lessons as possible. Moving forward has to be proportional to increasing your skillset and value.

There’s no point in having an empty title and learn nothing new because it won’t help you much moving forward. Find yourself, find your purpose, and try to balance things out.

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7 Reasons to Leave Your Comfort Zone

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7 Reasons to Leave Your Comfort Zone

Everyone is afraid of leaving their comfort zone because your comfort zone is more comfortable, right? What we don’t realize is that we learn things when we find courage enough to step out of our comfort zones.

“The hardest thing to do is leaving your comfort zone. But you have to let go of the life you’re familiar with and take the risk to live the life you dream about.”

-T. Arigo

When you dream of something big, you will often have to do things that make you uncomfortable, that scare you. It doesn’t mean that those things are bad, chances are that they won’t be as difficult as you think. Some level of fear and anxiety is important for us to keep moving forward, to make progress, doing things that take us out of our comfort zone is a way to have those feelings propelling us forwards.

If things haven’t been working for you up until now, then you have nothing to lose by trying something new because to achieve something new, you have to do something that you have never done before. Take the first step, dip your toe in the sea, if you still feel scared out of your minds then you can always return to your safe space.

As long as you keep trying to get out there, you are good to go. Here are some reasons to take the plunge.

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

-Neale Donald Walsch

1. You Won’t Regret Missing Out on a Potential Opportunity

When you refuse to leave your comfort zone, there will be a lot of things you can miss. You cannot keep doing the same things you do right now and expect to achieve bigger dreams. If you have a big vision, then you will have to constantly be stepping out of your comfort zone.

Being a little uncomfortable means you are going to be learning a few new things. For example, if you have always been scared of public speaking then putting your ideas out there in meetings and presentations will be difficult. You will have to step out of your comfort zone, be a little uncomfortable, deal with a bit of anxiety, but eventually, you will be comfortable enough to speak up among people who hold power.

2. It Will Help Boost Your Confidence

7 Reasons to Leave Your Comfort Zone

When you get out of your comfort zone, you will learn new things, you will get new experiences, and eventually, you will put a new skill to your name. Having a new skill will boost your confidence because now you aren’t scared of doing something like you earlier were.

For the same example as above, now that you have learned to step out there and speak up, it will give you the confidence to put out your ideas and views in front of people and you will eventually get to take on bigger projects.

3. You Will Feel Self-Fulfilled

People who are stuck in their comfort zones often have a weight of the feeling of underachievement over whatever work they do. The regret that they couldn’t do something because it made them uncomfortable makes them feel that they are not quite living their life to the fullest.

When you step out of your comfort zone, you grow, find the momentum to move forward, find a better level of productivity – all of these things lead you to a sense of self-fulfillment, this gives you a feeling of satisfaction.

4. You Will Become More Productive

7 Reasons to Leave Your Comfort Zone

When you learn to be okay with the discomfort that comes in the beginning – when you do something that makes you step out of your comfort zone – you will eventually become more productive.

Getting out there requires you to be more focused, to develop self-confidence, and to believe in yourself – these things push you to do things you never thought were possible. When you learn to make yourself be heard even with the nagging discomfort of speaking in the public, you will eventually increase your productivity because you can get started on whatever it is that you wanted to discuss instead of waiting for someone else to come up with it or you to find someone alone or you to wait to develop enough confidence to broach the subject.

5. You Will Learn People Don’t Care a Lot

One of the reasons that people are scared of doing something is the thought of people judging them. Everyone has a lot on their plates, yes, they might look your way but nobody has the time to keep thinking about you. If they do, then you anyway shouldn’t be caring about their opinion.

You have to convince yourself to not let other people’s opinions sway your decisions. When you start doing things because they are going to help you grow, you will learn that what others say doesn’t hold much weight. You will learn to eliminate fear.

6. You Will Find New Things That You Love

7 Reasons to Leave Your Comfort Zone

You found your current passion by doing something you didn’t always do. Unless you try new things, you will never find things you enjoy that get your mind whirring. To learn more about ourselves, we need to keep testing our limits.

By stepping out, we are really connecting with our inner selves more. Because the more we go exploring, the more we are going to find out.

7. You Will Start Finding it Easier

As you start putting yourself out there more and more, it will start getting easier. You gain self-confidence and eliminate fear by venturing out of your comfort zone and these things that help you grow as a person will make the process easier.

The next time you have to do something uncomfortable to achieve something, it won’t be as difficult as the first time because now you know that the sense of achievement that follows the fear is totally worth doing it.

Final Thoughts

“The biggest rewards in life are found outside your comfort zone. Live with it. Fear and risk are prerequisites if you want to enjoy a life of success and adventure.”

-Jack Canfield

The best things in life often happen just out of your comfort zone. It’s ok to be scared of new things. Being scared means you’re about to do something really brave and new, which will give you a new experience and will teach you a thing or two.

If you want to change, your life to change, then you have to be willing to be uncomfortable because by leaving your comfort zone behind, by taking a leap of faith, by risking something – you will find out who you are truly capable of. Unless you face something difficult, you will never know your truest potential.

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