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7 Things to do When You Feel Burned Out

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7 Things to do When You Feel Burned Out

Feeling burned out is getting as common as getting tired. Self-care has taken a back seat for a lot of people. As more and more people dream of becoming entrepreneurs, more and more cases of mental burn-out are surfacing. In trying to achieve the million-dollar dream, people not only forget about friends and families but also about themselves.

Even if you are super busy, it is very important to take out time for self-care. Apart from that, there are small changes you can make or things you can do in work and in life to relax and reduce the workload. It will help you get back on track with chasing your dreams without the stress.

“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.”

– Karl Lagerfeld

1. Automate what you can

Using technology takes off a huge amount of load off your shoulders. Small businesses need to understand the value of incorporating tech in their setup. It boosts the overall workflow of the establishment. Employees get more time to do actual work than do mundane, repetitive tasks. Most software and tools are a one-time investment. Learn what works the best for your company and implement it.

2. Outsource if possible

Outsourcing something that needs a lot of your time and attention is a good idea. Something like bookkeeping should be outsourced so that you can better manage your business. If you have the budget, this can take the extra burden off you. It’s okay if you can’t afford a full-time employee, there are many people who work on a freelance or contract basis. You can lessen your load by assign work to them from time to time.

3. Give yourself a pep talk

7 Things to do When You Feel Burned Out

“There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by my self.”

– Brian Andreas

How easily do we shush our dear ones down when they speak negatively about themselves. You need to do the same for yourself too. You might think it to be a futile task, and it might not seem like a big thing. But, talking to yourself in a positive manner every morning can change your whole stance. Instead of berating yourself, speak words of encouragement to yourself. Look in the mirror and remind yourself how strong you are, and how far you have come.

4. Make time for friends and family

As we move forward in our careers, more often than not, our relationships start taking a back seat. It is important to take a step back and evaluate the quality of our relationships. When you work hard, all you want to do is come home and fall asleep. You have to find time to make plans with friends and family. When times are tough, their support is what will help you stay afloat. If you are too tired, plan for something at home. The aim is to spend quality time with people who matter.

5. Indulge in a creative hobby

7 Things to do When You Feel Burned Out

Having a hobby is one of the most lucrative ways for your brain to relax. If your hobby is on the creative side then helps stimulate your brain more. It gives you a break from the business and logic that you deal with on a day to day basis. If you don’t have a creative hobby already, pick up one. Draw, paint, learn to play an instrument, anything that you have wanted to learn or do.

6. Note down 3 best things that happened in the day

Before going to bed, it is important to reflect on how your day fared. This helps to stay positive and feel better about the day. This also teaches you how to find silver linings on gloomy days. Gratitude journals have been becoming more popular because of this reason. It helps you be thankful for the good things. It’s easy to overlook the good in all the bad, so it is important to be aware of the positivity around you. This also helps you then plan to improve your days.

7. Consider going to a therapist

Visiting a therapist is still accompanied by stigma by many. But, sometimes it is the best you can do to help yourself. It doesn’t matter if you work a 9-to-5 or run your own business; the nature of work has become stressful in general. You have to understand that not all days are the same, and you won’t have the same level of productivity daily. On the days when the drive isn’t there even a bit, consider taking the day off, and if it gets really bad, therapy is the way to go.

“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”

– Eleanor Brown

7 Things to do When You Feel Burned Out

As important it is to work hard and do everything you can to achieve your goals, it is equally important to keep yourself in the top shape to do so. Take a few moments out of your busy days daily, without fail. You will soon start noticing the positive change in your attitude towards things and your way of dealing with situations.

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Why Chasing Your Dreams is a Scary Concept and Why You Need to Do it Anyway

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Why Chasing Your Dreams is a Scary Concept and Why You Need to Do it Anyway

A few years ago, a steady 9-to-5 job used to be the dream. We were all taught to aim for that, to have a goal to get a good job that can provide you with financial stability. You pursued education with the end goal of getting a job. Took loans, studied hard, worked while you studied to get by, got a job, kept working to pay the debt off, then continued working on getting yourself by – maybe get a car, a house – this was all we knew.

Starting your own business was risky, few people attempted it. It took a lot more commitment than just working for someone else. All of us heard this phrase – “Build your own dreams, or else someone else will hire you to build theirs” – it hit us at times, but we didn’t dare to chase our dreams because we had responsibilities and also debts to pay off.

Why Chasing Your Dreams is a Scary Concept and Why You Need to Do it Anyway

So many people stayed in their jobs telling themselves that they will soon start out with their own venture, they just needed to pay their debt off and save some money as a financial cushion for themselves. But, the problem here is that once you get used to getting a stable paycheck, it becomes difficult to get on a road that is full of uncertainty and doesn’t even guarantee that you are going to get a paycheck in the initial few months.

Bill Gates, the wealthiest man in the world, was a college drop, who has about a million engineers working under him. Stories like his, people like him, are thrown around as examples a lot. What people often don’t see behind all the success is that success doesn’t come easy. You don’t achieve your goals just because you were lucky. 

You either have a goal for yourself, or it is someone else’s plan you’ll be a part of. If you don’t work on building your dream, then it is evident that someone will hire you to build theirs, and that is the reality – that is how the world works. Many people who have dreams other than their jobs, try to convince themselves that this is not the case, but this is precisely what is happening. Inaction will get you nowhere even if you have a bucket full of luck showered over you.

Why Chasing Your Dreams is a Scary Concept and Why You Need to Do it Anyway

You need to have a vision, and you need to have goals to turn your vision into reality. There is no point wearing yourself out in a 9-to-5 job, even if it pays you well enough if you are not happy. You need to find a job which inspires you, helps you grow. You need to focus on something that will add value to your life and vision. There is nothing wrong with helping other people to live their dream – there is a difference in willingly helping someone with their goals – but it should never be at the expense of your own vision.

We may be interested in a lot of things, and we may even do it according to our convenience. But commitment is what is required to pull ourselves out of the comfort zone. The struggle of getting out of the comfort zone is what tangles many people, and you have to detangle yourself, learn to fight the feeling, and do things anyway.

Now is the best time to start; it is as good as any. Leaving behind your unfulfilling life might seem like a distant dream, but it is on you to make it happen. To live the life of abundance, you need to start from the beginning – start from a dream. Before any idea can come true, it must first be imagined – the seed needs to be planted. 

Why Chasing Your Dreams is a Scary Concept and Why You Need to Do it Anyway

Take time to dream. Think about your goals. Consider how your skills can help you and what you are talented in, explore your thoughts. The thinking should go on till you get obsessed with it because liking what you do isn’t enough. Obsession is the main driving force that will make you get up and run toward your goal – that is the fuel that drives people who dare start a venture.

People who have achieved laurels in different fields – regardless of all the obstacles – irrespective of their injuries, disabilities, low-income conditions, marriage bonds, or conservative families issues – become examples to people who dare to walk a path different from others. This is your life. You and only you get to decide what you want to do with it; you can’t rely on someone else for your happiness – this is something that more people are starting to realize.

When you learn that you can’t blame someone else for your failures; you can’t hide behind people as a reason for your inaction – change starts to happen. Society will tell you all kinds of things, force you into decisions, but it’s YOU in the end who makes the decision. 

If you have a dream – a dream that excites you, scares you, makes you feel giddy, makes you feel alive – then you have a mission in life. Your mission is to make that dream come true. But if you are letting a bunch of excuses come in your way, you are sabotaging your dream. The only thing standing between you and your dream is ironically YOU.

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”

– Paulo Coelho

With the start of every new endeavour, there are many obstacles that you have to cross on the way. People are going to shun you, mock you, criticize you for many of your decisions because there is a cultural norm of following the same societal rules and it baffles people when you think outside the box. 

Society has always tried to make everyone fit into this one homogeneous frame. Those who manage to be like everyone else are appreciated – which is why we pretend. But sometimes, most times, people don’t fit in, they just can’t fit in no matter how much they try.

Why Chasing Your Dreams is a Scary Concept and Why You Need to Do it Anyway

People are scared, they don’t know any different, so they will scoff at your ideas, they will tell you it is not worth it, but you have to trust yourself and not be fooled by these judgemental people who try to make you doubt yourself. They might not always be coming from a wrong place, it might be out of concern, but taking risks is not something everyone can wrap their heads around.

People who decide to do something different from others are looked down upon. People, who feel the need to judge and criticize others, have one thing in common: in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down. They see you doing what they wish they dared to do – something to get out of a life they don’t want to be living. So they will attack you in every possible way until you feel miserable about the path you are walking on, about the need to do something for yourself. 

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

– Harriet Tubman

You have to stand firm. Don’t let anyone convince you that you aren’t capable enough to achieve success, to make your dreams come true. Believe that everything is possible, however impossible it may seem initially. The magic ingredient here is you believing in yourself when everyone refuses to believe you. The universe is continuously testing you to see if you are really serious about pursuing your dreams. Being stubborn, not quitting, and moving forward is what is needed to go after what you want.

“Don’t let small brains convince you that your dreams are too big.”

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Five Quotes That Teach Us About Fighting Our Battles

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Five Quotes That Teach Us About Fighting Our Battles

A few days ago, I talked about why learning to choose the battles you fight is important, and while researching for that article, I came upon some quotes that spoke to me on another level. There’s so much to learn from these sentences, and they are valuable pieces of advice that we often tweet about and then forget.

“Not all battles are worth fighting, this is something all of us know in theory, but seldom know how to practice it. There’s a thin line between not taking action because you are scared and not taking action because it is not worth it.”

This was my opening to the article, and honestly, this is something that most of us struggle with. It is so easy to get caught up in the wind and let the situations get the better of us.

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”

-Mahatma Gandhi

Let’s begin with this. When we talk about how people or things affect us, we don’t take into account that, it is us who give the power to things or people to make us feel with the intensity we do. You will have realized it at some point in your life, how something that got the better of your options doesn’t even make you bat an eye now. 

This is one of the tricks to reduce the impact bad situations have on us. Rationalize with yourself and tell yourself why it isn’t worth losing sleep over.

“I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig, you get dirty; and besides, the pig likes it.”

-George Bernard Shaw

“Some people love baiting other people to get a reaction out of them. These people are usually attention seekers; they like the attention being on them. For that, they will rope in anyone,” is what I said when I used this quote, and this is basically the essence of it. 

Some people are just toxic; we need to accept the fact and move on. There’s no point in talking about why they are the way they are or trying to change them because the only thing that is going to happen is you getting slathered with mud in this figurative sense, and also by them running their mouths.

“To fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting.”

-Sun Tzu

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“Part of the happiness of life consists not in fighting battles, but in avoiding them. A masterly retreat is in itself a victory.”

-Norman Vincent Peale

Taking the earlier point further, trying to avoid fights doesn’t make you a coward, it makes you smart. There’s no point in getting your hands dirty if you can get the work done without having to. Trying to find alternatives that work for everyone is a smart tactic that avoids a lot of animosity in personal as well as professional life. 

Most of the time, staying calm and folding under the weight of your anger, disappointment, broken expectations, and trust, etc. can help you more in your situation and help you diffuse it more efficiently. In the heat of the moment, it takes seconds to lose your calm and say something that can’t be repaired in years.

“To do anything truly worth doing, I must not stand back shivering and thinking of the cold and danger, but jump in with gusto and scramble through as well as I can.”

-Og Mandino

That being said, it is also easy to disguise your inability to take action as you being a bigger person and not trying to overreact when, in fact, you are actually scared. Whenever you try to get out of your comfort zone or are in a pickle, it is easy for our brain to come up with reasons to help us not feel that way and that can have a negative impact on you in the long run.

Always question why should you hold back and why should you jump in. Put yourself through a proper decision analysis if it is a big thing, especially if it is a big thing.

Final Thoughts

Life is filled with small daily fights sprinkled with the big ones we fight. It can get overwhelming, and our motto for life can get all muddled up in that. So, it is essential to take a breather and think about what you are putting your energy into and is it worth it.

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How to Break Free From Your Boring Life to Live Your Passion

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How to Break Free From Your Boring Life to Live Your Passion

You feel like your life needs a deeper meaning and you have no idea what you really want to do with it. What are you doing in your life – is a constant question that rules your mind.

This is a question people ask themselves when they want to do more, but don’t know which path to take. Maybe, you’ve spent years to get a degree and now you hate your work. Maybe, your job is emotionally draining and it causes anxiety or depression. Maybe, you feel exhausted all the time and you can’t find happiness anywhere.

Do you feel confused, stuck, or embarrassed by your lack of passion? Are you waiting for a sign that will help you find the next step? If your life is passing by, here are some important steps to take to have control over your life and find your passion.

1. Don’t Rush

How to Break Free From Your Boring Life to Live Your Passion

When you take time to analyze the situation, you can tap into the best version of yourself and it becomes easier to find an answer that you have been searching for. You can do what you like the most – going for walks, doing yoga, meditation, etc. If you have many voices in your head that tell you what to do, slowing down will help you listen to yourself. So, slowing down is always the first step when you feel clueless or overwhelmed.

2. Start Doing Things

Having many little hobbies can feel overwhelming at first but it’s one of the best ways to find what you love most and do what you really want to do. Start doing lots of things. New hobbies, new interests, etc. It’s always better to try something new than to have no options at all. 

You can start by making a list of things you’re interested in, pick several of them to focus on and then start being active. Find some classes to see whether you like them and want to pursue further. If they aren’t for you, scratch them off and pick something else. If you end up having a new interest and wanting to do more of it, you’re on the right track.

3. Be Honest With Yourself

How to Break Free From Your Boring Life to Live Your Passion

Just because you’ve spent years on your degree and are now qualified for a certain job, it doesn’t mean you will love it. You can change your mind any time you want and you should always pursue the career that you love. Where does your path lead?

Most likely, you want to enjoy what you’re doing. Most of us place limits on ourselves after we’ve spent too much time, effort, and money in school and move into adult life; limits such as sticking with jobs for low pay, with terrible bosses, and in cities that we don’t want to live in.

The secret to getting yourself out of this situation is to stop doing what you don’t like and start taking little steps towards what you love. You shouldn’t be defined by one thing if you don’t want it. For example, you might love traveling and writing and being passionate about yoga and healthy living. Try to get involved in different activities and allow yourself to have many interests.

Even if you don’t have enough time to combine all of them into your routine, you can set priorities and do what you feel like doing.

4. Focus on the Fun

Too often we set high expectations for ourselves and it makes us anxious and depressed. We create lengthy to-do lists and work on little details instead of what’s more important. What makes you smile? If you could have all the money in the world, what would you do? These questions can help you find the right path.

5. Let Your Fears Go

How to Break Free From Your Boring Life to Live Your Passion

It can be very tempting to tell yourself that you will follow your passion when you have more money, more experience, etc., but the truth is, that time will never come. These are just excuses that prevent you from following your dreams. It’s only when you recognize your fears and stop letting them hold you back that you will start moving forward.

6. Be Still

It can sound counterintuitive, but many of us get confused with many thoughts, emotions, and feelings that make us so frustrated we just can’t figure it out. It gets especially obvious if you have a ‘checklist’ that tells you what you’re supposed to be and by when.

The truth us, some of us need more time to find our true passion. Sometimes, all you need to do is to be still and do nothing. Use this time to realize what you’re passionate about and maybe you’ll see it’s right in front of you. 

7. Not Everyone May Support You

How to Break Free From Your Boring Life to Live Your Passion

Of course, it’s always nice to get advice from someone who loves you but most people aren’t qualified to offer their counsel. Besides, there will always be someone who doesn’t agree with your decisions and plans.

Some people will never understand you and that’s fine. You don’t need them to understand anyway. Don’t waste time trying to rationalize your dreams. Instead, surround yourself with people who help you move forward while you’re busy discovering your passion.

8. Contribute to Your Goals

The last thing we’re going to talk about is contribution. It will make you feel fulfilled, accomplished, and happy. You can contribute just a little bit or spend hours working towards your goals, just do it. If you have lots of spare time, you can volunteer. If you have extra money, you can donate. If you don’t have extra time and money, you can just be helpful.

For example, you can just help a person whose hands are full to open a door or hold the elevator door open. You can smile at people you don’t know. If you try to make someone’s life better, your life will get better too because when you do little acts of kindness, you feel good as well.

Contribution will make you feel like your life has a meaning and you’re living with passion. People who don’t have a passion don’t act this way. 

Final Thoughts

You don’t have to change your life completely to find your passion and purpose. Follow these suggestions and take baby steps and it will come naturally to you. The most difficult part is taking the first couple of steps, after that, it becomes easier. You don’t need to do this for anyone else, you need to do this for YOU. When you make changes to make your life better, you will also add more to the lives of people in your life.

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